Dating whilst in heavy debt....

Jinx

I don't think life should be put 'on hold' due to debt. I think you should get out there and date - by the time you are debt free you may be living with the right person or even married!

Being a debt free wannabe myself, I started on my journey in 2004 and met my hubby in 2005, we got married in November last year. I told him quite quickly about the debt although not the amounts (was mortified) and he has been totally supportive ever since. We did and do cheap dates, for example the Highlight Comedy clubs are doing tickets for 1p at the moment - in reality its 1 pound as they charge a booking fee but its a cheap night out.... Get out there!!

stella2009

Jimbobjigglyjam wrote: »

Hi, as Ive mentioned in another part of the forum, Im in severe debt, but I really would like to start looking to settle down in the near future, I'm just looking for opinions really on whether this is a wise move, I've been single for 4 years now and now I'm well into my thirties I'm missing a relationship especially as those around me are engaged and/or making people?;)

I have been wth my wife for nearly 10 years. When we met we both had depts.

We tackled them together and got through it, it was hard and it caused so many arguments and a lot of stress.

That aside, after all these years we got married not so long ago and everything is now perfect.

Yes we had dept, yes it caused problems.

Don't let money and dept get in the way of how you feel. EVERYONE is entitled to a decent life, so don't even think that because your in a bit of financial trouble that your not entitled to happiness!

Go for it and just be up front, it all works out in the end, well it did for me and I am really happy......

llh189

Jim,

I am in debt too, and single!

But it doesn't mean we are not entitled to have some fun and find someone special!

I have been dating on and off, always within my means and I always pay my own way!

Debts that are being dealt with wouldn't bother me - I'd date you!

Lisa

shebrett

Hi Jim - Go for it and keep the dates within your spending allowance. If a girl asks to do something with you that you can't afford then just tell her you can't afford it. I wouldn't bother to blurt out that you're in debt or anything (unless things start to get serious, then you should definately make a point of brining it up) but if the topic comes up then be honest.

I imagine you will find some women who are put if you don't spend money on them but you're better off weeding those types out early anyway. And if you find yourself starting to have a relationship and they "run off" because you have debt, then consider yourself saved in time

Jimbobjigglyjam

thanks guys, still doesn't look good on my dating cv when trying to find a date,

in heavy debt

no car (on the verge of selling it to eat away the debt)

I work on a night shift

Some may say I haven't made things easy on myself ah well, I guess you're right, if they finish it due to any of these, then they're not worth bothering with:mad:

Lara44

Ahh shame about the night shift...

Bike for the transport issues? I wouldn't be without mine. Help to tone up that physique for all those ladies too

Jimbobjigglyjam

Is the night shift really that big a deal though LaraHoust, I still get my weekends free?, I could get a swap to mornings (5am til 3pm) including travelling or lates (1pm til 11pm) but that would mean a loss in wages with no night shift allowance which is coming in handy with the debt of course

Luella

OP - I wouldn't see the night shift thing as an issue at all. Like you say you have the weekends free and at some point in the future (once debts are more manageable) you could change shift if necessary. Nor would the debts put a decent girl off, as said above the important thing is that you have a plan of action and have recognised your past mistakes.

I've read your DFW thread as well and, honestly, if I had friends in your area I'd quite happily set you up with them as you sound like a lovely chap with a lot going for you.

Lara44

Ahh, if you've got your weekends free that's all good Thought it might be some nightmare shift pattern. Definitely worth keeping it up for the extra cash.

Luella that's a wonderful post

Jimbobjigglyjam

Thanks guys, its absolutely peeing down outside and I've got a gruelling gym session to walk to now, but you've put a smile on my face;)