MSE Parents Club Part 14

SusanC_2

3onitsway wrote: »

My immediate thoughts were 'thank god that's over with, now I need a cup of tea!'. I thought that's what everyone thought.

I felt very happy but also very angry that there were loads of people there in the room for no good reason when I had specified on my birth plan that I wanted the minimum people necessary to be present.

ETA: The first thing I thought was, "Oh, there's a baby crying."

Sami_Bee

weezl74 wrote: »

thank you for saying that!

nope, not with either of them. Another mum at baby group told me that the absence of it with number 2 was what told her she had PND, compared to the 'immensely overwhelming rush of love' with number one.

whilst that may be true for her I'm pretty sure its not a given, I didn't get it with either of mine, although it came quicker with Ed for the first few days - fortnight I could take or leave them tbh

3onitsway wrote: »

My immediate thoughts were 'thank god that's over with, now I need a cup of tea!'. I thought that's what everyone thought.


I shall go and have a look - hopefully they won't have amended the price.

:rotfl: I just wanted sleep after Ed, I'd been awake for about 21hrs once he popped out I was like "oh great now I can sleep!" :cool:

Thanks hun, I've checked mine but they don't have any. I won't hold my breath seeing as its been on HUKD but thought it was worth asking I'm not fussed if its the 'girls' purple one either xx

SugarSpun

weezl74 wrote: »

nope, not with either of them. Another mum at baby group told me that the absence of it with number 2 was what told her she had PND, compared to the 'immensely overwhelming rush of love' with number one.

Nope. I heard a baby crying and wanted to make sure she was ok, then I drifted until I got to recovery and they gave me a baby with a hat on and I was furious - How DARE they dress my baby without my permission!? No rush of love till later.

Sami_Bee

tarajayne wrote: »

Sami I hope the nursery are making that other boys parents aware of his behaviour?

Not as far as I know I'm not really sure what to do tbh I mean there has 'only' been 2 incidents and it might all be fine once H gets used to Chris being around? His key worker was off T&F last week and wasn't aware of any of this until yesterday when I told her, also they aren't supposed to name the child but Chris told me anyway The KW did say its not like H to be aggressive and I'm not blind to the fact Chris is no angel but I know when he is lying and he appears to be telling the truth when he says he did nothing to provoke H.

I have real trouble being objective about this because my first instinct as a 'victim' of bullying is to never take him back

Becles

kindofagilr wrote: »

Feel like a failure

All the emails I get updating me on what E should be doing upset me, he excels in some things, but cant do other things, like he cant sit up on his own which apparantly he should be able to do

Stop it now! The emails are just guidelines and it doesn't matter if they can't do what they should be doing. Charlotte was flat on her back until she decided to sit up at 10 months, yet James was walking at 9 months!

tarajayne wrote: »

Be careful with the toilet wipes, they do not flush well through the drains and cause alot of blockages. DH has seen alot of it. Shame though because they're much better than paper.

Charlotte has been told only one bum wipe at a time. She went into the toilet when Craig was using it, handed him a wipe and told him that is all he is allowed :rotfl:

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Anyone seen a properly waterproof winter coat I can get for Chris? all the ones i'm seeing are either michelin man esque and or just showerproof. tog24 have a nice one but its 2 separate jackets and is £30 was hoping to get one for <£20 really.

Have a look on the Regatta Outlet:
http://www.regattaoutlet.co.uk/

I got Charlotte one of those jackets where it is a waterproof and a fleece that zip together for £15 :money:

Had tears again when we dropped her off. Craig is working from home today, so he came with us, but that made her worse

ladybirdintheuk

Sami - Even if it is just these two incidents I would still expect the parents to be told. I got told when Izzy bit someone at nursery. They've not mentioned it since, so I would hope that is because she hasn't done it again, rather than they've not told me. She hasn't bitten me either since then, so I think that phase has passed - the new one is pushing everyone around. I keep telling her "no" in my best stern mummy voice, but she still does it.

It's only a phase, it's only a phase, it's only a phase......

SugarSpun

I have had my haircut and you will be pleased to know that I look like neither Hillary Clinton nor Pat Sharpe. It's not as finished and polished as it would have been from a real hairdresser who brought a hairdryer, but the cut is nice and for €20 as opposed to €70 for my last horrible job I am happy.

Great news PP! :j

tarajayne

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Not as far as I know I'm not really sure what to do tbh I mean there has 'only' been 2 incidents and it might all be fine once H gets used to Chris being around? His key worker was off T&F last week and wasn't aware of any of this until yesterday when I told her, also they aren't supposed to name the child but Chris told me anyway The KW did say its not like H to be aggressive and I'm not blind to the fact Chris is no angel but I know when he is lying and he appears to be telling the truth when he says he did nothing to provoke H.

I have real trouble being objective about this because my first instinct as a 'victim' of bullying is to never take him back

I don't think it's bullying, they're not old enough to do that, it's more an inappropiate reaction to something that's bothering him, which is still not accectable. If it was me I'd be encouraging them to play together, most of my kids fall-outs with others have been solved this way. It's really really hard when it gets physical though, the nursery should have someone sit with them whilst they play. That way if they see him go to hurt Chris it will be stopped, that way they should be able to see what is going on and deal with it. Avoiding the other little boy just means that if they meet in the toilets or something it could get worse. Erin has had some almighty fall-outs, she's ended up good friends with most of them, it's me that has the difficulty liking them.

angelfairy

hi everyone :wave:

popping out of lurking mode for a minute. hope to be joining you all again of an evening soon once everything has settled down.

please dont think i am leaving anyone out, but a few things that have popped back into my find from lurking ...

rmac - we have the same problem with LO and i am struggling to know what is best in terms of discipline re hitting or her not responding to being told what not to do

tara - bless your DD .. i know i had one of those tins, but with the move i can't remember where i put it. if i find it, i'll let you know, if you are of course interested.

weezl - THANK YOU so much for the response ... i have tried to PM you but it's been full (you popular lady )

sorry, my brain has stopped me there .... i am just here to ask for some good luck/best wishes vibes (selfishly) as tonight is the first night LO is going in her own room in her own bed (new cot bed) and my aim is to keep her in there all night.

thinking i will tell her as soon as i see her tonight what the plan is ..i.e. bath ... your new room ... your new bed .. you will have bottle in your bed etc, and take it from there. i will not be able to leave the room straight away, but i am toying with MFD's signing idea at the door (as it the foot of her cot) and then do the pick up put down sort of thing with no eye contact .. she responds to a sleep phrase (well in saying she responds, she knows what it means but doesn't always do it) so i will try that.

it's just that i am very tired with the move and everything that i know i'm going to struggle ... however, it's the time to break the habit ....

eek ...

Buttonmoons

I hate my hair It's dry and dull and thin and lifeless. The ends look ratty. It looks okay when I straighten it but I don't want to do it loads because A) It makes it look thinner and Won't help the overall improvement of said hairdew.

I shall go and get it trimmed LESS HAIR!

First thing I thought when they handed Keira to me was "Omg get this dead baby off me" Because she was a bit blue and lifeless, and then they cleared her throat after I started spazzing out and accidentally clobbered her with the gas and air mask. Ho hum....