Weekly Flylady Thread 13th September 2010

Hellyboo

ARGH I effing hate Health Visitors. I took Jake to be weighed and ask them about his sore mouth, HV said it might be thrush and asked me if I breastfeed because if I do I need treating for it too. I said I don't directly breastfeed but express milk for him twice a day and the rest of the time he gets formula. Immediately I got the worst dirty look EVER and she said, she actually said not to bother. She said as soon as I gave him formula I "ruined" his immunity and there was no point expressing if only two of his feeds were going to be breast milk. This is without knowing any of our history, I've never seen her before so she doesn't know about me, my pregnancy, the birth or afterwards. I was getting quite tearful by this point, so tried explaining to her that I'm diabetic, he was premature and had to be tube fed, and he had low blood sugars so had to be fed a measured amount every two hours and he was physically too weak to breastfeed - even now with bottles I have to really work at getting him to suck. Her exact words were "yes yes, I'm sure it was very difficult." really dismissively, and then just said to make an appointment with the doctor for the thrush. Luckily a friend was there to calm me down or I would have smacked the b***h. So I stormed out (well as best I could with two kids in tow) in floods of tears, and now I have to go back in 40 mins to see the doctor.

And now I feel awful. I feel like I'm useless for not even be able to feed my own baby. I thought I was doing the best by him but obviously not.

Sorry, needed to rant. Need to sort my face out now before I have to go back.

LameWolf

Hellyboo hey, I know s0d all about babies, but it's obvious to me that you did the very best for Jake, given all the circumstances.

Ignore the woman; she doesn't know you, she clearly didn't take in what you said, and has her own little script all rehearsed, regardless of what her victim's circumstances are.

Chin up, mate, you're doing a grand job.:o

sammr85

Hellyboo wrote: »

ARGH I effing hate Health Visitors. I took Jake to be weighed and ask them about his sore mouth, HV said it might be thrush and asked me if I breastfeed because if I do I need treating for it too. I said I don't directly breastfeed but express milk for him twice a day and the rest of the time he gets formula. Immediately I got the worst dirty look EVER and she said, she actually said not to bother. She said as soon as I gave him formula I "ruined" his immunity and there was no point expressing if only two of his feeds were going to be breast milk. This is without knowing any of our history, I've never seen her before so she doesn't know about me, my pregnancy, the birth or afterwards. I was getting quite tearful by this point, so tried explaining to her that I'm diabetic, he was premature and had to be tube fed, and he had low blood sugars so had to be fed a measured amount every two hours and he was physically too weak to breastfeed - even now with bottles I have to really work at getting him to suck. Her exact words were "yes yes, I'm sure it was very difficult." really dismissively, and then just said to make an appointment with the doctor for the thrush. Luckily a friend was there to calm me down or I would have smacked the b***h. So I stormed out (well as best I could with two kids in tow) in floods of tears, and now I have to go back in 40 mins to see the doctor.

And now I feel awful. I feel like I'm useless for not even be able to feed my own baby. I thought I was doing the best by him but obviously not.

Sorry, needed to rant. Need to sort my face out now before I have to go back.

Any breastmilk is better than no breastmilk hun, all u r doing is topping up his feeds with formula which I was always told was fine. I breastfed all 3 of my children, I tried ever so hard with DD2 but in the end she wasnt putting on weight and needed topping up with formula, she then started gaining weight and went straight back onto her birth centile! U r doing a fab job, don't let her get u down. I personally would contact someone about her as her talking to u like that is completely out of order and extremely unproffesional. She is supposed to help u, not make u feel like that! Love and hugs for u hun xxx

TY Toots for that explanation of spoons, makes sense now

I will go fetch my list in a min, not much to come off of it though

Monday ~ Kitchen and Dining area
Level Two
Wipe fronts of appliances and units
Level Three
Clean out the oven thoroughly.. - Done Hob
Quick s&s of the fridge

Extras

1. Wipe skirtings
2. [STRIKE]wash windows [/STRIKE]

Tuesday - Master bedroom & landing
Level One
Strip and wash sheets
Vacuum and turn mattress before replacing clean sheets

