The (not so old) Crocks Cafe -Part 2

mcculloch29

Wow, we're al in it this afternoon .... I'm now a lot more comfortable, netbook on my lap and feet up in my riser-recliner. My son is cooking me a lowish calorie meal, we've had a huge cloudburst which has freshened things up. I've got Paul O'Grady on Radio 2, and I caught one of my students to set his learning plan, which has meant I've earned some money today.
Lady Morticia, the only time I tried archery I mucked it up and gave myself the most horrific bruise on my inner arm. As the saying goes, no good deed goes unpunished. Massive sympathy.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

I did archery once - now if anyone says they are going to try it, I make a point of demonstrating to them how to hold the bow and then rotate your elbow and then turn your wrist back straight so the string doesn't turn your entire arm black and unable to move due to the extent of the bruising. It's one of those lessons I will never, ever forget and I was so cross that instructors don't think of mentioning it. Everyone who has been subjected to my lesson has reported back that they were fine but at least one person in the group had twanged the string right into their elbow.

I'm back on the bed again after a brief hour or so up doing housework. Now I have a fever - and it's definitely not the change - so I am baffled as to what is going on. My hands are hurting, as is my back and neck, but I shall try and leave the painkillers until about 9pm, with the other meds, as I did actually wake up feeling like I had slept properly last night, despite having been there all afternoon, evening and most of today as well.


Unless the steroids are losing effectiveness.... :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:

Careful_with_that_Axe

I used to do a lot of archery including competing when I lived in the SE. I miss it sooo much but there's no way I have the muscle strength for the type of recurve bow I used to use never mind being able to hold the bow up at arms length! It is the one sport I long to go back to.

FP Sorry your Dad is in hossie - I've heard kidney stones are very painful so I hope he can get sorted and recover quickly.

I've discovered in the last couple of days that it's amazing how much you can get done if you actually get off your arris and do it.

LadyMorticia

mcculloch29 wrote: »

Wow, we're al in it this afternoon .... I'm now a lot more comfortable, netbook on my lap and feet up in my riser-recliner. My son is cooking me a lowish calorie meal, we've had a huge cloudburst which has freshened things up. I've got Paul O'Grady on Radio 2, and I caught one of my students to set his learning plan, which has meant I've earned some money today.
Lady Morticia, the only time I tried archery I mucked it up and gave myself the most horrific bruise on my inner arm. As the saying goes, no good deed goes unpunished. Massive sympathy.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

I did archery once - now if anyone says they are going to try it, I make a point of demonstrating to them how to hold the bow and then rotate your elbow and then turn your wrist back straight so the string doesn't turn your entire arm black and unable to move due to the extent of the bruising. It's one of those lessons I will never, ever forget and I was so cross that instructors don't think of mentioning it. Everyone who has been subjected to my lesson has reported back that they were fine but at least one person in the group had twanged the string right into their elbow.

I'm back on the bed again after a brief hour or so up doing housework. Now I have a fever - and it's definitely not the change - so I am baffled as to what is going on. My hands are hurting, as is my back and neck, but I shall try and leave the painkillers until about 9pm, with the other meds, as I did actually wake up feeling like I had slept properly last night, despite having been there all afternoon, evening and most of today as well.


Unless the steroids are losing effectiveness.... :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:

Careful_with_that_Axe wrote: »

I used to do a lot of archery including competing when I lived in the SE. I miss it sooo much but there's no way I have the muscle strength for the type of recurve bow I used to use never mind being able to hold the bow up at arms length! It is the one sport I long to go back to.

FP Sorry your Dad is in hossie - I've heard kidney stones are very painful so I hope he can get sorted and recover quickly.

I've discovered in the last couple of days that it's amazing how much you can get done if you actually get off your arris and do it.

