Im angry with my neighbour

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

If it's any consolation to you - she won't receive a penny of DLA for being an alcoholic. It's specifically excluded.

Any money received is as a result of care/mobility needs from other medical conditions.

samdd

househuntr wrote: »

let's see, they're scrounging parasites !

Welcome to great britain !

:rotfl::T:T:T

pollypenny

You have my sympathy, Dizzy.

It sounds a nightmare. I should keep on and on at the HA and the police.

I wonder if her 'disabilities' are caused by her drinking.

I_know_my_ABC_and_my_CMYK

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

If it's any consolation to you - she won't receive a penny of DLA for being an alcoholic. It's specifically excluded.

Any money received is as a result of care/mobility needs from other medical conditions.

We learn something new everyday, I didn't know that,

Is it a myth that alcoholics receive more money in benefits than others to pay for the alcohol?

sparrer

I_know_my_ABC_and_my_CMYK wrote: »

We learn something new everyday, I didn't know that,

Is it a myth that alcoholics receive more money in benefits than others to pay for the alcohol?

Amazing. Where do people get their information from? I'm in my 6th year of recovery but when I was a practising alcoholic I was turned down for every benefit I applied for (admittedly I only applied so I could get money for more booze) as alcoholism isn't yet recognised everywhere as an illness.

Alkies can be sent for treatment, to counsellors, to rehab, given drugs (ie antabuse), but, quite rightly, they aren't given money with which to fuel their illness.

I empathise with the OP as there's a practising alkie living near me but until she's ready to admit her illness and ask for help there's nothing anyone can do for her. Only when she reaches her rock bottom will she do that. I can also empathise with the lady in question as I've been where she is today. No matter how much she seems aware of what she's doing, she isn't. Alcohol is a mind altering substance which cause the user to be in blackout a lot of the time. This type of blackout isn't a state of unconsciousness as we know it, it means that she appears to function 'normally' but in fact won't remember from one day to the next what she said or did.It's also quite unlikely she'll even remember being beaten on some occasions.

I appreciate how difficult it is, I know you say you've tried to help her, but please remember she's ill. Not just some dirty, foulmouthed, half-naked person who pees in the street, but a very sick woman with an illness very few of the medical profession know much about. (Strange, then, isn't it, that there's quite a high percentage of alkies in the medical profession?!)

There's no advice I can give or suggestion I can make but I wish you, and her, a peaceful future.

Spartacus_Mills

duckeggblue wrote: »

It sounds like the woman is suffering domestic violence, mental physical and sexual..Thats probably why she drinks.

How are you qualified to make that assessment ?

duckeggblue

Spartacus_Mills wrote: »

How are you qualified to make that assessment ?

As a woman I have had experience of being on the receiving end of domestic violence.As a man,what is your experience,that you don't think a woman being put in a coma is dv?

I don't need qualifications to post my opinions,and the OP has already said the woman has suffered abuse most of her life,are you disagreeing with her assessment,how are you qualified?

The OP has a very difficult problem we are discussing though,and even has a generous understanding of the womans place in this.

Wasn't it you who said,quote "..the hard of thinking who find it hard to empathize with others.."?

m4dh4tter

sparrer wrote: »

Amazing. Where do people get their information from? I'm in my 6th year of recovery but when I was a practising alcoholic I was turned down for every benefit I applied for (admittedly I only applied so I could get money for more booze) as alcoholism isn't yet recognised everywhere as an illness.

Alkies can be sent for treatment, to counsellors, to rehab, given drugs (ie antabuse), but, quite rightly, they aren't given money with which to fuel their illness.

I empathise with the OP as there's a practising alkie living near me but until she's ready to admit her illness and ask for help there's nothing anyone can do for her. Only when she reaches her rock bottom will she do that. I can also empathise with the lady in question as I've been where she is today. No matter how much she seems aware of what she's doing, she isn't. Alcohol is a mind altering substance which cause the user to be in blackout a lot of the time. This type of blackout isn't a state of unconsciousness as we know it, it means that she appears to function 'normally' but in fact won't remember from one day to the next what she said or did.It's also quite unlikely she'll even remember being beaten on some occasions.

I appreciate how difficult it is, I know you say you've tried to help her, but please remember she's ill. Not just some dirty, foulmouthed, half-naked person who pees in the street, but a very sick woman with an illness very few of the medical profession know much about. (Strange, then, isn't it, that there's quite a high percentage of alkies in the medical profession?!)

There's no advice I can give or suggestion I can make but I wish you, and her, a peaceful future.

Excellent post,
just wanted to say well done to you. I don't know you but I am still very proud of you.
I had a parent that refused help of any kind, didn't stop drinking. It killed her in the end at just 53yrs old.

I think the OP has received some excellent advice overall from many posters.
Good luck and do hope you get something done about it.

Spartacus_Mills

duckeggblue wrote: »

As a woman I have had experience of being on the receiving end of domestic violence.As a man,what is your experience,that you don't think a woman being put in a coma is dv?

I don't need qualifications to post my opinions,and the OP has already said the woman has suffered abuse most of her life,are you disagreeing with her assessment,how are you qualified?

The OP has a very difficult problem we are discussing though,and even has a generous understanding of the womans place in this.

Wasn't it you who said,quote "..the hard of thinking who find it hard to empathize with others.."?

No it wasn't me who said that.

You can post whatever opinion you want, however others can challenge it. If you don't like it, well, tough.

As for the rest of your ignorant post I have made no statements you have just drawn conclusions based on your own, rather limited, views.

duckeggblue

Spartacus_Mills wrote: »

No it wasn't me who said that.

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/36034165#Comment_36034165

Fact,not opinion.
I dont feel the need to resort to abuse,personally,and surely you did say that(post 104)or was that another spartacus?