TAXIS...Beating the cancer and clearing the mortgage the final hurdle.

Lula-Hula

Hi Taxi,

really pleased to hear that you've had a good think about the best way to progress & you've taken the decision to get yourself well. You know that JJ is not being neglected in any way, just missing a bit of school & if respite gets your DD a chance to get herself back on track then I'm sure there'll be no long term harm done. Perhaps the SS can help with the school situation.

As to contacting DD, anything face to face could seem confrontational to her at the moment, as she clearly knows things arent quite right. You could always write her a letter, telling her how much you care about them both & synpathise with her situation & really want to help but also need to direct a lot of energy on healing yourself right now so that you can be more supportive to her in the future.

She can take time to read what you've said & digest it without having to feel she needs to immediately defend her actions or respond. I would even go so far as to say not to contact her for a while after the letter is delivered, just so she knows you mean business .

Lots of hugs & positive vibes being directed your way

xx

EssexHebridean

Right decision Taxi - no question about it, and it's far from selfish too as in the long term it will be doing the best thing for JJ.

Karmacat

Thats a good idea of Lula's, to communicate with DD in a way where she won't immediately feel defensive and go on the attack.

milann

What a mess Taxi - I'm so sorry you are being torn this way - your gds clearly means the world to you (as does the rest fo your family) but you NEED to get well again.

As you have decided - YOUR HEALTH HAS TO BE YOUR PRIORITY - but human nature being as it is that won't feel right. But it is - if the worse comes to the worse and he has to be taken into care you have a better chance of helping him once you are fit again.

BIG HUG

Milann

Double_Trouble

I am so sorry I don't know how I have managed to miss your diary for the last few days and never dreamt what you are going through.

It is so hard bringing kids up and the older they get the worse it seems to get and your emotions are run ragged especially when it involves your grandkids but the best thing you can do for them is to get yourself better asap so you do need to concentrate on your health whilst letting SS know that you are there to support your kids and grandkids when you are able.

I do so wish that I was nearer you know I would help all I could and having met your children they are all lovely but life is tough especially bringing up children on your own (I know they have your support) even one as lovely as JJ. If you can think of anything I can do just call.

Hugs to you and all the family.

DTxx

taxi73

Thanks all...had a good sleep from tea time onwards'

Lula..that's a good idea about the letter...think I will do that.

DD2 is out with her mates tonight for her birthday meal...so hopefully she is having a good time.

DS3....also phoned earlier and has been productive and responsive to my suggestions re sorting his money.I'd suggested to him that we set internet banking up for him so that I can send his rent direct to his landlord before he spends it.The trouble with his benefits is that they come in on different days so he gets confused.He is going to give me his bank card as well so as soon as his rent is paid he'll know what is his to spend.So I'm proud of him for that.

gilligansyle

Another one coming out of lurkdom here

Can only echo what everyone as said; its hard to be a parent to adults, you want to help them but sometimes you just have to let them face the consequences of their actions. Your DGS is being looked after, he is being fed and clothed etc. so there are no concerns for his safety, so care would only be a short term last resort.
You are not well enough to deal with this, and need to concentrate on getting yourself well. Well done to your DS for starting to get a grip on his finances, I have a friend who is bi-polar, and I still have her credit cards in my freezer.

taxi73

you are right gill but still hard but that is just how it has to be for now.

DS doesn't have CCS thankfully as he'd be rather dangerous with them...but at least he's trying...that's the main thing.He usually does well but has got a bit muddled the last couple of months but at least it's easily sorted.

Lula-Hula

Morning Taxi -

you have very lucky kids, having such a great mum

Now if only someone had put my CCs in their freezer ... mind you they'd have had to wrestle them off me first !!

All grey here today so Operation Declutter is about to be fired up as soon as the caffeine kicks in.

Enjoy your day
xx

taxi73

thanks Lula...am going back to bed in a minute xx