I did find it fun, although I had to use the lightest bow and I couldn't pull the arrow as far back as I was meant to. The bows kept getting swapped around too because my left eye is my dominant one (in actual fact I never use both my eyes together, so when both my eyes are open I only see out of the left one) but I'm right-handed so I was tried with a left-handed bow - that did not bode well. Then tried with a right-handed one, which I found better but I really don't have the muscle strength in my arms to take it up as a hobby. OH want to do it though.
My fingers are so painful now and my arms feel like they've been battered with hammers.:eek:

Jojo - I definitely like your idea!

formaldehyde_perfume

Careful_with_that_Axe wrote: »

FP Sorry your Dad is in hossie - I've heard kidney stones are very painful so I hope he can get sorted and recover quickly.
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Thanks, although he is playing up to it massively.

I had to give him a huge talking to today because he said his stomach was hurting so he couldn't do dog training so I did everything while he sat down; that's fine, I don't mind, it's my dog after all... Yet he was in a horrid mood and I called him on it because he was taking it out on me (as usual) and he blamed his kidney stone pain. It really upset me because he doesn't know how much pain I'm in on a daily basis, that won't ever clear up. So I told it to him straight, I was in awful pain every day and even more at that time because of the dog training and if the medication I'm on now stops working my next pain relief option is daily morphine, that's how much pain I'm in, and whatever the situation there is no excuse to take his frustration out on me. Urgh.:mad:

I was supposed to be spending the afternoon with him but not when he's like that, and not when I'm in that much pain, it's just a recipe for disaster.

Anyway, when I got home I colapsed in bed and 4 hours went by, but I feel much better for it now.

LameWolf

formaldehyde_perfume wrote: »

Thanks, although he is playing up to it massively.

I had to give him a huge talking to today because he said his stomach was hurting so he couldn't do dog training so I did everything while he sat down; that's fine, I don't mind, it's my dog after all... Yet he was in a horrid mood and I called him on it because he was taking it out on me (as usual) and he blamed his kidney stone pain. It really upset me because he doesn't know how much pain I'm in on a daily basis, that won't ever clear up. So I told it to him straight, I was in awful pain every day and even more at that time because of the dog training and if the medication I'm on now stops working my next pain relief option is daily morphine, that's how much pain I'm in, and whatever the situation there is no excuse to take his frustration out on me. Urgh.:mad:

I was supposed to be spending the afternoon with him but not when he's like that, and not when I'm in that much pain, it's just a recipe for disaster.

Anyway, when I got home I colapsed in bed and 4 hours went by, but I feel much better for it now.

I know what you mean, FP. Mr LW, lovely man that he is, can't get his head around my depression; in some ways it's sort of my own fault - if the pain's really bad, I just put a lid on it and get on with it - no point in making a lot of bones about it and making everyone else miserable - so most of the time he doesn't realise how much I'm hurting, and can make demands that he just doesn't realise are "unreasonable".

Anyways, the other day I had enough - I sat him down for a bit of a reality check:
Me: Remember when you did your back in, how much that hurt?
Him: *wincing at the memory* Yes
Me: But you knew although it hurt like bu88ery, it was a minor injury, and you'd be OK in a few days.
Him: Yes - I was only off work one day.
Me: Yes, and you didn't even take a sick day, you worked from home, remember?
Him: That's right. I haven't had a sick day since I started there - that's *thinks for a moment* five and a half years now!
Me: Well, now imagine having that pain, 24/7, with no hope of it ever ending.
Him: *looks aghast and goes very quiet*
Me: Now can you understand me feeling depressed and wanting an end to the whole shenannigans?

I think (well, I hope) it's sunk in. I won't hold my breath though - I don't think anyone who hasn't been there can ever truly get it.:o

Don't get me wrong, I love him to bits, and he's very good about doing the tasks I can't manage; but if he has a fault, it's that he's a bit of an ostrich - thinks anything nasty will go away if he doesn't acknowledge it.:o

Anyways, I'm glad a rest in bed made you feel a bit better.:o
And it's so good having canine companionship, isn't it?:D

Elle7

Hey everyone, thanks for the welcome.

Having such a stressful time with housing. I don't know where to turn anymore...it seems that no one is going to help me regardless. I was awake for most of the night worrying about being on the street, and nothing is working right today. I don't even know what I'm waiting for anymore...the mental health team can't be bothered to arrange an appointment for me, and neurology is a while away still.

