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Do a suprise visit home and ask him the worse he can say is no love but by the sound of it he wont it looks to me like he loves you very much.
I'm not that far from Liverpool if ever you want to meet up for a coffee and a chat? I'm not much older than you. My step sister was at halls in uni at John Moores she only lasted a few weeks and moved back home it does take a while to get use to things.
Sending you massive hugs
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Thanks
But if I move back my partner will think I'm a failure and a user won't he?
So you think a surprise home visit before he gets home or after? or maybe a meal?0 -
No course he won't he will be glad to see you he's probably sat at home right now missing you like mad but doesn't want to admit it to you because he knows you will come straight home.
I think you should go before he gets home cook him a meal and go for it
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Stephb1986 wrote: »No course he won't he will be glad to see you he's probably sat at home right now missing you like mad but doesn't want to admit it to you because he knows you will come straight home.
I think you should go before he gets home cook him a meal and go for it
Steph xx0 -
He will be missing you as much as your missing him no matter what.0
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Sounds like normal nerves plus fear as a result of horrible things in the past.
I am not being mean, but if you were to go back now, wouldn't you think that you had wasted a chance that he had helped you to take? Surely the best way to thank him is to take a deep breath and throw yourself into your studies and get the future you nearly had snatched away from you.
Once you have a degree, you will earn more than ever before, so he will benefit too, especially with a more confident, happier partnerproud of herself for working through the fear to get her life back.
You'll be fine in the end - there are plenty of people finding it as hard as you, but you haven't met them because they're in their rooms feeling like crying at the moment, thinking they're the only person in Uni that hates it. Once you all start poking your heads out, it'll get better for you.I could dream to wide extremes, I could do or die: I could yawn and be withdrawn and watch the world go by.Yup you are officially Rock n Roll0 -
He has already invested in your future by lending you money and not asking for it back etc.
How about you see uni as your way of investing in the future of your "coupledom" if you get your degree there's a better chance of a job with more money for the family pot, which is what it would be in years down the line....
try to see into the future and how good it will be if you can find the strength to get through a difficult week or two - your OH has made a good suggestion about visiting each other at weekends, so you've got a plan and just need to try it out for a while now...Member of the first Mortgage Free in 3 challenge, no.19
Balance 19th April '07 = minus £27,640
Balance 1st November '09 = mortgage paid off with £1903 left over. Title deeds are now ours.0 -
Im 21 and I'm near Liverpool Lime Street
You aren't in the nicest halls then.You would probably find the halls out near Allerton much cosier and friendlier. I wasn't sure if you were a mature student who maybe would have not had a lot in common with the others, but you're deal student age! Glad to hear you've found a friend and it's great that you have such a supportive partner. There's absolutely no need to rush into thinking about getting married yet though ( I was married at 21 myself, and even though I'm still married, I look back and wish we hadn't got married so young) He sounds like a good 'un, so he'll still be there when you're ready to move on from uni.0 -
How come borrowing this money has made me feel worthless? Its like I'm digging a hole for myself
Ive seen so many times this happen to other people
Plus I feel like I'm needed at home, He broke a finger today and my hearts telling me I need to be at home0
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