Money Moral Dilemma: Should we pay for their cut-short holiday?

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nope! their choice

holdenismine

I think it sounds as though the holiday was planned on the basis that each person would pay x amount, so if some persons decided to abandon the holiday, it would be unfair of them to ask the rest of you for a refund, which is not what they are doing, it is the others who are suggesting it.

It is ridiculous that your friends are suggesting that they pay back the ones that left, if that person can afford to do so then that is his/her own decision, but they should not be forcing others who don't want to or can't afford to. Personally if this had happened to me, the thought of paying my friends for leaving a holiday would never have crossed my mind, you and your friends are not some sort of insurance policy where you pay more for a holiday when people who have already paid dropout.

beccad

Why should they pay up because their friends chose to go home early? I wouldn't, and I wouldn't expect it either if I'd been one of the friends that went home early.

meurigjones

Everyone entered into the arrangements with equal knowledge. There shouldn't even be a debate whether the money's paid back.
The whole point of a group of friends arranging a holiday together is that everyone is aware of all the arrangements - What the holiday is, the potential highs, the potential lows (like the weather?), the cost. Everyone is aware that if one person drops out, it would be an unfair burden on the remainder to cough up the shortfall.
So, in my opinion, the debate shouldn't even arise. The guys who pulled out should say 'Sorry guys, we're spoiling the holiday a little by pulling out. The least we can do is let you keep the money and use it to have a good time'.

scorpian81

To be honest I don't think the 3 that left need to be refunded. Because they are soft mostly, but seriously, if they can afford to lose/forget about £250 because of some bad weather, I don't think £50 woulod mean a great deal to them. If they really don't like wind and rain why go? Some people just have more money than sense.

TEssery

I don't see why those who chose to stay should be penalised because some members of the group decided to jump ship. It was their own decision, and they should accept the consequences. I would be polite but firm about not refunding any of the costs paid to the charter company. However, if any money was collected upfront as a kitty for shared expenses such as food, then a pro-rata refund should be made.

Pee

Since it was their decision not to go, I'm sorry but I don't think they are entitled to a refund from the rest of you. If the reason they had dropped out was that their relative had died/ fallen ill or something like that and I knew they were stretched for cash, then I would be very inclined to get some money back to them.

I do agree with the person who said it's not worth falling out with them for £21, though.

slimmer1

Few respondants indicate their financial position, £21 is nothing to some but a lot to others. There is also the idea of 'fairness'. We wne to N Cyprus with 2 freinds & they chose to hire another car to do something different. I insisted in paying half because neither of us has a right to demand use of the 1st car for their choice & when we agreed to go separate, we should also share the total costs. I do believe no refund for rental b ut refund un-used food money.

mrsnednod

As previous posts have said you shouldn't have to pay because they wimped out with weather as an excuse however give back any food money available if you can or the £21 quid if you can afford it lets face it its your mates.I always look at it like this,if I dropped £20 on the floor and lost it by accident would it really affect my life apart from being annoyed for maybe the remainder of the day other things take priority and you soon forget about it.Plus you will get a good feeling of doing the right thing by your friends.If you are tight give them the money back in the pub when you next go and they will probably get a round with it and spend it on you anyway cheers:beer:

Cloudane

You can't be responsible for the weather, and it was their decision to be miserable sods and run off home just because of a bit of rain (we're in Britain, what do they expect). Even businesses don't tend to pay back something that has been interrupted by "Act of God", and they can afford to. Got to be a no, I think - assuming everything was paid for up-front and that you'd be out of pocket.

OTOH if you hadn't bought the food then fine, pay them back what wasn't spent. The point is for those who stood by their commitments not to be out of pocket, but they shouldn't profit from their friends either, even if they are a bunch of wimps

As I always say if they're true friends it probably wouldn't come up for debate in the first place. If it did come up you'd probably fight over the opposite (i.e. both sides would insist on paying), before agreeing to split the difference.