Marriage, Sex & Contraceptive Woes! - Am I weird?

Wilma33

Read Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It really is brill! It will give you the confidence to know when you are fertile. When you are fertile you can use condoms or abstain to be extra safe. When you are infertile you can use nothing or use condoms to be extra safe.

Wilma33

building_with_lego wrote: »

For far more detail get Dr Toni Weschler's book, Taking Charge of your Fertility. the website is tcoyf.com I'm a big fan, having reacted to the progesterone- only pill and Depo injection the way you did on the pill! You wouldn't need condoms all the time , only during your fertile phase.

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Counting_Pennies_2

I was on one type of pill happily before and after baby number 1, always very reliable.

After baby number 2 I had bad postnatal depression, and when I went back on the same pill my hormones were all over the place. I since discovered my hormones had changed during this pregnancy and that pill no longer suited me.

Each pill gives out different types of hormones.

If you try a progesterone pill you might find that is helpful to your hormones, it might be you have enough oestrogen to be getting on with in your body and don't need a combined pill. So a progesterone would suit you. There are also no additional dvt risks with this pill, which might be the case if you have put on the weight.

hth

Hardup_Hester

There are hormone free IUD's my daughter uses one, well not at the moment she doesn't as she's expecting her 3rd, planned baby, but she has used it & will do again.

sexki11en

You could also try something like the persona monitor. I use one at the moment for the opposite reason (i.e. trying for a baby) and I use it in conjunction with temperature taking as well as monitoring body changes through the month. After only 2 cycles it has become very accurate to my cycle (remember, i'm using other methods to cross reference)

All you do is pee on a stick 8 mornings a month (16 in the first cycle) and it tells you whether it's safe to have sex or not. You can abstain on "red" days or you could use condoms for those few days.

You have to use it correctly, but used correctly, it is 94% effective. You could use condoms as well as this method if you wanted...

SK x

Kate78

Six months into using NuvaRing, I am very happy with it. No-one else seems to have heard about it though!

It is a hormonal method which uses similar hormones to the pill, but with a lower dosage.

bylromarha

OH and I DO NOT want anymore kids, and we're happy using condoms.

I don't want to take the pill. OH refuses to get the snip, so condoms it is. Our 2nd was a happy accident - purely cos we got carried away in the moment and, having took over 2.5 years to conceive our 1st, we never thought that 1 non condom moment would result in conception.

I feel like such a let-down. Like, I am placing restrictions on our sex life, as if I am indirectly saying I don't want to be intimate with my OH. And there is nothing further from the truth.

Has OH said this to you or is this putting it on yourself? If it is you, then choose to not feel that way You aren't putting restrictions on anything. Condoms are a extremely reliable method of contraception.

CupOfChai

Go and speak to your GP or local family planning/GUM clinic. You can talk through your feelings and concerns on the matter, and the experience you have had with this pill and hopefully reach a solution you are happy and comfortable with. It might be an idea to approach your husband regarding this to see if he wants to go with you so you can discuss it with a medical professional together and come up with a solution that suits you both. There are so many options out there that it's definitely not just a choice between condoms, the pill you're taking that hasn't agreed with you, or a coil that you also fear may not agree with you.

Angelic

There's still not enough choice for women as it bolis down to condomw or having something inside you.
I would rely on condoms as they are quite reliable. If I had children then i'd make hubby get the snip

VK-2008

well me and dh have only used condoms at start of relationship - only downside was when we were out and about and well you know . . . lol

also due too to many worries i then went on pill, put on lots of weight would not go on that again and was only on that 3 months. came off that and back to condoms.

started trying for a child and nearly 4 years later still ttc. once we eventually get little bubba it will be back to condoms and then once we decide to finish family the dh will be getting the little snip snip lol