MSE Parents Club Part 14

SusanC_2

Becles wrote: »

We have the Daddy is a soft touch thing sometimes. I noticed when we were in a shop the other day, Charlotte said "want a pick up" and I said "no you have legs, so use them." She asked Craig and he said no, then she started twisting so he picked her up. I would have refused point blank to pick her up regardless of the scene she caused, but he picked her up as he didn't want to be embarrassed if she had a tantrum.

I wonder if Daddies tend to be softer because they spend less time with the child and therefore don't have to deal with the consequences of inconsistency or being soft. Fortunately Alice's screaming fits when out usually start at the top of the garden path on the way home so I can just put my hand over her mouth and carry her in.

And :grouphug: for you and Charlotte - it must be a hard adjustment to make.

redstararnie76

Amelie's now really confident at going to school. When the teacher came to collect them to take them to their classroom for her afternoon session today, the parents started going with all the children, I paused to get Freddie out of his pushchair and Amelie said 'It's ok Mummy, you don't need to come with me, I'm fine.' I think I must have looked a bit crestfallen because she came back and said, 'but you can come with me and hold my hand if you need to?'
My 4 year old is looking after mummy obviously - she must think I need it!

weezl74

Hi please can I ask a question of the mummies, do any of you have experience of taking St John's Wort as a PND treatment?

Buttonmoons

Krystal - Aimee sounds like she has a ton of confidence and knows what to do That's great. You should be proud. That happened to me in primary and I didn't go up and ask, I was a meek wallflower though and the headteacher used to parole the dinner hall, let me remember the rules -
No-one was allowed to start eating until the last person had sat down (so if you were first, your food would be horrid and cold)
If you forgot to pick up cutlery, you were singled out one by one to go up and get it and then she's make sly insinuations about how dumb we must be to forget cutlery at age 8 - are we animals, do we use our fingers (ha ha ha ha ha!)
Oh yeah and then she made us all pray before we ate too, and if she saw anyone with their eyes open or head now bowed, we got put out the dinner hall until everyone had left, and THEN get to eat our lunch.

If that happened to Keira nowadays, i'd be plotting to murder her - DEATH BY WAFFLE BIATCH!

I was never a vandal but i utterly detested that woman, and me and another friend took great delight in carving "MRS CURRY STINKS" on the wood panel to the entrance to the dinner hall (we did it on a school disco night so she never knew who ) and the budget wouldn't pay for a new one but the whole school was minging and scabby, she used to sit in her office painting her nails, bet she bought harrods nail varnish out the budget.

/end rant.

Buttonmoons

Keira is off nursery AGAIN! She had me up until 5am this morning in floods of tears as her "foof" was hurting, I had a look and it looks all red and inflamed, so she must not be wiping herself properly after the loo - It's a hard one because she hates other people interfering with her whilst she's on the toilet, and that's good that she knows she can do it, but she is going to have to learn to actually get between the errr you know with the toilet paper, rather than a surface wipe.

A cool bath at 4am and some sudocream seemed to calm her down, and some calpol

SusanC_2

BeenieCat wrote: »

Aww Alice is so sweet Yeah definitely want to visit, although i wasn't sure if it was a good time and when it would be a good time, if that makes sense. So i was going to leave it a little while before i asked but didn't know what to say . I can't even predict how many more days this decor will take so it will be next week, but definitely :A

I thought maybe you weren't sure (because if it was the other way round I wouldn't be sure what/when to say/ask) which is why I thought I should mention it myself. Any time will be fine (as long as you tell me beforehand - if you just turned up on my doorstep without warning it'd probably throw me a bit as I like to be planned). I know everyone is different but I think for me it is better to see people and do "normal" things.

BeenieCat wrote: »

I hate the council sooooooooooo much. Thanks for sticking up for me, though they haven't even replied to my letter, how highly unprofessional. Cos that bint prob told her boss i was a mouthy chav and not to waste the paper on me. I'd like to prove her correct and smack her right in the jaw :A :rotfl:

That's really bad that they haven't replied directly to you. I haven't done my letter to your MP yet but when I do I'll mention that they never even replied to you. They're a complete joke.

Krystaltips

SusanC wrote: »

:T I would have cried. I remember crying one time in Reception because my shoes had got muddy at playtime. My teacher was so lovely - she took them and cleaned them for me.

Lol, me too probably... I haven't forgotten about the cardis btw... I just haven't braved the cupboard of doom yet... It is on the cards though seeing as the whole chest of drawers in our room has now disappeared under a pile of grown out of clothes... (for both children!)

Becles wrote: »

Had tears again when I dropped Charlotte off at nursery so I left her sitting on the teachers knee again. Apparantly she is fine the second I'm out of sight. She's mixing well and making friends and enjoy herself, it's just when I leave that she plays up. I feel awful leaving her crying

When I worked in a nursery it was always like this... A child would cry, the Mum would leave, the child would be fine the whole time... Sometimes they would start crying again as soon as Mum came to pick them up too, just to compound the guilt... At the time I remember thinking that the quicker Mum went the easier it would be for us to get on and the child to calm down... But then when I went through it with my own, even though I knew what the nursery staff were thinking, the Mummy part of me had to try and settle her before I left...

redstararnie76 wrote: »

Krystal - she sounds like an absolute credit to you - confident and calm, I'm not surprised that you were proud, I would be too!

Thank you

Although I do wonder if she's too confident when I'm having words with her and getting a mouthfull of lip back lol...

I left Caitlyn in a creche situation for the first time today... I did "cooking around the world" with Surestart (today was mexico and we made fajitas) Anyway, my second daughter never really seems fussed whether I'm there or not, she constantly wanders off during rhythm and rhyme when all the other toddlers sit nicely on knees and she can often be seen bolting for the doors during church services... As soon as we got to the creche she wandered off to play and paid me no attention when I said goodbye... But apparently she looked a little lost when she realised I wasn't there... And when I went to pick her up, I gave her a cuddle then popped her on the floor to fill in some forms (playgroup applications!) and she must have thought I'd left again because she suddenly was in hysterics crying by the door and when one of the staff bought her over to me she clung to me shouting at me...

It's nice to know she does appreciate my company after all

SusanC_2

redstararnie76 wrote: »

I think I must have looked a bit crestfallen because she came back and said, 'but you can come with me and hold my hand if you need to?'

:rotfl: How sweet is she!

redstararnie76

Buttonmoons wrote: »

Keira is off nursery AGAIN! She had me up until 5am this morning in floods of tears as her "foof" was hurting, I had a look and it looks all red and inflamed, so she must not be wiping herself properly after the loo - It's a hard one because she hates other people interfering with her whilst she's on the toilet, and that's good that she knows she can do it, but she is going to have to learn to actually get between the errr you know with the toilet paper, rather than a surface wipe.

A cool bath at 4am and some sudocream seemed to calm her down, and some calpol

BM - We have that problem too - A is too independent to let me help her wipe her, and I quite often end up having to administer sudo cream... I keep having to explain how important it is to make sure that area's clean.

Buttonmoons

redstararnie76 wrote: »

BM - We have that problem too - A is too independent to let me help her wipe her, and I quite often end up having to administer sudo cream... I keep having to explain how important it is to make sure that area's clean.

At least I know I'm not the only one Not sure what it is, not like an infection but it's probably a build up of bacteria or something....? She's got no pants on today to "air her out" Not even sure if that is a thing but my mum used to always tell me to do that if she had some nappy rash, so I'm presuming it's the same.....:p