I'd love to try archery, it seems like such good fun. I've got no aim, though, and no arm strength at all...I think I'd be a liability!

LW - I hope Mr LW understands now, it seemed to be an effective way to explain it! I hope your feeling better soon. I can't remember anything else...I'll go back to lurking.

E x

LadyMorticia

Elle7 wrote: »

Hey everyone, thanks for the welcome.

Having such a stressful time with housing. I don't know where to turn anymore...it seems that no one is going to help me regardless. I was awake for most of the night worrying about being on the street, and nothing is working right today. I don't even know what I'm waiting for anymore...the mental health team can't be bothered to arrange an appointment for me, and neurology is a while away still.

I'd love to try archery, it seems like such good fun. I've got no aim, though, and no arm strength at all...I think I'd be a liability!

LW - I hope Mr LW understands now, it seemed to be an effective way to explain it! I hope your feeling better soon. I can't remember anything else...I'll go back to lurking.

E x

Hey Elle.:wave: I can't remember if I welcomed you (brain fog!) but if I haven't then welcome.

I don't really have an advice about housing. Sorry. OH and I are in the process of trying to get a ground floor flat because at the moment we live with OH's parents in a house and it's not doing my health any good at all.

R.E. Archery. My aim is rubbish. :rotfl: My arms and legs are so painful now. I can't stand for too long so definitely overdid it yesterday. :eek:

LameWolf

Elle I'm so sorry I can't help with any advice re housing; but if good vibes help, they're yours by the barrow-load.:o

I've never tried archery - would have loved to, but there's no way now. I did do fencing many years ago - had an unfair advantage, being the only one in the class who fenced left-handed!:D

formaldehyde_perfume

Aww LW that's not good. I'm lucky that I don't live with my dad so I can escape his moods, when I lived with him it was a lot harder. My mum, who I do live with at the moment, is mostly excellent but she's struggling herself at the moment so things aren't great, but on the rare occassions she objects to doing stuff for me she is very calm and practical about finding out what the problem with me doing it myself is, iykwim?

For example, she microwaved a ready meal for me and we sat down for dinner but I asked her for the vegan cheese (neither of us are vegan but it tastes lush!) and she asked why I couldnt get it myself, I said because it's in that cupboard that I can't get to without pain and she understood so went and got it. Sometimes she will ask me if I'm just being lazy because sometimes I am (aren't we all?) but if I say no then she will then do what I've asked without further question, so it's a nice balance.

My dad doesn't understand at all, full stop. The only time he has ever helped me with a problem due to my physical disability was on the beach last month where I kicked my shoes and socks off (is anyone else good at getting their foot atire off with only their feet?!) and went paddling and when I'd finished he helped me dry my feel and get dressed again without moaning, !!!!!ing, asking questions in a nasty way etc

If you take away thinking about my disability he still thinks everything is such a massive effort, even normal things a daughter would as a Dad. I asked to go to the supermarket on the way back from dog training as I'd seen some shoes in there that I'd like to get and he said fine the night before but when it came to it he was in a right fuss and huffing under his breath, I asked one of the staff if they had such-and-such in my size, would they get any more in etc and he wasn't happy, we can't have been in there more than 20 mins yet it was all a massive drama for no real reason.

*sigh*

Sorry to rant, it's just quite frustating.

And yes, LW even though Timmy didn't do very well at training (and has gone a bit backwards since an incident which scared him a month ago), he is still my pride and joy and he makes my days less lonely, even though I can't do much I still like caring for him, grooming, tooth brushing, in door training, playing etc. Timmy has really really helped with my depression and my personal socialisation because people will come up to you when you have a dog and so I've learnt how to start and end a conversation properly, silly things like that, I was never too sure of.

Sorry for the long post, I haven't really been up for talking this last week but I haven't got any fixed commitments this week so I am feeling a lot more free with my time and therefore a lot less stressed and able to think about things to say. Hurrah!

Whether it is emotional or physical pain, going back to bed makes things feel better 90% of the time. I think that is also because I have found the right mattress for me. Yay.