MSE Parents Club Part 14

aless02

Bruno - as someone who is well-qualified to speak about this situation *coughcough*, your OH is being completely unreasonable. Sometimes I feel like you are describing my own family/ILs (your mom sounds quite like my MIL!), so I understand even more the "pressure" she feels. However, it's ridiculous that she wouldn't want, heaven forbid, even a few hours for FIL/mom to at least have a meal together.

I'm sure you can blame pregnancy hormones somewhat, but at the end of the day we're all rational adults that do need to take responsibility for own behaviors. Maybe I'm being a bit harsh, but I don't subscribe to writing everything off to hormones - think it's slightly demeaning to women, actually.

So no real solution, because I think telling her she's being silly would just make things worse . You do very well having patience here, I'm sure she will come to her senses eventually. After all, shouldn't E be able to see his grandparents at the same time?

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and if anyone wants to disagree with me, fine, I won't be here to defend myself as we're off to church now!

In other news, the promised glorious weekend has made an appearance, hurrah!!

SugarSpun

I was trying to formulate some sort of tactful reply Bruno but I think Aless is absolutely right. It's fine to have unreasonable feelings, but even when feeling rotten you also have to remember the feelings of others, and it worries me that your mother is afraid your OH will stop her from seeing E altogether - is this a threat she's made in the past?

Weezl's suggestion of acknowledging her feelings is obviously a wonderful one, but your OH needs also to understand that her feelings are of equal importance as those of others. We give people leeway and make allowances from them when they're under stress like being in advanced pregnancy - but at the same time it sounds like her current behaviour could have a permanent effect on her relationship with your mother and it needs to not.

Also, I am enjoying being a Christmas guru if you need inspiration but I am now off out for lunch.

Hugs all round.

ticklepenny_2

SugarSpun wrote: »

I am now off out for lunch.

Lunch!! Am just getting my breakfast sorted..... having tried making 3 different types of brekkie for DD who has refused all 3 and has decided she just wants juice today (hoping its just teething).

cazscoob

morning all i have had very little sleep and have the worst stomach cramps ever? i feel this depo seems to cause this in the last month but its getting stronger, i need to sleep LOL!

Bruno you havent had it easy recently i honestly dont know how you do it sometimes! you always seem so calm and in control whereas i think i would blow up!
One of the things i learnt this week was how to put my points across better so tell her that you feel unhappy with the way she reacts whenever your mother is involved and it is only for one afternoon. Make sure she knows how pleased you will feel and how important this is to you. Or bribery LOL it always works

Sarah_Joanne

Crikey, Bruno that's a tough situation to be in. I don't have any advice, I'm afraid but I have to agree with Aless. I hope you can find a solution that works for everyone with no lasting ill effects.

My baby climbed up a step today! From he kitchen back up to the dining room. He was trying to get down it and as last time he attempted it he face-planed the kitchen floor I turned him around and shuffled him off backwards so he ended up stood on the floor leaning on the step. Of course then he didn't want to be in the kitchen so proceeded to climb back up lol

tiamai_d

I agree with Aless. Because I have been there acting like your OH. In the end I knew I was being unreasonable but had dug myself into that big of a hole that the stuborn !!!!! in me embraced it and demended that I was right and everyone else were being idiots. Mostly my DH then just DEMANDS that I attend and stop being a cow. It's about the only time he acts big and tough and I do as I'm told (since deep down I know I'm wrong but I wont ever admit it and that way he is the bad guy ha!).

Weezl, I'm loving my white hair

Caz, would a 10 and a 5yr old wear a tutu?

Som, I'll take some pics later tonight

Sami_Bee

Morning, i skim read, feel free to shower me in sympathy because I'm dying but I can die coz I'm in sole charge of 2 very cute but needy boys - bah!

I should probably call my mum to see if she can help but I'm :mad: at her! She fed Edgar all sorts if inappropriate things on friday despite me being very clear that he had a tummy upset! long story short there was vomit and little sleep all round, last night surprisingly MIL was well behaved but I was very freaked out by how weird I felt, upset that OH had a big strop over Ed screaming in the night and then woke at 2am ish to throw up _pale_ waaaaaah

tiamai_d

(((dodgy hugs Sami))) It's no much fun eh?

I would make your mum come over and help since she contributed to the general vomitting episodes. It's the least she can do.

elle_gee

[STRIKE]Morning[/STRIKE] Afternoon all

*hugs* to Bruno (I agree with Aless et al ), Sami (GWS!) and the early risers (any chance of a nap?) xxx

My turn to do the early shift today. Thankfully Rhys woke at 7am, came into our bed and dozed until 8.30am - OH didn't have it that easy yesterday! OH is now up and Rhys is pinching his breakfast

Plan for today is yet more tidying/sorting, plus sort out the bombsite that is the kitchen and do some washing - exciting, hey! :cool: OH's friend is in town to they're taking Rhys and her two boys (OH's godsons) to the seafront for the afternoon

Hope everyone has a good Sunday xx

Becles

ticklepenny wrote: »

Is this the kind of thing he is looking for?

and is this the one you were sprayed with?

Yes that's what he's looking for and yes that's the one I was sprayed with. Thanks for finding them xx

Hope you get things sorted out Bruno. It all sounds really complicated and I do hope your OH managed to get to the brunch today.

Hope you are ok Sami xx

Studying hard but having a major panic as it's just not sinking in