I would really like a 3rd baby

alwaystryyourbest

hi we went on the have a third child even though parner only wanted two,never regreted it so we went on to have a 4th and 5th and now i still wanted another one so trying for 6th,,good luck,,

Brallaqueen

how are you going to come to a joint decision on this? it's a yes or no question, not something you can go halvsies on. I hate to say it but if your OH is deadset against a baby, and you are all for it...

1more?

ive just had baby no 3 and i must say its fab i love it, dd is 13 and ds is 8 dd2 is 10wks and its changed the dynamics of our family for the better
and hey if there has got to be a few times in life they have to wait for what they want, i hope it will make them better people for it and they have a lil sis who will loves them lots it better than a few toys they will forget about in 6 months time
but i agree your dh needs to agree too
my dh is asking for more already he wants his own rugby team :rotfl:its me who doesnt know

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Emmamumof2 wrote: »

We are a married couple with 2 children, 6 years married, son who is just 5 (conceived 4 months after marriage) and 2 year daughter - both planned.
I really really would like a 3rd - we live in a house big enough and can afford to have a 3rd, thankfully, but my hubby isnt as keen as me - he says now our daughter is almost out of nappies that in a year or so we will have more dependence and he doesnt really want to consider a 3rd.
Whilst I consider what he is saying carefully I also think he is being a little short sighted -
Has anyone else had a 3rd when their other hasnt been as keen and got any words of wisdom - bad or good - perhaps I need a reality check not him but also perhaps he is being a little bit quick to say definitely no - I would never consider going behind his back, I want it to be a joyous realisation if we did decide to go for it and have another, but if we dont I would also like to think that would be a joint decision rather than me feeling like he just says no - if you know what I mean.
I hate when people say, but you have one of each why would you want another!? My decision would not be any different if I had two boys or two girls, my desire is based purely upon wanting another little one -
Help!

You'd need to change your user id to 'Emmamumof3' as well, hard work. :rotfl::A

graemecarter

I wonder if you would expect your OH to be so accommodating if the situation was reversed? If he was desperate for one more, and you didn't want another, would it be fair to say that you were being unreasonable or short-sighted?

If you two cannot sort it out and you feel resentful, you need to get a counsellor involved and nip this in the bud.

Kate78

peachyprice wrote: »

Do you want another baby or do you want another child?

Or another teenager

Emmamumof2

graemecarter wrote: »

I wonder if you would expect your OH to be so accommodating if the situation was reversed? If he was desperate for one more, and you didn't want another, would it be fair to say that you were being unreasonable or short-sighted?

If you two cannot sort it out and you feel resentful, you need to get a counsellor involved and nip this in the bud.

I dont feel there was any suggestion that Id feel resentful - this is definitely never something that would come between us and never be a reason we would seek counselling. If he doesnt ever feel that he'd like to extend the family by one more it is never something I would push on him and never something I'd keep harping on about (for want of a better expression)!

However, it is interesting to hear so many perspectives on it so thank you all for that. It is something that will either happen and all of us will be happy about it or it wont and we will, as a family, be very happy as we are.

Either way I have no concerns that our family unit will ever be an unhappy one or divided.

Emmamumof2

Kate78 wrote: »

Or another teenager

Having not crossed that bridge yet, perhaps not LOL! Although I sometimes think my 5 year old thinks he's 13!!!

Errata

Emmamumof2 wrote: »

Thank you for all of your comments - I really do want it to be a joint decision and I know it would change a lot of lifestyle choices such as holidays and cars etc, and that time would be spread more thinly!
I certainly do want it to be something we would be doing together and I dont necessarily want it to happen immediately - Id be more than happy to wait until next year.
I think I will keep the communication open on it and hope that we reach a decision that ultimately we are both happy with and that will be right for our family unit. Although it doesnt help when everyone around you seems to be having babies at the moment! Probably a good reason why I am broody!!

You know, that's a pretty poor reason for bringing a child into the world. Have a child because both you and your OH want one, not because your hormones are haywire.

Threebabes

Our no 3 was a surprise. I was devastated as was my husband. Shes nearly 7 now and shes the light of our life (as well as our older two lol). House, car etc, you can get round all that. Mind when she was 6 weeks old DH booked in for the snip. To think that we mightnt have had her in our life is awful.