Extras

1. Collect all the dirty laundry from upstairs!

Wednesday ~ Living/family areas.
Level One
vacuum sofas.. wipe away any sticky grubby marks
Level Two
[STRIKE]shine any glass -Need to do patio doors[/STRIKE]
Level Three
[STRIKE]Sort out ALL the paperwork strewn about.. put it all in a heap and work through it! - Shredded all needed in LR just need to sort pile in kitchen[/STRIKE]

Extras

1. HHI
2. Sort a pile of stuff you have been ignoring for an age

Thursday - Bathroom and Study/Pc Area
Level One
Level Two
[STRIKE]Clean baths[/STRIKE]/shower, DS Toilet DS sink
Dust PC and desk
Wipe keyboard, house phone, sockets, switches and mouse etc
Level Three
Wash your bathroom mats
Wipe down tiles in bathroom
Clean shower screen/curtain if you have one/if required


Extras

• Wipe the paintwork in these rooms
• Clean the radiators in these rooms
• [STRIKE]Wash the windows in these rooms.. and shine the mirrors[/STRIKE]
• HHI... a bit more gone!

Friday- those frightening kids rooms and spare rooms
Level One
Spend at least half an hour doing something for yourself!!!!! paint your nails, make an appointment to have your hair done, a lovely soak in the bath.. whatever you feel like!! I'm having my nails done this morning as usual
Level Two
Dusting.. all those shelves and flat fluffy surfaces!! Don’t forget the light shade and curtain pole!!!
Strip beds, turn and vacuum mattresses!! and replace with fresh linen .. check if duvets need freshening up too!!
Level Three
[STRIKE]Clean 2 windows Will do all windows in the house[/STRIKE]


Extras

1. Wipe the radiators, skirtings and window & door frames!
2. End of week fling!! grab a binbag and fill it with stuff to leave the house.. rubbish or charity shop or to donate to a friend!

Right now time to do dinner, will do some cleaning while in the kitchen too. I think OH is going to walk the dog. I just got a bit shirty with him, no idea y or y I suddenly feel "low" now I feel rubbish for being like that with him Hopefully going to do some more cross stitch for the xmas cards tonight too and possibly the ironing!

365days

Helly boo

I remember when my DS was tiny. My HV was fab! I couldn't breastfeed (hideous emergency c section/infection/very ill) anyway i worried about it and she was very reassuring. In fact she often told mums who were struggling with breastfeeding 'Better to have a bottle fed baby than a screaming hungry breast feeding (or not) baby thrown at a wall!! She was oldskool and whilst that comment was over the top I saw what she meant.

On a visit to the clinic I saw another HV. My son had oral thrush and she said 'Well you can't be sterilising the bottles properly' I was devastated. They just don't realise how personally you can take such comments.

Anyway my son now 9 is a strapping lad and whatever I did, he survived!!!!

Don't let the !!!!!!s get you down.

xx_Jo_xx

Hellyboo - stuff her!! Go back and tell her xx_Jo_xx didnt breast feed at all!!! See what shes got to say about that! WITCH!

It is absolutely NOTHING to do with anyone else what you feed or dont feed your baby! He is mighty fine and you are doing a grand job! Breastfeeding is a personal choice, some people choose to and cant anyway and some people choose to do some by breatsfeeding and some by other means..... How is any of that ANY of her BLEEDING BUSINESS???????

Ignore the stupid lady with no brains and hug your babies..... xxx

365days

Kitchen
Wipe table and replace cloth if needed
Clear and wipe window sills
Clean out the oven thoroughly..

1. Sort all those unpaired socks!!
2. Wipe skirtings
3. wash windows
4. Thoroughly clean out 1 cupboard

Wednesday ~ Living/family areas.
Level One

Level Two
Dust and deweb.. shine any glass/mirrors/electricals
Level Three
Vacuum under furniture you can move safely
Check windows and doors for draughts and sort them before winter bites your bum!
Sort out ALL the paperwork strewn about.. put it all in a heap and work through it!






Extras

1. Sort out one drawer/cupboard
2. Sort a pile of stuff you have been ignoring for an age!
3. Tidy a bookcase

Thursday - Bathroom and Study/Pc Area
Level One
Level Two
Level Three





Extras

• Wipe the paintwork in these rooms
• Clean the radiators in these rooms
• HHI... a bit more gone!

