Is it time to say goodbye

chris_n_tj

Like all of us you want do whats best for your lovely girl, but I guess you really know the answer. Its so hard to face these things, and my heart goes out to you. She is as you say trying her best, and she knows you love her.
Most of us in here know what you are going through and will do our best to help you through whatever you decide to do.
As empty has said it is the last and best thing you could ever do for your beloved friend.
Maybe it might help you more if the Vet came out to you when the time is right.
I am thinking of you all and send you a hug from my heart.
Chris n TJ xxxx

littleredhen

thank you Chris - it really does help when people post that they know what i am going through - my dh has taken my 2 dd's out for a cycle and i am sitting here crying but i really do appreciate the kind thoughts and comforting words

madget_2

It's been almost 3 years since I made that very same decision and I remember it still.

I remember feeling so guilty at the time as I felt I was betraying her by having her put to sleep. I had desperately wanted to give her as much of a chance to live as possible. However, I finally made the decision by mentally putting myself in her shoes (paws) and trying to imagine what she would want.

Similarly to your beautiful little cat, my girl was having great difficulty towards the end with taking her medication, which meant that she was starting to become uncomfortable and in pain. The vet could have kept her alive with injections for maybe a week or two longer - but she hated going to the vets and would have become extremely stressed there.

Rather than put her through all of that, I decided that it was time to let her go to sleep so that she would never experience any more pain ever again. Whilst she still had her moments of brightness, I could tell that she was very tired and that life was not the same for her as it once was.

It felt like hell at the time, but I'm sure that I made the right decision. You obviously love your little girl very much and you must know her very well indeed by now. Imagine what she would want you to do for her - I think you already know the answer in your heart.

I'll be thinking of you and your little girl.

shezmit

hi ya

i just wanted to say i know how you feel i really do.

my cat Psycho is 11 and he has been losing weight and constant meowing and eating loads we have kept a eye on him and 2 weeks ago i took him to the vets has he was starting to look down in the dumps and they said they wanted to take some blood, so on wednesday we took him and we got the results back on friday and i knew straight away what it is CANCER gutted, i told them straight i am not going to let him suffer as he has been through enough and we both decided (me and the Vets ) it was time to let him go and we decided we wanted to spend the weekend with him and let him go on tuesday,

so what should i do, let him be put to sleep on the table with someone else holding him or should i have him on my lap and let him go that way, i don't know what to do??

shelley

adviceforall

When we had to have our Dobi x put too sleep a few weeks ago, as hard as it was i sat on the floor with him while he had the injection, i didn't want him alone at that last moment in time, the rest of the family waited outside but i had to stay with him till the end, its bringing tears to my eyes as i remember.. He was at the vets but with me at the same time..

Take care

meerkat2007

shezmit wrote: »

hi ya

i just wanted to say i know how you feel i really do.

my cat Psycho is 11 and he has been losing weight and constant meowing and eating loads we have kept a eye on him and 2 weeks ago i took him to the vets has he was starting to look down in the dumps and they said they wanted to take some blood, so on wednesday we took him and we got the results back on friday and i knew straight away what it is CANCER gutted, i told them straight i am not going to let him suffer as he has been through enough and we both decided (me and the Vets ) it was time to let him go and we decided we wanted to spend the weekend with him and let him go on tuesday,

so what should i do, let him be put to sleep on the table with someone else holding him or should i have him on my lap and let him go that way, i don't know what to do??

shelley

I can't tell you what to do, Shelley, but I can tell you what I would do if it were one of my little dogs. I'd be holding him in my arms and telling him how much I loved him until the very end, so that the last thing he would feel would be my arms around him, and the last thing he would hear would be my voice telling him how much he was loved.

misshighlander

I had to make the decision for one of my cats (Schooch) on Wednesday and decided that it was time for her to go. She was diabetic and required insulin injections. From last weekend, she wasn't eating at all & only drinking water. She had been in a similar situation before & had intensive care treatment from the vets & pulled through after a week. But this time, by just looking at her, I could tell that she wasn't wanting to go through all the prodding & poking again. And personally, I wouldn't want her to go through all that again either. So it was time to say goodbye to her.

The other cat I have (Ginger) , he had a sniff at her & actually laid down beside her for a few minutes. Probably him saying goodbye to her as well. Then I buried her in the back garden, near one of the other cats I had.

Both me & Ginger are still coming to terms with it & will take a while. But in the end, I would say it was the right decision for Schooch.

I know it will be a difficult decision for you to make. But will be thinking of you though.

hethmar

So sorry to hear about your beloved pet. But it does sound like you have done your very best and now its time for her to rest. I have always had the vet home when this awful time comes as I want my dogs to be as calm and peaceful as possible.

God bless xxxx

littleredhen

thank you all - and my thoughts are with others who have been through the same - shelley my thoughts are with you - do what you think is right for you - if you feel you can hold your beloved cat then go for it - i shall be thinking of you

Froglet

If It Should Be

If it should be that I grow weak,
And pain should keep me from my sleep,
Then you must do what must be done,
For this last battle cannot be won.
You will be sad, I understand;
Don't let your grief then stay your hand.
For this day more than all the rest,
Your love for me must stand the test.
We've had so many happy years -
What is to come can hold no fears.
You'd not want me to suffer so;
The time has come, so let me go.
Take me where my needs they'll tend
And please stay with me until the end.
Hold me firm and speak to me
Until my eyes no longer see.
I know in time that you will see
The kindness that you did for me.
Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I've been saved.
Please do not grieve - it must be you
Who had this painful thing to do.
We've been so close, we two, these years -
Don't let your heart hold back its tears.



As animal lovers we all find it very hard to let go,but you will make the right decision because you love her.

Better that you suffer because you care,than she suffers because you don't.