The Cost of Being Single (not single mums, proper single)

carolt

Mozette wrote: »

Well I've tried. Let me tell you that I'm fantastic at dealing with rejection and taking no for an answer! You are right, on the whole men are much nicer about saying no nicely than women.

Well, I believe in equality generally, so just as I wouldn't have expected the man to pay for me, on a date, I wouldn't have thought of it as his duty to make the first move either - I'm married now but as a single girl I was happy to do the asking. Can't remember any negative experiences. Whereas I can certainly remember lots of girls laughing at sad blokes who tried to ask us out. Definitely harder for men.

carolt

PasturesNew wrote: »

I'm banned from blokes' houses - their mums always seem to hate me.

I was actually physically removed from one house once.... didn't do a thing wrong, mother just didn't like me

Yikes!

How scary!

That said, probably good it went no further.

Can you imagine what your mother-in-law would have been like!

neverdespairgirl

PasturesNew wrote: »

So, it's a house where neighbours have cats... so I can 'borrow' them on demand.

Whose demand? In my experience, cats only operate on their own demands (-:

I was talking to my mother earlier, and she reckons that she spends about £400 a year on two cats, all in.

neverdespairgirl

PasturesNew wrote: »

I'm banned from blokes' houses - their mums always seem to hate me.

I was actually physically removed from one house once.... didn't do a thing wrong, mother just didn't like me

Women don't like the girls their sons like. Ever. Sometimes they tolerate them.

PasturesNew

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Whose demand? In my experience, cats only operate on their own demands (-:

I was talking to my mother earlier, and she reckons that she spends about £400 a year on two cats, all in.

Cats and I have an understanding, they naturally gravitate towards me. Their choice .... but there's something they like about me.

PasturesNew

I couldn't do any asking, I can't even look up from the floor if there's a hunk in the room.... no social skills me... none. All in 'the traits'.

wageslave

PasturesNew wrote: »

I couldn't do any asking, I can't even look up from the floor if there's a hunk in the room.... no social skills me... none. All in 'the traits'.

Hunks are absolutely not the way to go PN. What you want is a nice ordinary geek who is convinced you are too good for him. Hunks always think they are doing you a favour.

Get a dog and walk it a lot then come home and polish your networking skills.

Half the people I know seem to have met either via facebook or while out promenading with their mutt.

Malcolm.

PasturesNew wrote: »

It's cats for me .... after a lifetime of people saying there's somebody out there for everybody, that you'll meet somebody when you're not looking ... well, I've not been looking and nobody knocked on my door.

Cats can be such selfish creatures. If you work from home, and have the time, I'd opt for a dog anytime.

edit: I hear pets can help calm those with aspergers.. not that you need to be calmed.

carolt

Mozette wrote: »

Absolutely, blokes always say I'm a great friend, but...
I don't expect to be paid for, I don't expect them to make the first move, they are just plain not interested.

I fare no better with women (I'm Bi, just in case my previous answer was confusing). I know people often think you're greedy if you're Bi, but it just means men and women reject you - at least that's my experience:(

But least you find out quick if they're not interested...none of this hanging around in sad female mode waiting for the phone to ring malarkey.

I'm a big believer in chemistry - if it feels like there's a spark to you, there probably is in reverse.

Badger_Lady

The last bloke I had (they are few and far between) I asked out. Well, to be accurate, I walked up to him and said, "so when are you going to take me out then?".

He did reply with, "how's Monday?" but ever after saw me as 'predatory'! Hmm. Don't see what can be so scary about a girl you like making her reciprocation known, but that's people for you :rotfl:.

I know what my problem is - I know exactly how brilliant I am. I'm good-looking, physically strong, intelligent, talented at almost everything I do and a quirky, funny, delightful person. I'd rather laugh an argument off than fight over petty issues; I love to listen and will go out of my way to make those around me happier. I've got a touch of the old charisma or 'stage presence' thrown into the mix, and almost everyone I meet likes me straight away. I'm successful, capable and always lucky.

Try finding a bloke to match that who's still available in his 30's! :eek: