Im angry with my neighbour

duckeggblue

You are at the end of your tether,thats to be expected,but only people who have been in this situation can understand that she can't take the help because she is so ground down and manipulated. Shame he can't be put away for longer,but shewould probably replace him with a similar model unfortunately.

dizzybuff

duckeggblue wrote: »

You are at the end of your tether,thats to be expected,but only people who have been in this situation can understand that she can't take the help because she is so ground down and manipulated. Shame he can't be put away for longer,but shewould probably replace him with a similar model unfortunately.

I just think she would drink till she carked it. Its him who replaces of them. They usually go on their own accord . But this one has stayed .

pulliptears

dizzybuff wrote: »

His neighbour has been in his yard and seen them making love up the window at the back of the house.

dizzybuff wrote: »

I have not witnessed this firsthand , but his neighbours have.

Dizzy, you appear to be listening to rather a lot of gossip from your neighbours here. As has been said, stick to the facts as YOU know them, not second hand tittle tattle.

dizzybuff

pulliptears wrote: »

Dizzy, you appear to be listening to rather a lot of gossip from your neighbours here. As has been said, stick to the facts as YOU know them, not second hand tittle tattle.

Thats fair enough , i know what I have seen though . Please see my first few posts.

bargainbetty

If she is urinating in public, and on your doorstep, then it may be considered an environmental health issue. Notify them of when it happens, and send a letter confirming the incident. Send a letter the to the local Community Mental Health Team (CMHT) detailing the alcoholism and abuse, if they break the law call the police and obtain a crime reference number, and send copies of all of it to your HA.

Ask to speak to the Anti-Social Behaviour Co-ordinator at the HA/LHA, and ask at your local Police Station for the Safer Neighbourhood Team. Introduce them to each other if necessary.

The only way these things get fixed is by coordinated efforts. It may be that she would move on if she were given a place of safety - she may feel she has nowhere to go. It may also be that an injunction would reduce their behaviour to manageable levels. If not, breaching an injunction is a criminal offence which may be sufficient to get him relocated.

PM me if you want more details. My mate works in ASB as an investigator and deals with complex cases. He might be able to offer some advice.

Good luck

bestpud

Freddie_Snowbits wrote: »

But is a waste of my Tax.

Though what you say is not against the law, the fact they're anti social and affect others should be disregarded?

You earn rights in this country and I would have them given food tokens.

No, their behaviour should not be disregarded and I fully sympathise with the OP - it must be a nightmare and something should be done.

I suggested sticking to the facts and bits that can be acted on as they may otherwise seem OTT!

Clear, relevent and concise facts are generally considered better if you want
action taken.

That was my point.

spugzbunny

bargainbetty wrote: »

If she is urinating in public, and on your doorstep, then it may be considered an environmental health issue. Notify them of when it happens, and send a letter confirming the incident. Send a letter the to the local Community Mental Health Team (CMHT) detailing the alcoholism and abuse, if they break the law call the police and obtain a crime reference number, and send copies of all of it to your HA.

Ask to speak to the Anti-Social Behaviour Co-ordinator at the HA/LHA, and ask at your local Police Station for the Safer Neighbourhood Team. Introduce them to each other if necessary.

The only way these things get fixed is by coordinated efforts. It may be that she would move on if she were given a place of safety - she may feel she has nowhere to go. It may also be that an injunction would reduce their behaviour to manageable levels. If not, breaching an injunction is a criminal offence which may be sufficient to get him relocated.

PM me if you want more details. My mate works in ASB as an investigator and deals with complex cases. He might be able to offer some advice.

Good luck

This is the best advice. Thier behaviour is clearly anti-social and causing distress to you and your family and the ASB team will be able to advise you on your rights and the best way to deal with it.

dizzybuff

I have compiled a Diary and due to meet with the HA next friday . I am pregnant , this is effecting me quite considerably now. They are both alchoholics , domestic abuse or not they are effecting my life and the surroundings my son and husband live in .

Yes Im bitter they get housing benefit , yes im bitter they get dla for theit "illness" I could cope with that , but its the fact their donestics and alcholism spills out on to the street ( there are 20 houses on a culdesac) its noticeable and down right rude.

Yours a very fed up northerner.

PasturesNew

Wait until they've passed out ... superglue them into their house. If you can get a bricklayer to brick up the windows/doors while they're asleep, even better.

euripidesralph

Hiya

I work with clients with drug and alcohol issues so thought I may be able to help.

Can I suggest you contact the local PCSO team (contactable through the police station) we have had a good success rate with them being outside clients houses as a "presence" it can be a deterrant and they are more likely to be around to arrest them for section 5 (which is the old drunk and disorderly) they should take your call in confidence and not repeat it is you making the complaint(although I admit this occasionally doesnt happen).

The police tend to prefer the PCSO's to deal with this sort of thing, if not I echo what a previous poster said about contacting the ASB unit.

Sadly this is fairly typical of some clients behaviour and to be honest reasoning with them wont work. (As Im sure you are aware).

If all else fails contact your local alcohol service - we work with a few police that will go round and make noises. If the couple are drunk then everything you have described is illegal under section 5 - and although they will only get a slap on the wrists and a £50 fine - after a few of those they tend to be more discreet and if they dont pay the fine they get a night in the cells - or more as a result - a bit harsh but it over time will make a difference.

I really feel for you because although I work with people with alcohol concerns I am under no illusions as to the impact to their neighbours and it can be horrific.

I really hope you get it sorted - good luck

xxx