Trying for a Baby Part Six

Greener_Grass

emsbet wrote: »

Thanks for the kind words, it's nice to have people in the same position to talk to.

I know I'm just been selfish and childish - I feel a lot better now I've had a little cry

xx

You're not selfish and childish, you're normal. TTCing is a rollercoaster. Almost everybody feels this way, Just think, this is only your first month of trying, imagine what its like for others who have been on this thread a year and longer and have watched 50+ people come and go with thier BFP's. Its very hard to be happy for other people when you've been trying a very very long time and they got pregnant very quickly. Sorry if this is too honest. Everytime someone on this thread gets a BFP who has only been trying a few months I want to cry for a week and scream why not me.

4nnabella

emsbet wrote: »

I take folic acid and agnus castus- I had half a bottle of this left from when I was taking them for hormonal acne. I was planning on taking royal jelly too but haven't managed to get hold of any yet.

xx

Sorry if this sounds stupid but what benefits do you get from agnus castus and royal jelly?

phunkles

Greener_Grass wrote: »

You're not selfish and childish, you're normal. TTCing is a rollercoaster. Almost everybody feels this way, Just think, this is only your first month of trying, imagine what its like for others who have been on this thread a year and longer and have watched 50+ people come and go with thier BFP's. Its very hard to be happy for other people when you've been trying a very very long time and they got pregnant very quickly. Sorry if this is too honest. Everytime someone on this thread gets a BFP who has only been trying a few months I want to cry for a week and scream why not me.

GG I agree fully which is part of the reason I left this thread.

Yes TTC is hard but when people are going oh im not preg ive been trying for one month its so hard how do you do it for so long ERM hello I have no choice Ive been trying for 19months and nothing not a sniff of a tlp its not like ive chose not to get preg all those months!! like actually nah thanks Ill pass maybe next month!!!

I am fed up of the insensitivity of some people on here do you not read what you post and actually think oh wait that might hurt some one elses feelings?! Yes it is a forum and people should not get attached but when your ttc and its not happening you do cling to the hope that youll be next so when you see people saying oh I hope soandso is next to get a bfp and the next person to test is you, you feel like your getting a slap in the face yeah thanks so I dont count and no one wants me to get my bfp. (not saying that the soandso person doesnt deserve it or want it anymore than me but really how would you like it!!!!)

I also dont get people who post here who arent even not preventing not trying let alone ttc, but thats just me, who by the way im off to join and oap forum because one day I might be old and want to get into oap sports so getting me a head start on that one!!Need to know where to get be granny pants and well i wanna make friends with the people over there!!

And im sorry but read back or research supplements properly - some supplements may effect any medication your already taking and that would in fact be giving medical advice which is not allowed on this website!!

So im not even lurking anymore now!And before anyone says it yes I joined this thread as a not preventing not trying and leaving it to fate poster but it still freaking hurts

emsbet

Greener_Grass wrote: »

You're not selfish and childish, you're normal. TTCing is a rollercoaster. Almost everybody feels this way, Just think, this is only your first month of trying, imagine what its like for others who have been on this thread a year and longer and have watched 50+ people come and go with thier BFP's. Its very hard to be happy for other people when you've been trying a very very long time and they got pregnant very quickly. Sorry if this is too honest. Everytime someone on this thread gets a BFP who has only been trying a few months I want to cry for a week and scream why not me.

Thank you. I know that we are still on early days with this and hope that I don't come across as a moaning Minnie to those that have been TTCing a lot longer than us (If I've upset anyone with my "woe is me" attitude, I'm sorry). If I'm honest I was surprised by how it affected me-I have always felt envious of other being pg but have never had a reaction that strong before. I have managed to pull myself together now

emsbet

4nnabella wrote: »

Sorry if this sounds stupid but what benefits do you get from agnus castus and royal jelly?

If I'm honest I'm not sure!
All I know is someone on here took agnus castus after coming off the pill and got a BFP first month of TTC and because I already had some at home I thought I would give it a go!
The royal jelly I'm even less sure about sorry! Not much use

xx

phunkles

that wasnt aimed at you in any way shape or form.
I am sorry for your losses and you have been in my prayers - in my view you are still in a ttc place as at some point in the future you will be ttc it was more aimed at some one who has posted to say they werent ttc and had no plans to in the foreseeable future but still posts in the thread.
Sorry if ive offended you and I will post this apology into the forum as well

PM sent to Susan

emsbet

Phunkles- I'm sorry if I upset you as I said earlier I know we've not been TTC very long and there are very many people who have been trying a lot longer than us.
My intention was not to upset anyone and I'm sure that no one else intends to post things that upset anyone either but I guess it is impossible to account for how every person will perceive a post.
I, like a number of others, are new to the thread and also new to TTC and so post will centre around the thoughts and emotions that people go through when embarking on this journey. I am obviously excited about the prospect of getting pg and the first few bfns or the first announcements by close friends/family of their pregnancies have an effect and I feel the need to talk them through. As is the case with many others I can't talk about it with friends and family as we don't want to broadcast we are TTC and so here is a good place to find someone to talk to.
Sorry if this doesn't make much sense, I'm tired and typing on my phone but felt I wanted to reply.

I'm sorry again for any upset I caused I just wanted to talk about how I felt. I might just go away for a while, good luck everyone

xx

SusanC_2

emsbet wrote: »

Sorry if this doesn't make much sense, I'm tired and typing on my phone but felt I wanted to reply.

It does make sense.

emsbet wrote: »

I'm sorry again for any upset I caused I just wanted to talk about how I felt. I might just go away for a while, good luck everyone

Don't go away. Upset is bound to happen on a thread full of ladies who are TTC. It's part of life that things are going to upset us and the only way to avoid it would be for us all to go and hide away from the whole world until we have a baby in our arms. But if we all did that we'd get pretty lonely and I think the company of other people experiencing similar emotions is worth the risk of upset.

Loopylaura_2

Whoa ladies. Think its getting a bit hormonal in here.

As a newbie to TTC who has ached for a baby for years I can kind of see both sides of this argument which seems to happen everytime there's a flurry of BFPs. This journey really hurts. I'm bruised already and its only been a couple of months. I can't imagine how the ladies who've been trying for so much longer feel. Ladies you have my respect and I'm rooting for every one of you to get your baby. Everytime someone on here gets a BFPs I'm pleased and envious at the same time and when there's a lot it can be tough (which is not to take away from the BFP ladies - I am truly happy for you).

But, at the same time, this is a journey and we newbies need a safe place to get used to the ups and downs of it all. This should be the place and we appreciate the guidance and wisdom of the longer term posters. You were new to this once too and understand what we're going through in a way rl friends can't.

As for people who aren't trying? I hope nobody except trolls are unwelcome on this thread. My circumstances over the next couple or months make trying difficult so we're not. That doesn't mean I need your support any less. I'm still feeling the same longing and emptiness - and I can't do anything to change that.

Today at work a girl brought in her new baby. She was so tiny. I had to leave the room.

QQuaver

:j:j:jCongratulations Mimi Arc en ciel!:j:j:j
BFP BFP BFP BFP BFP!