Marriage, Sex & Contraceptive Woes! - Am I weird?

Nottoobadyet

If you arent getting what you need from a your local FP clinic, maybe consider going private for counselling with Marie Stopes or similar?

I went on the IUD (no hormones) but it didn’t work for me well, I’m now back on the pill. TBH I don’t think I would use condoms in a LTR, except for say when Im ill and the pill isnt working as well. I think it would cripple that aspect of my life, but it seems like lots of people out there are able to make it work so it must be doable.

The first combination pill I tried worked for me, but progesterone only didn’t at all so its definitely worth shopping around and trying a few.

Kt8

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

Yes but at least if a condom fails (splits/comes off) then you are at least able to take action to avoid unwanted pregnancy (i.e. MAP) - if you accidentially fall pregnant with one of the 'best ways' of contraception (in your opinion) it is not quite so easy to take action retrospectively because you are unlikely to be aware that your contraception has failed.

To be honest in my opinion it is a bit of a worry that you work in an industry that advises young people in sex education :eek:

if you read it says advise condoms and also pill. to double barrier.
its up to the person what they choose.
don't worry yourself too much, it's nhs advised so maybe your opinion is just different?

galvanizersbaby

Kt8 wrote: »

if you read it says advise condoms and also pill. to double barrier.
its up to the person what they choose.
don't worry yourself too much, it's nhs advised so maybe your opinion is just different?

QUOTE=Kt8;'lucky' in the respect that people who have used condoms for years have never had any issues or 'mistakes' but this doesnt happen for everyone so no offence it isnt a 'silly' comment its a realistic one. if you have problems with other contraceptions in this day and age there are ALOT of variations to at least try before condoms are the last resort only.

I just feel that in your post above you give your message about using condoms and them being a last resort only is rather a negative one to give to young people whether in a long term relationship (which lets face it can be a matter of a few months with a teenager) or not in this day and age when we are bombarded with statistics about STI's/unwanted pregnancies in the younger age range.
I think fine to use condoms as a back up to another hormonal method of contraception but I would imagine there would be a tendency not to bother with the condom.
I think condoms like all other methods of contraception are reliable as any other method when used solely as long as they are used properly - I don't see why this would be such a last resort.

Anyway as you say maybe my opinion is different to NHS advice - it's just a shame STI's and unwanted pregnancies appear to be on the up

Make-it-3

There are lots of alternatives (including different brands of pill) that you could try with different rates of effectiveness.

Condoms if used correctly have a 4% failure rate and besides you pretty much know when they've failed and can use a morning after pill as a back up.

I used condoms for 7 years with my husband (and previously with other partners) with no mishaps at all. I'm sure a lot of the failures are fumbling teenagers. There's no reason for them to spoil the spontenaity of sex, keep them handy around the house or in your bag if you're doing anything away from home and incorporate them into foreplay.

ViolaLass

Plans_all_plans wrote: »

What about natural family planning? http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/natural-family-planning/Pages/Introduction.aspx My husband and I use this method.

Each to their own and all that, but it's thanks to this method that I was born!

I have the copper coil, works well for me. Having it put in was not fun and my next couple of periods were much heavier than usual but two years on, I'm very happy with it. I don't have to think about it, don't have to worry if I'm ill (was on the pill before) and when we start TTC in the next couple of years, the doc just needs to whip it out and I'll be ready without having to wait for hormones to settle.

Plans_all_plans

It's thanks to that method my sister and I were born too (but we were both planned). My parents used this method for over 30 years and only wanted 2 kids and only got 2 kids!

If you only have sex at the times of the month that youre unfertile, it's a pretty safe bet you wont get pregnant.

ViolaLass

Plans_all_plans wrote: »

It's thanks to that method my sister and I were born too (but we were both planned). My parents used this method for over 30 years and only wanted 2 kids and only got 2 kids!

If you only have sex at the times of the month that youre unfertile, it's a pretty safe bet you wont get pregnant.

Provided you're very careful and don't, for example, have a smear test, which apparently messed my mother's cycle up and resulted in me.

sammyjammy

Eager_Elephant wrote: »

I know you mentioned you do not want to put hormones in your body but have you considered the implant?

It is a similar hormone to the injection but as it lasts 3 years it is less concentrated.

It is fitted on the underside of your arm and you have to have a butterfly stitch as there is a little cut. Your arm will ache for a few days but after that you can forget all about it for 3 years.

I am now coming up to my 2nd change and really like it.

I used to have injections but forgot my appointments etc and I don't want any more children. so moved to implant.

Hope you manage to find some form of contraception which works for you.

EE

I agree but its not that way for everyone and because of the costs involved medical staff will be reluctant to remove it early. I've only had mine for a couple of months but it's been great, definitely no loss of sex drive or any other side effects like weight gain etc (in fact if weight gain was a serious side effect it would have got me for def!).

I didn't have to have a stitch either, just a small plaster for a couple of days.

Sarah_Joanne

Sorry if this has already been mentioned but the mini pill is supposed to have fewer effects as the regular pill.

I have been the same with unwanted effects of the pill so I am never going back on it, also the depo injection didn;t agree with me so not having that either.

I currently have an IUD fitted and have had no problems with it (although I shoud add that as I am breastfeeding AF hasn't been back since having my baby and having the coil fitted)

Stephb1986_2

I have the implant too no complications so far

Maybe have a look around on the net for some information about it

Steph xx