MSE Parents Club Part 14

tiamai_d

MFD, my boys were like that. It's not fun when you work and you end up feeling like ships in the night

You could ask the CM to limit his nap to 1hr to 1hr30mins. Or perhaps split it into two naps and that may help keep him going a bit longer.

Will he wake at 7.30pm at all for 30mins or an hour, maybe get some sneaky time?

Much as I'd like to say feed him some sweets, it won't work if he is just a sleepy head. Sorry hun, it's not fair and even though he will get older and grow out of it, you do miss your baby times.

SusanC_2

tiamai_d wrote: »

Susan, I read your letter. Whited out for those who don't want to read.

Thanks Tia. I think I will send it through PALS - I had a look at the local PALS information and it sounds like the best way to go based on that and what people on here have said.

tiamai_d

I complained after I had DS2. Got a letter back saying sorry but it wasn't our fault. But then I found out when having Amber that my complaint meant an investigation and a new system for monitoring women displaying the 'key signs' that I had. So it does work even if it takes a while. And they don't really get back to you about it.

Course I also complained about plagio and had leaflets printed up and given out (coz I got 1 with Amber and was dead chuffed).

Plus it means that they have to read it they have to look into it, they have to reply to you and explain things, they have to answer for how you were treated. Best of luck!

kitkat5566

My first day 'alone' with Theo went well; we had a bit of a disaster with me changing him and then him leaking through his clean nappy and onto our bedding LOL, so i changed him again and then we had a leaky poo nappy.. that wasnt pretty! So 3 clothes changes in one day my little man obviously didnt like what I was dressing him in!

We had a nice relaxing day, he slept the most he has slept during a day (i guess the less noise and distractions helped) as OH normally has the TV/ PS3 on and I didn't bother even putting the telly on. Even with the leaks he was still quite happy and content I managed to do quite a lot of washing but that was about it, it is definately hard getting on with things when your looking after a baby!

OH is going off again tomorrow, but my mum is going to pop over for a couple of hours as she wants to see Theo.

Thanks CAFC I do feel a bit like I am taking all your baby bits! Very sweet of you xx

aless02

kitkat, I recommend this book to everyone, as it's a lovely non-medical way to "beat" colic. He also has some YouTube videos so u ca research the methods for yourself before buying. What he says about babies makes lots of sense, expecially in this day and age when we rush to medicate for perfectly natural situations. The book is called The Happiest Baby on the Block.

My_Fathers_Daughter

Anybody after a walker/truck with bricks?

Stolen from grabbit so be quick!

jillie1974

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Anybody after a walker/truck with bricks?

Stolen from grabbit so be quick!

our local shop had some in the window they were selling at £32.99 reduced to £10!! we got one and its in the attic for christmas. they has a gorgeous Fire Engine one as well that you can fill up with toys and push along that his godfather gave him for his birthday

the truck comes with the bricks with letters and numbers. am madeup as we wanted one a while back but didnt get one.

My_Fathers_Daughter

Did you break the thread Jillie :rotfl:

r.mac_2

gill_81uk wrote: »

Quinny casters have been announced on facebook - is one of them september baby? One of the names is missing so it may not be.

whats a quinney caster?

kitkat5566 wrote: »

Thanks for your help everyone I dont know whether my method of feeding isn't helping.. as I express and bottlefeed and if he is still hungry I top him up with aptimal. My MW and HV seemed to think it was ok, I might get some of those TT anti colic bottles as I need to get some of the bigger size ones for when he is taking bigger feeds, I have got a boots voucher that I can use for them the reviews seem good. I will try the 'leg cycling' otherwise we have actually had a good day today, no tears.


I do think this is just something he has inherited off his windy father

My first day today alone with the baby

no - shouldn't really effect baby. Aptimil suited us better than sma, but thats not the case for everyone. Also, are you using anti-colic bottles. I know that CTN tommee tippee and Dr Brown are meant to be good options.

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

I have a problem and I have put off talking about it for ages so please be kind.

I can't keep my baby awake by 6.30pm he is hysterically tired and whilst I try my hardest to keep him busy and awake and going until 7pm this often (think practically every night) ends in tears and tantrums.

He sleeps from 7pm straight through to 6.30am at the earliest, quite often until 7am or beyond (it was 8.30am on Sunday). He naps every afternoon (for the CM) for 2-3 hours (or more) but I still can't keep him awake.

I keep telling myself it is a phase and I am lucky and it will pass in 6 weeks but it hasn't and it isn't getting any better. I try to pick him up from the CM as early as possible as often as I can but sometimes I simply can't get there until 6pm, which means I only get 30 mins with him before it all goes downhill.

Sorry to whinge on and I am sorry to those who have the opposite problem but has anyone with older ones gone through this who can tell me it is going to get better?

huge hugs. You must feel quite sad and down. I know our babies have had different sleep issues, but LO has a similar problem. My inlaws get annoyed that I won't 'let' Annabel stay up late when they are visiting. they don't understand that because I have implemented a routine for so long, she hasn't the ability to deviate from it yet. She flakes out at the alloted time and can't be coxed to stay up. SO much so she asked for bed :rotfl: (bet you didn't think I'd ever say that to you ) So you aren't alone.

You could consider a couple of things - if you were to get CM to give him two shorter sleeps, he might manage another 1/2 hour or so. Alternatively, could you work his bedtime back by 5 mins every few days or so?

I know work is a bit topsy turvey with you right now - any chance you could work earlier and DH do the drop offs so you can get away earlier to do the pick ups? my friend does this and says she prefers missing the breakfast mess, and getting the teatime mess instead!

or perhaps he's having a bit of a growth spurt and needs the extra sleep at the moment and will adjust again?

I hope you find something that works for you xxxx

3onitsway

MFD I have absolutely no advice but can offer you a hug. I remember going back to work full time in the September after J was born in May. Our childminder was ex OH's sister so she'd give him his tea then a bath and i'd pick him up after work in his pj's, take him home, give him his bottle and put him to bed. I absolutely hated that winter, dropping him off on a dark morning, and picking him up on a dark night. I lasted a year before deciding to go part time evenings - but that's not for everyone, and is no help, sorry!

It's a phase, he'll soon be wanting to stay up later and spend time with his Mummy. Then before you know it he'll be 13 and won't want to spend any time with you at all.



I have a funny story I wanted to share last night - but MSE was broken.
J's latest [STRIKE]annoying habit[/STRIKE] obsessive compulsion is to hide stuff, usually keys, combs, scissors, bits of elastic band and usually under the fridge freezer or in the understairs cupboard.

Yesterday morning, I took chicken breasts out of the freezer to defrost in a bowl on the side in the kitchen. Later on, I went out to start dinner and the chicken had vanished, just an empty bowl. I asked OH if he'd moved them - no. So we guessed J had hidden them. We tried all of his usual hiding places, searched his bedroom...nothing. Thought maybe he'd given them to the dog, if not we'd find them in a few days when they started to smell. :eek:

Half an hour later, the woman next door knocked on the door holding my chicken breasts, "Are these yours?". She'd found them in her back garden where he'd thrown them over the fence. :rotfl:

Well, we found it funny anyway.