advice needed

worrieddadandpartner

prettykitty wrote: »

I agree that professional help is required here - however it would be a shame if people are discouraged to use the forums as an initial sounding board, for fear of being labelled "chavs". I can't see how that is helpful.

i have no one to turn too im left all alone now


and i think its unfair to call me a chav you ahve no idea of my situation and why were on beenefits

RAS

worrieddadandpartner wrote: »

the son has lived with maternal grandparents since he was 1 year old it was them who reported us to social services as my partner neglected the baby (she'd spend all day in bed feeling sorry for herself while baby was left with no food etc iwas working at the time and did try to look aft ther baby when i wasnt working the grandparents said they'd look after him one day (as my partner was rushed into hospital) then when i went to get him back they'd got social services and the police round to stop me they were then granted a residence order

so its not as easy as me just walking out with my son other wise i would

Hi

How much contact do you have with your son?

worrieddadandpartner wrote: »

im presuming they don't as when i rang this morning to speak to her they asked me if i knew where she was before giving me a load of horrible abuse

If neither you or her parents know where she is, is her key worker able to tell you if they know where she is. Explain that you need to report her as a misssing person if they do not know her whereabouts.

And ignore Proc - this is not personal just crap thrown at anyone who happens to be around.

JimmyTheWig

What do you want to happen, OP? It's difficult to know what to suggest when we don't know the ideal end goal.

vanilla

Does she take meds and has she been taking them? Did she take any with her.
Does her key worker know where she is? You need to find this out now.
If they don't, phone the police and tell key worker that is what you are doing. If she is unwell you don't know what could happen or what she might do.

Now that you are not working you NEED to get your own place and fight for your child. Your GF needs help but you can't help her at the minute but you can be there for your child.

viktory

jamespir wrote: »

you seem very bitter ? the op obviously just need somone to talk to

I totally disagree. The OP needs way more than someone to talk to. His partner is seriously mentally ill, he has no money, relies on benefits claimed in his partner's name, his child has been removed from his care and his partner is missing.

He needs way more than anyone on an internet forum can offer.

romylou_2

Hey

Just caught up with events.

I agree with some of the postings, make your son and yourself a priority. Your partner needs professional medical help which neither you nor her parents can give her.

I suspect that she has not been taking her medication as prescibed, which has resulted in her behaviour.

I also believe that she is NOT missing and that she is staying with someone on orders not to tell where she is. It seems that she is craving attention (this could be a symptom of her medical issues). She wants to cause you emotional hurt.

Start looking for alternative accomodation and once you have some time away from her (to clear your head) you should be able to start getting your life in order.... seeking work and taking steps to get your son back. It sounds that her and her family are unstable. Do you want your son to be brought up in this environment???

Good Luck.

worrieddadandpartner

RAS wrote: »

Hi

How much contact do you have with your son?



If neither you or her parents know where she is, is her key worker able to tell you if they know where she is. Explain that you need to report her as a misssing person if they do not know her whereabouts.

And ignore Proc - this is not personal just crap thrown at anyone who happens to be around.

every weekend i see my son


i think the key worker knows where she is but she cant tell me due to data protection

sassyblue

worrieddadandpartner wrote: »

the son has lived with maternal grandparents since he was 1 year old it was them who reported us to social services as my partner neglected the baby (she'd spend all day in bed feeling sorry for herself while baby was left with no food etc iwas working at the time and did try to look aft ther baby when i wasnt working the grandparents said they'd look after him one day (as my partner was rushed into hospital) then when i went to get him back they'd got social services and the police round to stop me they were then granted a residence order

so its not as easy as me just walking out with my son other wise i would

No. YOU helped neglect your son. :mad: If you were living at home with them both then you must have known your child was suffering if that's what your partner was doing. You tried to help when you weren't working but went to work.. you must have known what would happen when you left?

Social services don't take children away from their parents without very good reason.

OMG, this has angered me. Abuse from her parents for no reason and a violent argument but you didn't throw things?? No way, we haven't got the full story here....

RAS

sassyblue wrote: »

No. YOU helped neglect your son. :mad: If you were living at home with them both then you must have known your child was suffering if that's what your partner was doing. You tried to help when you weren't working but went to work.. you must have known what would happen when you left?

Social services don't take children away from their parents without very good reason.

OMG, this has angered me. Abuse from her parents for no reason and a violent argument but you didn't throw things?? No way, we haven't got the full story here....

How about you calm down?

And stop making all sorts of assumptions without a basis.

sassyblue

RAS wrote: »

How about you calm down? :rotfl:

And stop making all sorts of assumptions without a basis.

Yes, child abuse is nothing to get annoyed over is it?

Point out the 'assumptions' then.....