MSE Parents Club Part 14

aless02

3onitsway wrote: »

OH came in from work at half 4 this morning. When I spoke to him this afternoon, he told me he came in at half 4. I told him I knew, in my annoyed voice, and he said he thought he'd came in quietly.

It sounded like he bounced through the front door, then closed it with a hammer. Pogo'd into the bathroom, did a really loud wee, flushed, taps, door again. Went into the kitchen, filled the kettle loudly, put kettle on, bounced cups around for a while, etc etc.

Then at half five we woke up again when he bounced up the stairs, quietly :mad: climbed over the stairgate, fell into our room and slammed the door behind him, stripped off, fell into bed and farted.

I really need to get used to these shifts.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: I read this aloud to DH and he laughed as well. He can be a bit bumbling, but thankfully not this bad when stumbling in late at night!

Sarah_Joanne wrote: »

:drool: I need new boots.

Hope hubby makes some good money tonight

Is he a call girl or something? :rotfl::rotfl:

SS, I lost your post in multiquote, but :( for you. What everyone else said about getting help, definitely. Also, have you sat down for a long, serious chat with hubby about all this? He may laugh it off, but it sounds like it could really be affecting your marriage as well, and perhaps he needs to realise the seriousness of the situation. From how you've described him, that may be difficult to do, but if anyone would know how to make him stop p!ssing around, it would hopefully be you? :( It's not just Molly and parenting her, but sounds like he has a real lack of respect for you in other ways, too, and that's not a good way to live. I know you were just ranting somewhat, but there's usually a common thread in your rants since I've known you. *hugs*

got-it-spend-it

3onitsway wrote: »

I was wondering if you were about and how you manage with shifts! It must be really hard when you're working too.

When he's doing lates, I quite like doing the evenings on my own and seeing him when he gets in just after 10.
Normal days are ok because that's what we're used too with his old job.
Last weekend was a bit rubbish because he was working 7-5 Saturday and Sunday - so I felt a little bit on my own with three children , but he was here for bedtime and to eat with me.
This weekend he's on nights, so will sleep for most of the day. So I've seen him for about 2 hours today, same tomorrow, then i'll see him when he gets up on Sunday.

Also, with him not working Mon-Fri 9-5 like he used too, I usually have no idea what day it is!

Well OH has just rocked home, 2 hours late but it means we are already up. I flipping hate it when he's this late home as it means that instead of getting up at lunchtime he will now be asleep half the afternoon too, plus I am just bitter that I got woken up at 5!

ETA- I also find it hard when he is on nights and in bed all day as it really restricts what you can do at home. I can't get in the bedroom to tidy or put clothes away and I can't really hoover either.


I totally love the boots and I think they would be so useful......maybe I can do some ebaying to earn some extra pennies to buy them.

No idea what we are doing today but I really hope it involves a nice long nap very soon.

pinkpig08

My DH was called out last night and came in at 4.30 this morning. I was already awake cos it was freezing so I'd been downstairs to put the heating on. He came upstairs and - lo and behold - went in the spare bedroom! He doesn't even do that if he's got the mardies on!

ladybirdintheuk

Pingkpig maybe his ears were burning last night :rotfl:.

We have an exciting day planned - we are going to a <a href="http://www.twyfordwaterworks.co.uk/events.aspx">waterworks open day </a>. They have old busses going there for free, so DH is going to take Izzy on the bus, and we will meet them there. Then this afternoon we are going to my friends book luanch/book signing (which unfortunately means I will have to spend some money on her new book and get her to write in it for me :rotfl:). And there is a rumour that when she has finished writing her name on stuff we will be going to the pub for chips. No idea where nap time will fit in all this but never mind!

3onitsway

Mine must have came home quieter last night - well he didn't wake us up anyway.

Now to keep the house quiet until he gets up later. Not easy with three children, the youngest one currently playing her drum.

Does anyone else find the baddies on the Numberjacks a bit scarey? Especially the floating head one with orange bubble beard and green glasses.

ETA: He's The Puzzler, and I just won 27 SB's by searching for him. :T

Somnium

My Desktop is working again..for the mo!

