advice needed

Lara44

Proc that post is uncalled for and 'with all due respect' you know nothing about the OP and have no right to call him a chav.

Proc

Lara44 wrote: »

Proc that post is uncalled for and 'with all due respect' you know nothing about the OP and have no right to call him a chav.

I think my advice is fair.

Here we have a family of people that live on benefits, can't look after their own children, yet they're able enough to have scraps and throw stuff around. They waste police time with their over-aggressive arguments, then find it well to disappear from the face off the earth without apparently even telling your own child where you are.

I'm sorry, but it doesn't matter what way you dress it up, these are traits of chavs.

This isn't a simple case of "try talking to her that will fix everything". This is a case of "fix your life" because right now it's being completely wasted.

I stand by my advice.

Leave this woman. Sort out your CV. PM me and I'll look over the CV for you. Get a job, and stand on your own two feet. Remember, any di*k can be a dad, but it takes a man to be a father. Take some responsibility for your child. Get your own place to live.

pigpen

LOL @ proc.. that was probably a fair description.. maybe they are not chavs but their behaviour is as if they are. While I agree with the 'leave and make the child the priority' without knowing these people you cannot really label them chavs.. that is un-PC and upsets people... did make me laugh though.. and I woke the baby.. oops!!

And before the Op comes back and says 'but I love her and I don't want to leave'.. I would like to pose the rhetorical question.. so do you not love your son enough to look after him?!

We have seen this million times over in vaguely differing circumstances.

sassyblue

Hiya, not really much advice from me other than l hope you get to sort this out soon, (I also think your partners parents know exactly where she is).

If you get back together your partner really should have your name on everything then you won't need to worry about having to leave your home in future, if she is reluctant to do this then maybe your relationship doesn't have much future?

Her parents cannot stop you seeing your son. I don't understand why they are horrible to you if you really do care for your partner, if she is unable to look after your child why aren't you?

It's probably hard to do this but really not beyond anyones capabilities.... maybe get a job and a place for you and your son to live, let your partner live alone and take things from there?

worrieddadandpartner

Proc wrote: »

It's funny.

I've seen so many threads with people complaining about the "chavs next door". You know, the ones who are always screaming, fighting, having police over, don't have jobs etc.

With all due respect, you are the chavs next door.

Get a job, move out of the flat, become a father of your child and leave your missus.

im no chav

worrieddadandpartner

pigpen wrote: »

LOL @ proc.. that was probably a fair description.. maybe they are not chavs but their behaviour is as if they are. While I agree with the 'leave and make the child the priority' without knowing these people you cannot really label them chavs.. that is un-PC and upsets people... did make me laugh though.. and I woke the baby.. oops!!

And before the Op comes back and says 'but I love her and I don't want to leave'.. I would like to pose the rhetorical question.. so do you not love your son enough to look after him?!

We have seen this million times over in vaguely differing circumstances.

the son has lived with maternal grandparents since he was 1 year old it was them who reported us to social services as my partner neglected the baby (she'd spend all day in bed feeling sorry for herself while baby was left with no food etc iwas working at the time and did try to look aft ther baby when i wasnt working the grandparents said they'd look after him one day (as my partner was rushed into hospital) then when i went to get him back they'd got social services and the police round to stop me they were then granted a residence order

so its not as easy as me just walking out with my son other wise i would

worrieddadandpartner

sassyblue wrote: »

Hiya, not really much advice from me other than l hope you get to sort this out soon, (I also think your partners parents know exactly where she is).

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im presuming they don't as when i rang this morning to speak to her they asked me if i knew where she was before giving me a load of horrible abuse

Proc

Unfortunately it sounds like your problems can't be sorted on a public forum.

You need professional help. You need to change your life.

jamespir

Proc wrote: »

Unfortunately it sounds like your problems can't be sorted on a public forum.

You need professional help. You need to change your life.

you seem very bitter ? the op obviously just need somone to talk to

prettykitty

I agree that professional help is required here - however it would be a shame if people are discouraged to use the forums as an initial sounding board, for fear of being labelled "chavs". I can't see how that is helpful.