The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread Part 8!

365days

Right JO.

I was really sorry to see you were drinking tonight. I suppose what was most poignant was that you said Sorry.

You so want to stop yet seem unable to. Your merry go round must be exhausting.

I don't think you need a talking to, as I'm sure you are more than capable of doing that to yourself, I don't doubt.

Just didn't want to collude with your drinking, as I know how much you want to stop.

Be kind to yourself.

jo1972

ahem...Fay, I like eggs

budget_babe

fayjmck wrote: »

I'm getting 42 eggs a week :eek:

I may have to think of good idea's with eggs, thankfully they do freeze and are excellent also for bartering things:D

Like moving piano - cost me 1 doz eggs :rotfl:


I;ve been making my own Mr McWhotsits McMuffins - so the eggs come in handy for those (as does the HM sausage patties) nom nom

:j That it, I've cracked it (sorry for the pun)

But, but, But ............................

42 Eggs x 52 WEEks= 2184 Eggs

You could barter me a Darwin

What do you think, personally I see it as a goer myself

Hugs Fay and I have pmd you matey
Budgie (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

gien

Good evening

SUPER SECOND WEEK OF AUGUST AF CHALLENGE UPDATE
Some slow starters but never mind, pick yourself up and start all over again.
So far we are:

Gien 1
Jo
Miss P
DC
FUASparkles 1
NRA 1
Randomname.

If I've got it wrong just let me know.

So far I'm AF tonight and I'm off to bed soon but not declaring until tomorow morning.

budget_babe

Off to bed in a min, its because I am hungry

Its all that talk of Lentil Dahl and the scotch eggs. We won't mention the lemon drizzle cake.

But I keep thinking of them, not the wine so is that progress?

I do hope so..........................

Take care everyone and stay safe and well.

God Bless
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

peedie

Hiya
Went to the pub as planned on Friday was AF, and felt good. No difficulty. But I did find myself sitting like billy-no-mates by the end of the evening. All the people I was with were all talking at the same time, making no sense, laughing like drains, there were some very sore heads in the morning, in a word pished. I sat there for a while thinking I have a choice join them or go.
I went.:A
Over the last couple of days have been thinking about this, and I really dont think I have much in common with the people I was with. Most I have known foryears and years if all I have in common with them now is going out and drinking that's not much of a basis for friendship.

I really think its time to move on and that feels scary but I wont let others drag me down. I have spent too long thinking of others and putting them first at the expense of how I feel and want. Time to cut the dead wood and start looking after me.
Sorry just trying to stiffen my resolve
Anyway declaring 9 AFfor me please.
Ta muchly

Peedie

ETA Normal service will be resumed once I can get out of contemplative mode

Dizzyduck

yellowmonkey wrote: »

I'm Spartacus


No! I am Spartacus!
(actually it was going to be "No I Am Sporticus" but that's 'coz I watch too may ads for CBEEBIES!:D)

Actually after reading earlier posts "I am Reporticus!"

jo1972

Peedie, Bluddy well done!! xxxx

SimIsOnTheUp

Hi ladies and gents,

Hope you're all ok.

I've been very low.

Can't believe how stupid I've been with the money / boozing.

Don't know what to do about it. Don't know what to do about my Girlfriend (we can't get on, and yet I feel indebted to her).

I have £20 to last me the week.

On Friday I'm due £120 ESA.

I owe the Money Shop £500 again, and they're going to cash the cheques on 31st August.

My plan was to pay them £100 (one cheque paid off then - another £400 to go) to start with this Friday, straight out of my ESA.

Then in another two weeks on Friday, I was going to pay them £70, to 'extend the loan by another month'.

Then, pay it off asap.

(I posted on the Loans board regarding this debt - https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2643529 )

However, I can see that this isn't really sustainable.

I owe rent arrears of about £60 to my Housing Association as of this week, and Electric of £11 this Friday too, together with a BT bill of about £30 (not to mention, having to deal with all £10k - ish worth of Unsecured Creditors).

Feel lost.

I could sell my iMac computer and raise some cash, but there's no way it'll sell (faulty, noisy fan), and I won't be able to fix it myself (as it's inaccessible to the customer).

If I'm honest I don't really want to sell the one thing that brings me a bit of enjoyment, now that I'm going to be sober. I don't want to be left with internet access, while feeling so low (sounds sad, but there you go).

I will sell it though, if I can't come up with an alternative.

I need to find a job, even though I don't feel well enough.

Have been jobhunting online last night, and I've seen a part time evening job which I could do (in a fruit machine place, of all places..the irony did make me smile.. at least it's not a pub eh?).

It's only 16 hours a week, but at least it would get me out and more importantly, bring some much needed cash in.

Had a bath just now for the first time since Friday. Grim (talk about letting myself go). Feel slightly better, but still very worried about all this mess.

It even crossed my mind yesterday, to apply for another loan to pay this one off. This thought only lasted a millisecond though.. (madness).

Feel out of options, and at the end of the road.

Knowing that this is all my own doing, is even harder.

I can't even go with my original plan of letting the Money Shop cheques go through to my bank (A&L), as from reading online, I don't think A&L will honour ALL of the cheques - then I'll owe both Money Shop AND A&L bank.

I won't even be able to go for a Debt Relief Order now, as it'll be revoked (taking out a loan so recently / fraudulently / then showing preference by paying some of it back).

Feel well and truly f cuked.

Sorry folks. Needed to write this down.

Regardless of my other debts, I am going to HAVE to pay £100 on Friday, and then the rest asap anyway.

Will just have to talk to my Housing Association regarding the rent on Friday.

Cheers.

Night night all,

Sim x

SimIsOnTheUp

It sounds awful, but I'm still tempted to ask my Girlfriend is she will help with the remaining £300 (I was going to pay MS £200 over the next 2 weeks), as I just can't see a way out of this. (I feel a right a rse even considering asking her a second time). I would also give her my card / cheque book.

I haven't got the heart to though, as she helped me out of this hole with MS not even a month ago, to the tune of £500 :-/

GF did say only yesterday, that "while she can't help me out financially, she will be 'there for me' and will support me". That is fair enough.

She said she'd "felt like a mug" helping me out before, and for then for me to borrow another £500 from them a few weeks later.

She did follow this up though with "but I realise that's the addiction". She said "You will sort it. It might not be easy. You might not be able to 'wangle your way out of it without consequence, but then why should you?" Took it on the chin.

Aside from this, we've not been getting on at all, and it doesn't help one bit that I owe her a shedload of money. I feel she is very controlling in a few different ways, and it does my swede in. It's all got rather co - dependent

Seeing my GP in the morning (minor surgery on my neck - something very trivial really). I don't think I'm even going to bother bringing up the booze, as it will just stress me out, and he isn't that helpful.

I'm seeing the Substance Misuse Team lady next week anyway.

Take it easy guys,

Night night x