Well despite T going to bed an hour later than normal last night, she woke up an hour early

Loving the boots I could do with a nice practicle pair for the winter, the only ones I have atm are either suede or have heels. I also need a raincoat as have been dashing about in the rain without one and getting rather damp! I have big winter coats but its not cold enough for them yet IYKWIM.

SS - I think one morning/afternoon to yourself is not being a failure, and if you can afford it then why not. Otherwise I think things are going to continue to get worse possibly.

Sami - thanks I dont have costco local so ebay is good to know Not that Im getting one atm anyhoo its far too early to be thinking of trikes for T and we deffinatley dont have the room. I've been eyeing up the Radio Flyer trikes as the fold down but are mucho money.

Thanks for those who commented on my work reducing my hourly rate, am going to wait for them to get back to me as they did say they had to check with the area manager first. But if they do say its being reduced I will fight it as I know they will still expect me to carry out the same duties.

Has anyone seen the Tesco half price toy sale? We got T this (she loves music and think it will be good when she is too mobile for the L&G) and the Fisher Price Stack and Surprise Blocks so thats her done for Xmas

emlou2009

We're another shift work household here, OH can work anywhere between five short shifts on five days a week and three long shifts, the times vary between nights, leaving at 6am and getting home at 9pm. I hate it when he does long days on my day off as its a long time to go with no reprieve, but generally we cope ok. I thought i'd hate the night shifts and at first was begging friends to come round and keep me company, but now I just love having a few hours to myself every now and then! We definitely got on better when he worked days and was around the house less though...

SugarSpun

cazscoob wrote: »

If i wrote this what would you say to me??? Having a day to myself is the best thing i have ever done, a few hours with no children and being able to get things done or wander around the shops chills me out and calms me down for their return.

Being a mum is hard work esp if you are working and not getting a full night sleep with a waking and feeding baby. Why not start with a few hours and then build it up to a day? do something nice for yourself one week and the house the next that way it will feel that you are achieving something and also having fun and time to yourself.

:Ton refund and new pram but we need cute pics with baby in new pram

I know you're right - I am a rampant control freak and do not want to leave my baby with a stranger while I do something for myself, but it is probably a good idea

Becles wrote: »

Awww SS *hugs*

Your life sounds very much like my hectic life and I'm going to give you the same advice that a very good friend of mine keeps telling me to do:

have a rest

Take care xx

:rotfl: what if I do if you do?

Thanks everyone, I know you're all absolutely right and have agreed to a talk at some point today. Aless, I'm a bit hair-trigger about not being respected because my father is very much a chauvinist horror and I grew up being constantly laughed at, but often it seems that what Husband says and what he does are at complete opposites (I have so much respect for you/embarrassing me in the street) and when I'm tired it gets harder to remember the good bits. And there are loads of good bits.

workinmummy

No Numberjacks on here, just more flipping golf. Thats 2 days on the run when OH has bounced up no problem to watch the stupid thing. Every other day mornings go along to a soundtrack of him grunting, moaning, sighing and mutterings of how tired he is.

But Alex slept 7 til 7 :T

Need to move my backside and get ready for joes swimming lesson. I think i'll wear my new boots.

Becles

3onitsway wrote: »

Sounds like me!

How well do you know her? Friends?, or you just know her through the boys?

Could you give her a friendly call and say "sooo, what's going on with our boys then?"

Not that well. Not someone I would pop round and have a cup of coffee with, but someone I'd pass the time of day with in the school yard if that makes sense!

Still thinking about call or FB.

tiamai_d wrote: »

I now have the music channel on and its that new Alexandra Burke one (start without you) and all the guys looks like I'd be too female for them.

James likes that one. Instead of singing "hey hey I'm like a beast" he thought she was singing "hey hey, I'm like obese" :rotfl:

It reminded me of Holiday by Boney M

3onitsway wrote: »

On shops. Does anyone still have Ethel Austin?

We do but I thought ours had gone a bit cheap and nasty and charva-ish I used to buy pretty cotton dresses and stuff in there for Charlotte but last time I was in, it was all slogan tops and nothing in pretty colours.

Off out to work this morning. Got two big stores to visit. I've got a sore throat and a headache and really can't be bothered to go