The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread Part 8!

skintscottishgirl

Well,

I am very glad that as per a change of plan i am not working and hour and a bit in the car starting at 8am, but backshift tomorrow working 20 minutes away starting at 3pm.

I hope everyone is OK and happy and in a good place. I am happy to be sober and positive, and I am going to bed now cos it's quarter to 4 in the morning, I will be knackered tomorrow but i don't care cos i won't be hungover.

Rock On

XX

castri09_2

morning all sorry i havent been on here for a long while. i havent been very good with the drinking so only 1 day for me so far this month please.i hope everyone is still doing well and are ok

randomname_3

Good morning everyone.

SIM & SSG You had quite a dialogue going in the early hours, I am really glad you are feeling better SSG and SIM you have had some excellent advice. You sound quite positive but you must stay strong. As SSG says, there is no way you will go too prison over a £500 debt. I would say that the worst case scenario is that MS may put the matter in the hands of a debt collection agency, Before this however there are statutory procedures to follow, request for repayment. formal demand etc. This buys time to get some cash together.

Did someone mention scotch eggs? I hate eggs.........

Gien AF since 8pm Sunday so am 8 hours short of target will try hard to complete remainder of challenge. Thanks for organising it.

DB Had another af day yesterday so thats 5 AFD's for me please.

Everyone else, Well done to you who are doing well and commiserations to you if you are suffering. Rember this is the start of a brand new day.

RN

randomname_3

SIM I may be wrong here but I think you are more at risk of prosecution if you take a job and not declare it to the benefits people. The government are going to crack down hard on 'benefit cheats'. Just a warning, I would not suggest for a minute that this is your intention.

RN

Different_Corner

peedie wrote: »

Hiya
Went to the pub as planned on Friday was AF, and felt good. No difficulty. But I did find myself sitting like billy-no-mates by the end of the evening. All the people I was with were all talking at the same time, making no sense, laughing like drains, there were some very sore heads in the morning, in a word pished. I sat there for a while thinking I have a choice join them or go.
I went.:A
Over the last couple of days have been thinking about this, and I really dont think I have much in common with the people I was with. Most I have known foryears and years if all I have in common with them now is going out and drinking that's not much of a basis for friendship.

I really think its time to move on and that feels scary but I wont let others drag me down. I have spent too long thinking of others and putting them first at the expense of how I feel and want. Time to cut the dead wood and start looking after me.
Sorry just trying to stiffen my resolve
Anyway declaring 9 AFfor me please.
Ta muchly

Peedie

ETA Normal service will be resumed once I can get out of contemplative mode

Peedie,
This post made so much sense to me, I know GC and Bis have said similar but your description of the evening really hit home.

Yesterday all the girls at work were making plans for a do in September and plans for that 'festival in December' (don't want upset Lurks) tried avoid conversation but they pinned me down .

How do you say politely that you don't want to go ? I huffed and blustered with feeble excuses.

On other subjects. Didn't know you could freeze eggs, have I read that right ?

Am on 7.

Miss_Piggy_2

Different_Corner wrote: »

Yesterday all the girls at work were making plans for a do in September and plans for that 'festival in December' (don't want upset Lurks) tried avoid conversation but they pinned me down .

How do you say politely that you don't want to go ? I huffed and blustered with feeble excuses.

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DC, I have a very old friend (known her for year, not that she's really old!:rotfl:) who NEVER does work do's. She's very up front about it and just says she doesn't want to go.

When I was younger I used to think she was a bit of a party pooper, but have to admit to adopting her way of thinking! I just outright say "no". It helps I suppose that I work with mostly blokes who are so thickskinned they don't go off and have a strop if I say I don't want to go!!:rotfl:

Alternatively, for Crimbo do's I just say its a very expensive time of year for me and doing stuff for my family takes precedence over going out and getting hammered!:D

Miss P
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Different_Corner

TY Miss P, I know you are right. I'm just so unassertive !
Bit of a clown at work, and they are nagging me, don't want to seem aloof, it's not that I don't like them, most are OK, I just loathe the fact that it will turn to shop talk and things get said don't they. Been there done that.

honeybear_2

Morning :wave:

Re.the eggs - was it Gary Rhodes or Nigel Slater? I'm confused...

Sim, hope you made it to your doctors appointment. And I really really hope you talk to the CCCS ps.not sure we put people in prison for debts anymore but i could be wrong...?

Hi to everyone else - i had to work v.late last night so am not very compos mentis yet

jo1972

365days wrote: »

I was really sorry to see you were drinking tonight. I suppose what was most poignant was that you said Sorry.

You so want to stop yet seem unable to. Your merry go round must be exhausting.

I don't think you need a talking to, as I'm sure you are more than capable of doing that to yourself, I don't doubt.

Just didn't want to collude with your drinking, as I know how much you want to stop.

Be kind to yourself.

Sorry 365, I missed this message last night (difficult to navigate with the phone!), didn't want you to think I was ignoring you :A

You know you're right

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

I used to think she was a bit of a party pooper

Miss P, maybe she's had a drinking problem in the past?!

honeybear wrote: »

Re.the eggs - was it Gary Rhodes or Nigel Slater? I'm confused...

It was Gary Rhodes, I remember now it was years ago when he had his mid-week programme and he did a whole host of picnic things, can't find a link to the Scotch egg recipe....but in my search I did find this :drool:

Scotch-egg pasties

Have loads to do today, cleaning, cleaning and more cleaning. Gotta pick up 4 things I won on ebay from round the corner £3.96

Then me and the kids are having haircuts at 1.30pm and then I need to drop this pooter in to my laptop genius to fix. Then it's home to make something yummy for dinner....this is where I need ideas....

I have 1 extra large cauliflower and that's it. I don't know if OH would moan if I make cauli-cheese cos he's on a diet, or should I buy some other veggies and make a curry? :think:

Miss_Piggy_2

jo1972 wrote: »

Miss P, maybe she's had a drinking problem in the past?!

She's always been a heavy drinker so I don't think its that - she actually used to say she didn't like work people so why the hell would she want to spend her free time with them!!:rotfl::rotfl::T