Trying for a Baby Part Six

RebekahR

He didn't say he wants them but says its inevitable it will happen.
Men are so hard to interpret!!

pebblespop wrote: »

my dh goes along with it more for my benefit really. he does want children at some point but i don't think he will ever say 'lets have a baby now!'

he was trying to put me off for a few months earlier this week but he didn't get very far - lol!!

unless you are trying to trick your oh and trap them by having an 'accident' i think it's normal for them to not be as keen as us but still try for our benefit.

some lucky girls have oh's who are as keen as them - where do you find them?!! lol!

trinity_enigma

I think men just don't have the enthusiasm that us ladies have for TTCing.

With my OH it's far more about what he doesn't say than what he does IYSWIM. He would never commit to saying now is a good time to start trying so I told him I was thinking of not going for my next injection so it would be up to him 'put his wellies on before splashing in the puddles' and he didn't, which was his way of telling me. And I know full well that he would say if he didn't want them now or at all!

I know he loves children though he's brilliant with his nephews (3 and 4) and both his brothers have just had baby girls (1 is 6 months the other 6 weeks) and the way he looks at them is just beautiful- like he's constantly amazed by them. I can't wait to see him with his own!

QQuaver

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel wrote: »

QQ - hide beer

There's only one left, and DH knows that. Shall I drink it?:D

smash7 wrote: »

Edit to add: A lot of men aren't very good at longing for something that doesn't 'exist' yet... They don't have very good imaginations in that way and only see what they are like with other people's kids, they don't necessarily think 'how would this be if it were my own' IYSWIM

My DH can't imagine anything:lipsrseal But he wants kids, not sure what for, but everyone seems to have them:o

euronorris wrote: »

maybe he can take a year's sabbatical so he can enjoy some quality time with junior before they go to school etc.

That's a lovely idea:)

MrsExcited wrote: »

I take my tests at 5.15pm every day. What time do you ladies do yours? Do you wait for the pee to get to room temperature before dipping the strip?

I tried at different times, but as urine needs to be concentrated, I usually do one before I go to bed (not drinking after dinner) and with FMU (CBFM).

euronorris

trinity_enigma wrote: »

I think men just don't have the enthusiasm that us ladies have for TTCing.

And, if my OH is anything to go by, they also think that they only have to shag you once unprotected and Bam! You're pregnant! :rotfl:

When I brought it up with OH, and suggested we started trying earlier, he couldn't understand why I would want to do that as he really thought that as soon as we started I'd be pregnant the first month. Bless him.

It's not his fault though. We're taught from a young age about how to prevent pregnancy and told how 'easy' it is to accidentally fall pregnant, that the idea it could take months, or even years doesn't even cross our minds. And then his brother's ex fell pregnant very easily, so he decided that if his brother was that fertile, he would be too. He forgot the part about the girl involved only being 18, and I'm 10 years older than that, and you know, OH is NOT his brother so could be completely different etc etc. When I spelt it all out to him there were a lot of thoughtful expressions and 'oh, oh...I hadn't thought of that'.

But, whilst he is scared about it all, he does have a strong desire to have children. It was only back in September, during a conversation, that he said he was 'determined to have children!'. I remember the words clearly because they were such strong words to use and took me by surprise.

clearing_out_my_pockets

*De-lurks*

We had our first 'marriage preparation lesson' yesterday (catholic church) and the priest was asking us about our intentions towards having a family. Generally the 'rule' is that if you don't intend to have children, they won't marry you in a catholic church.

Before I even had time to answer, OH had listed out the names we've chosen, that we're going to start trying once we're married, that he can't see a future without children in it... It's weird. I knew he felt strongly about having children, but to hear him discussing it at length with a priest was just *weird* and lovely. Mind you, I lurk on a forum of women who want babies, despite the fact that I'm not trying yet. Maybe he'd find that weird!

*Re-lurks*

euronorris

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

Mind you, I lurk on a forum of women who want babies, despite the fact that I'm not trying yet. Maybe he'd find that weird!

I think my OH would be a bit scared of it to be honest. Like I might fall pregnant 'accidentally on purpose' or something. Of course I wouldn't, this is just my way of dealing with the strong desire without constantly bombarding him with it! lol

Off to Dutch lesson now. Have a nice afternoon ladies!

RebekahR

LOL! My husband looks at kids like they are aliens. I think he half does it for a joke though.

trinity_enigma wrote: »

I think men just don't have the enthusiasm that us ladies have for TTCing.

With my OH it's far more about what he doesn't say than what he does IYSWIM. He would never commit to saying now is a good time to start trying so I told him I was thinking of not going for my next injection so it would be up to him 'put his wellies on before splashing in the puddles' and he didn't, which was his way of telling me. And I know full well that he would say if he didn't want them now or at all!

I know he loves children though he's brilliant with his nephews (3 and 4) and both his brothers have just had baby girls (1 is 6 months the other 6 weeks) and the way he looks at them is just beautiful- like he's constantly amazed by them. I can't wait to see him with his own!

RebekahR

euronorris wrote: »

I think my OH would be a bit scared of it to be honest. Like I might fall pregnant 'accidentally on purpose' or something. Of course I wouldn't, this is just my way of dealing with the strong desire without constantly bombarding him with it! lol

Off to Dutch lesson now. Have a nice afternoon ladies!

Yea same for me. I get some sort of fix without actively ttcing ... yet. I have such a screwed up extended family too that this scares me to bring a kid into.

welshpolarbear

RebekahR wrote: »

Where from and how much? I'm just using a normal digi.

Rebekah - I bought this one - works well, no problems with it.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Centigrade-Professional-Ovulation-Thermometer-fertility/dp/B002VF5MGO/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1297348425&sr=8-5

Loonytoons

Just wanted to say good luck to all of you on here, wish i'd known this bit was here! We've been trying for nearly a year and i found out this morning i'm 4 weeks pregnant so fingers crossed for all of you :j