Weekly Flylady Thread 13th September 2010

onestep

hugs to Hellyboo
and I'm with PenPen - toots, you have far too much on your list, please at least postpone most of it.

Am only managing dot-to-dotting here.. going round in circles I think. Ugh. Hope tomorrow will be more constructive!

Plan for tonight is dinner (HM lasagne from the freezer), glass of wine, finish tidying the snug, and then a book, & an early night. I know how to live life to the full, don't I? :cool:

onestep

pigpen

Hellyboo wrote: »

ARGH I effing hate Health Visitors. I took Jake to be weighed and ask them about his sore mouth, HV said it might be thrush and asked me if I breastfeed because if I do I need treating for it too. I said I don't directly breastfeed but express milk for him twice a day and the rest of the time he gets formula. Immediately I got the worst dirty look EVER and she said, she actually said not to bother. She said as soon as I gave him formula I "ruined" his immunity and there was no point expressing if only two of his feeds were going to be breast milk. This is without knowing any of our history, I've never seen her before so she doesn't know about me, my pregnancy, the birth or afterwards. I was getting quite tearful by this point, so tried explaining to her that I'm diabetic, he was premature and had to be tube fed, and he had low blood sugars so had to be fed a measured amount every two hours and he was physically too weak to breastfeed - even now with bottles I have to really work at getting him to suck. Her exact words were "yes yes, I'm sure it was very difficult." really dismissively, and then just said to make an appointment with the doctor for the thrush. Luckily a friend was there to calm me down or I would have smacked the b***h. So I stormed out (well as best I could with two kids in tow) in floods of tears, and now I have to go back in 40 mins to see the doctor.

And now I feel awful. I feel like I'm useless for not even be able to feed my own baby. I thought I was doing the best by him but obviously not.

Sorry, needed to rant. Need to sort my face out now before I have to go back.

The most important thing is the first few feeds being colostrum as this puts a magic coating on the gut lining which protects against all sorts of nasties.

After that any breastmilk is a bonus.. each feed contains antibodies to everything you have had.. even a spoonful of breastmilk a day might contain just enough ab's to protect against that cold you just had or measles or whatever .. I would get some info about mixed feeding and the benefits of it and take her it in.. stupid stupid woman needs educating!!

midwives have NO training about breastfeeding unless they undertake it themselves.. mechanics yes, a whole 1.5 hours!!, actually feeding nothing!! It is offered as part of their annual training sessions but usually these are unpaid or clash with shifts or cannot fit in with the compulsory sessions (I did ask about this when I had moomin)

HV's have little more. They have a few hours while training and are informed of the latest directives but have next to nothing in the way of benefits if you deviate from the exclusive.

And complain. She is giving out inaccurate advice and her attitude stinks!!

Valli

onestep wrote: »

Plan for tonight is dinner (HM lasagne from the freezer), glass of wine, finish tidying the snug, and then a book, & an early night. I know how to live life to the full, don't I? :cool:

onestep

sounds absolutely blissful actually...

boddy

New windows finished and all the upstairs cleaned. Clean cutains up and bed remade. Dust sheets in the washer and takeaway deluttered. Im shattered.

Triker

All the fives and verty purty they are too.:D

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vanilla

DD just back from her club thing, so all the running about is starting up again.
1 load of clothes for ebay washed and second load in. Place isn't looking to bad today.
Think i'll get kids to bed, have a bath and head to bed early.

toochoosey

Hellyboo...Thats what I did with DD(and she was only drinking 1 or 2oz's each feed to start)....2 expressed feeds and the rest formula.......she will be 8 later in the year and there is nothing wrong with her (only that she is constantly eating now!!!!!)

I would complain like others have said...(((hugs)))

Have been to SW and gained a pound:(

chilling now with chicken wings in the oven.....waiting for DD to come back from DSD's house.......(she will be eating my chicken then!!!!)

serena

Hellyboo - what a cow. Pigpen's right about the training. I was actively involved with an NCT campaign locally about training when we discovered that the baby feeding sessions for midwives and Health Visitors in the local college (now Uni)was delivered by representatives of the baby milk manufacturers. I think we can safely say that it was not without bias.:cool:

I have a day off tomorrow!!! I'm getting ridiculaously excited about cleaning the bathroom...:D;)

I haven't read back through the thread yet, but especially big hugs for toots as you sound like you may need them, and for Lady-Liberty as well.

cyclingyorkie

onestep wrote: »

hugs to Hellyboo
and I'm with PenPen - toots, you have far too much on your list, please at least postpone most of it.

Am only managing dot-to-dotting here.. going round in circles I think. Ugh. Hope tomorrow will be more constructive!

Plan for tonight is dinner (HM lasagne from the freezer), glass of wine, finish tidying the snug, and then a book, & an early night. I know how to live life to the full, don't I? :cool:

onestep

sounds good! i'd really enjoy that!

Hellyboo

Thank you everyone, what a sh!tty day I've had, but I've calmed down now. When I went back to the doctors of course they were running behind and bub was SCREAMING the place down. I was standing in the foyer trying to rock him so he didn't deafen everyone ink the waiting room when my midwife who looked after me when I was pregnant came out. All she did was ask if I was ok and I burst into tears, so she took Jake from me, took me to her office and I told her what happened. Before I'd even told her who it was she knew who I was talking about and was really angry. She tried to get Jake breastfeeding once we were home and she told me she knew he'd never be a breast feeder. She said my boobs are too big and he'd have to work really hard and it would have been so stressful for both of us, especially as I already have a toddler and OH went back to work the day after bub and I came back from the hospital. He did get colostrum in his feeding tube. I really wish I could have breast fed him, it would have saved a lot of faff with formula, colic drops, sterilising and the damn breast pump. But anyway the midwife calmed me down, said she would "have a word" with the HV in question and told me how to complain if I want to. And she told me to carry on exactly as I was doing because Jake is perfect The little fatty weighs 13lbs!

Anyway, thanks again everyone, this thread is a lifeline. Will get flying again tomorrow when DS1 is at school. Need to blitz LR and upstairs. Need to (ironically) sterilise bottles and feed bub before I can go to bed but I can feel my eyes closing...

Night night

Hx