Wife wont stop spending !!!

iamana1ias · 20 August 2010 at 9:50AM

mspig wrote: »

The thing is that the OP has stated that they are managing the debts okay its just the amount on the cards thats the problem.

Making minimum payments isn't "managing the debts okay".

santashelper_2 · 20 August 2010 at 8:26PM

I know someone like this she does not work has 3 children wants another her o/h works she has 3 cars all top of the range demands holidays, clothes, elaborate parties, a cleaner, a gardener expensive presents for the kids birthdays approx £1,000 each and wants a five bedroom home - get this she is 25 years old.

Her o/h is scared witless of loosing her because everyone says she is so pretty but he cannot see what a problem he is creating for his future he already works 7 days a week to finance her lifestyle and is always ill with worry over her demands.

What makes a person think this is a reasonable way to behave and not bat an eyelid.!

santashelper_2 · 20 August 2010 at 8:27PM

Also why are some men so insecure that they feel they have to meet these demands

Make-it-3 · 20 August 2010 at 9:21PM

You are a couple, finances are a joint responsibility wherever they come from. You both need to sit down and do a SOA together.

Once you can see your fixed commitments, you can agree how much you should allocate to debt repayment - this should then be kept in a joint account that neither of you touch for anything else. Then you can split money for personal spending 50/50 which can be transfered to separate accounts (with no overdraft facilities) that you can each use as you choose.

diable · 20 August 2010 at 11:08PM

santashelper wrote: »

Also why are some men so insecure that they feel they have to meet these demands

Its not that men are insecure but its the women who know which strings to pull. The world is littered with men who have been fcuked over as they are gullible to the promises of a certain type of woman ;o))