Friday- those frightening kids rooms and spare rooms
Level One
Clear away anything that isn't in it's place, clothes, toys, books etc
Spend at least half an hour doing something for yourself!!!!! paint your nails, make an appointment to have your hair done, a lovely soak in the bath.. whatever you feel like!! I'm having my nails done this morning as usual
Level Two
Vacuum the floor
Dusting.. all those shelves and flat fluffy surfaces!! Don’t forget the light shade and curtain pole!!!
Strip beds, turn and vacuum mattresses!! and replace with fresh linen .. check if duvets need freshening up too!!
Level Three
Clean 2 windows
Sort through a cupboard/chest of drawers and get the clothes out which are no longer wearable, too small or out of season!
Wipe any sticky marks off walls and doors





Extras

1. Wipe the radiators, skirtings and window & door frames!
2. Sort through one box or toys.. if you have no children find a box of junk.. is there anything that needs to go?
3. End of week fling!! grab a binbag and fill it with stuff to leave the house.. rubbish or charity shop or to donate to a friend!

Not a huge lot done yet as I have changed my working hours to Work longer Mon-Thurs so I can have Fridays off. Hope to do one of the HHI tonight and then back to list tomorrow.

tiredanddesperate

Triker wrote: »

Can I ask all flyladies to send a collective surge of energy, light and goodwill to our Toots. She is always considerate, kind and inclusive and I think needs a little boost at the mo. Toots hun, given what you deal with you just just moan away sweetheart, swear, shout, have a right proper tantrum, get it out of your system any which way you can, if you can.
If you can't well thats ok too, just keep on getting up and doing your day,THAT in itself is a victory.:kisses3:


.

:T:T:T:T:T:T:T:T:T

Wot she said!! In buckets!!

Notso

toochoosey

Daily routines/todailies
laundry, F S S
swish and swipe kitchen F S S
bathroom, W T F S S
ironing, F S S
making beds, F S S
vacuuming high traffic areas, F S S
making meals F S S
HHE M W T F S S
HH in the attic M T W T F S S

Night-time routines
preparing clothes for the next day, T F S
swish & swipes of the kitchen T F S
tidying the living room T F S

Monday ~ Kitchen and Dining area
Level One
Sweep and mop the floor
Extras

1. Wipe skirtings
2. wash windows
3. Thoroughly clean out 1 cupboard

Tuesday - Master bedroom & landing
Level Three
Sort that present cupboard.. incorporate what you can to birthday/christmas list
Extras

1. Tidy floor of the wardrobe!
2. Binbag dance

Wednesday ~ Living/family areas.
Level Two
Binbag dance
Level Three
Sort out ALL the paperwork strewn about.. put it all in a heap and work through it!
Extras

1. Sort out one drawer/cupboard
2. Sort a pile of stuff you have been ignoring for an age!

Thursday - Bathroom and Study/Pc Area
Level One
Clean floors in these rooms
Level Two
Clean baths/shower, toilets, don't forget under the rim! and sinks
Clear any clutter from desk
Level Three
Wash your bathroom mats, nets, clean blind/curtains etc whatever needs cleaning.
Clean shower screen/curtain if you have one/if required

Extras

• Wipe the paintwork in these rooms
• Clean the radiators in these rooms
• Wash the windows in these rooms.. and shine the mirrors
• Do any toothbrushes/sponges etc need replacing?

Friday- those frightening kids rooms and spare rooms
Level One
Clear away anything that isn't in it's place, clothes, toys, books etc
Spend at least half an hour doing something for yourself!!!!! paint your nails, make an appointment to have your hair done, a lovely soak in the bath.. whatever you feel like!! I'm having my nails done this morning as usual
Level Two
Dusting.. all those shelves and flat fluffy surfaces!! Don’t forget the light shade and curtain pole!!!
Level Three
Clean 2 windows
Wipe any sticky marks off walls and doors

Extras

1. Wash a set of curtains, nets, duvet or throw
2. Wipe the radiators, skirtings and window & door frames!
3. Sort through one box or toys.. if you have no children find a box of junk.. is there anything that needs to go?
4. End of week fling!! grab a binbag and fill it with stuff to leave the house.. rubbish or charity shop or to donate to a friend!

