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  • if you were to be considered to be living together, all this income would affect his means tested benefits.

    As dmg24 has said, things are nowhere near this stage and your best bet is to be open and honest about the situation.

    I know it would if we actually lived together but we don't I just visit and stay a few nights. If I was going to move in then we would sort this out.

    We're not out to con anyone just to make sure he doesn't lose what he's entitled to.
  • dmg24
    dmg24 Posts: 33,920 Forumite
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    I can mostly remember most of the times I have been there and have my diary to back up other information. I can explain my longest stay 7 days as I had lost my job, and wanted some comfort. I was intending to go home on the Sunday as usual but he had the fit and I wanted to stay with him because I was worried. Then we got his flat decorated.

    Thanks for the info. I know it's easier to comply and we're planning on doing that.

    As to your uni question I'm originally from West Yorkshire. He lives in Nottinghamshire. I live in Leicestershire when I am at university. I'm closer to him when I am at university but it is still a train trip away.

    Given the distance between each location I can't see a problem. They understand that relationships have to start somewhere, and they don't expect you to claim jointly the first time you do the sexing thing. ;)

    Keep us updated!
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  • Thanks DMG. I'm hoping to talk to him about it tomorrow. He's a little upset about it because he's worried they are going to say I can't stay over which will pretty much kill us both.

    From my home to his home is 50 miles each way so the 100 mile round trip is too much for me to do alot of the time plus the petrol costs. With him being on low income he struggles to find the money for the train fares. When I go back to university I will struggle to find train fares too.

    What is annoying is we know who has made this complaint/report and they are doing it with full malicious intent, to try and either get him kicked out of his home, or make us split up as the women in question is obsessed with him and tells people they are together including me. I know there's nothing in this.
  • mandi
    mandi Posts: 11,932 Forumite
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    Isn't it awful when malicious curtain twitchers can cause so much unnecessary anguish to innocent people .

    The DWP in my opinion would be far better setting out some clear guidelines. I too have been in the same position , and it doesn't matter how many people tell you you have no need to worry if your innocent , nothing stops the extreme anxiety & feelings of invasion of privacy.

    OP there is a thread in DT you might like to read

    https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2663245
  • AnxiousMum
    AnxiousMum Posts: 2,709 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    mandi wrote: »

    The DWP in my opinion would be far better setting out some clear guidelines.

    Yes, forewarn and arm those who want to defraud the system! lol If those were published, the amount of 'single parent' claims would skyrocket!

    The thing is, if you are not living as a couple, then you have nothing to worry about. If you are NOT living there, they will not be able to prove you are!
  • mandi
    mandi Posts: 11,932 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker Stoptober Survivor
    AnxiousMum wrote: »
    Yes, forewarn and arm those who want to defraud the system! lol If those were published, the amount of 'single parent' claims would skyrocket!

    The thing is, if you are not living as a couple, then you have nothing to worry about. If you are NOT living there, they will not be able to prove you are!

    I think you have missed my point .;)
  • If you have a couple and the 'husband' (or 'wife') works away 4 nights a week in London or is a long distance coach/lorry driver away 4 nights a week are they 'living together' - what's the difference?
  • dookar
    dookar Posts: 1,654 Forumite
    If you have a couple and the 'husband' (or 'wife') works away 4 nights a week in London or is a long distance coach/lorry driver away 4 nights a week are they 'living together' - what's the difference?

    One couple maintains a household together the other does not.
  • Again thanks to everyone for your help. Like I said before I can prove we aren't living together because we aren't. This is simply a vindictive party.

    I am personally wondering if there is anything we can do against this vindictive party as honestly I feel at risk near her and I am worried for my boyfriends safety sometimes. He feels like he is being stalked. I feel a little like that as she stares at me through the window of her home whenever I am at his house.

    I am hoping this will all just go away as we have nothing to hide. I just want to visit him and spend time with him when I can, just as he comes to see me.
  • "I don't contribute to his house other than a bit of food I bring with me"

    More than non-working wife you mean?
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