Penelope_Penguin

Evening :beer: DD and I had a fab time at Loughborough, and she screen-printed a t-shirt Great art department, but as we live in a tiny place she's worried it may not be exciting enough for her Think she's going to apply and see what happens :T

Mahooosive hugs for Toots :A You are very special to this thread, so please take care of yourself and cross off 75% of your list

Off to find my list and see what I can get done between finishing this cup of tea and going to choir :j

Penelope_Penguin

Monday ~ Kitchen and Dining area
Level One ~ done
Level Two
Wipe fronts of appliances and units
Descale the kettle!
[STRIKE]Wipe table and replace cloth if needed
[/STRIKE]Level Three
[STRIKE]Clear and wipe window sills
[/STRIKE]Clean out the oven thoroughly..
Quick s&s of the fridge


Extras

1. Wipe skirtings
2. wash windows
3. Thoroughly clean out 1 cupboard

Tuesday - Master bedroom & landing
Level One
Strip and wash sheets
Vacuum and turn mattress before replacing clean sheets
Level Two
15 minutes floordrobe clearance
[STRIKE]Change duvet for winter one if you need to.[/STRIKE]Vacuum floors
Level Three
Sort stuff from the top of the wardrobe.. don't hurt yourself just if you can!!
[STRIKE]Sort that present cupboard.. incorporate what you can to birthday/christmas list
[/STRIKE]Sort through a box of junk fom the landing




Extras

1. Tidy floor of the wardrobe!
2. Binbag dance
3. Sort under bed!
4. Collect all the dirty laundry from upstairs!

Wednesday ~ Living/family areas.
Level One ~ done
Level Two
Dust and deweb.. shine any glass/mirrors/electricals
[STRIKE]Hang winter curtains and stock up on coal/oil etc for stoves if needed[/STRIKE][STRIKE]
Binbag dance[/STRIKE]
Level Three
Vacuum under furniture you can move safely
Check windows and doors for draughts and sort them before winter bites your bum!
Sort out ALL the paperwork strewn about.. put it all in a heap and work through it!

Extras

1. Sort out one drawer/cupboard
2. Sort a pile of stuff you have been ignoring for an age!
3. Tidy a bookcase

Thursday - Bathroom and Study/Pc Area
Level One
Clean floors in these rooms
fling open the windows
Level Two
Clean baths/shower, toilets, don't forget under the rim! and sinks
Clear any clutter from desk
Dust PC and desk and wipe off those cup rings!!
Wipe keyboard, house phone, sockets, switches and mouse etc
Level Three
Wash your bathroom mats, nets, clean blind/curtains etc whatever needs cleaning.
Wipe down tiles in bathroom.. and delete 10 dead/unused links from your favourites!
[STRIKE]Clean shower screen/curtain if you have one/if required
Collect any stray laundry from upstairs. [/STRIKE]
Extras

• Wipe the paintwork in these rooms
• Clean the radiators in these rooms
• Wash the windows in these rooms.. and shine the mirrors
• HHI... a bit more gone!
• Do any toothbrushes/sponges etc need replacing?

Friday- those frightening kids rooms and spare rooms
Level One
Clear away anything that isn't in it's place, clothes, toys, books etc
Spend at least half an hour doing something for yourself!!!!! paint your nails, make an appointment to have your hair done, a lovely soak in the bath.. whatever you feel like!! I'm having my nails done this morning as usual
Level Two
Vacuum the floor
Dusting.. all those shelves and flat fluffy surfaces!! Don’t forget the light shade and curtain pole!!!
Strip beds, turn and vacuum mattresses!! and replace with fresh linen .. check if duvets need freshening up too!!
Level Three
Clean 2 windows
Sort through a cupboard/chest of drawers and get the clothes out which are no longer wearable, too small or out of season!
Wipe any sticky marks off walls and doors
Extras

1. Wash a set of curtains, nets, duvet or throw
2. Wipe the radiators, skirtings and window & door frames!
3. Sort through one box or toys.. if you have no children find a box of junk.. is there anything that needs to go?
4. End of week fling!! grab a binbag and fill it with stuff to leave the house.. rubbish or charity shop or to donate to a friend!