It's STILL tough and not getting better - so how are we coping?

seasalt_2

()s crickett. Sometimes, I think we cope in a crisis (like the one you have had with your Dad) and then when that eases off a little, the "down" feelings hit us. A kind of aftershock. At least take a little time off this weekend and be nice to yourself, instead of spending it all doing catch up. Hope you feel brighter soon.

sammi, I sympathise with your council tax dealings. We had more or less the exact same thing once. Very frustrating. We also had a whole year, after I moved in with my now OH, where the only way the computer could deal with the CT from where I'd lived before was to send me a demand every month for £0.00 - complete with letters saying that as I hadn't paid it last month I would now have to pay it in full etc etc. Mad!

kezlou

charlies-aunt fantastic results, wow a's in all the sciences, she's one clever gal! well done Ghislaine!
parson'swife it worked, yay, i didn't tell anyone till right at the end, when everyone was finished. everyone said it was gorgeous, till one of my friends realised what i said and went that's just weird. Nice but strange. so i'm very pleased with the results and the crab cakes were nice too. So had a full no spend day yesterday and cooked three course meal with stuff i already had in, so well chuffed with myself.
fantastic news kath, congrats to you dd!
jonannesaphhine look on the grocery challenge thread, loads of really nice recipes on there.
elona :j:j:j:j 3rd September fantastic!!!!!!!!
sammy congrats to your sister (s), brill thats your grandfathers out of hospital!
I've had a summons off the council, does my nut in, especially when i know other people get orange and red letters while i get them sending me straight to court:mad:. One time i was four days late paying, i ended absolutely kicking off at them saying, i've been waiting for my bill to come for the past four months. I can't pay it without a bill. So annoying.Yet if they owe you money you wait months for it.
crickett don't feel bad or you've had a heck of a week your dad and everything else. Were all here for you to rant, cry, laugh etc.

Today its raining, need to sort my friends pets out, my own and crack on with stuff again. I;'m still shattered after wednesday, its just not right. Ah well, OH is off tomorrow so going to sort some more stuff out and get sorted out for kids going back to school. Can't believe the holidays are nearly over. Only two weeks left with my boys.

gailey_2

Ahh feeling like cant get going today.

Looks like rain again.

kids bored, eldest driving me potty and tormenting baby.

Got playdate in hour half one of her little freinds coming over so will do quick tidy.

Hubby took my fave buggy to work as old it on ebay to pay blooming bank charges
luckily she said private so no fees.
Spent over and hour yesterday scrubbing it, febreezing it and polishing the chassis felt quite sad.

Still got barclaycard to pay-mercers ring constantly all times of day.
Also very catalougues late
phonebill.

Bills seem neverending

doing carboot next weekend
need to list more on ebay.

worried as still got to buy winter coat, pay for next terms gym and school dinners.
Baby needs new stuff to hoping to find some stuff at carboots.
Babys 1st birthday in sept and hubbys end of aug planning on cinima and cheap meal.

Bedroom furniture desperatly as falling apart so that and laminate on our beyond saving beige carpet downstairs is next on list.

Still havent done much prep for xmas.

Thanks everyone wishing hubby well should find out next week he thinks it went well least hes still got a job its just cost of living more than 1percent payrise and we need to change our car.

Lauren ring local paper expose snobby ladys attitude with allotment scandel and nice pic of you looking sad on mums allotments.
Trying to get one for hubby but cannot get contact number as its not council its local parish council.

Want to grow more and be more self sufficient as think will help.

Hope everyone else is doing ok and staying positive.

EstherH

Well done to all those with good news; 'A' level results, family getting better etc., and hugs to those who are having/still having a tough time and need them.

kezlou

gailey wrote: »

Still got barclaycard to pay-mercers ring constantly all times of day.
Also very catalougues late
phonebill.

Bills seem neverending

Don't et me wrong i've been in this situtation so please don't think i'm being condescending in any way shape or form. Apparently, if ound this oput on the DFW section, that companies are NOT allowed to call you throughout the day, during work hours or unsociable times. So i tried this with natwest/ntl/barclays and guess what its worked, now they wish to contact me its only between 5:30pm and 6pm, as i stated after 6pm its dinnertime, bath and bed. Worked so far with us. Not sure if thats any use to you, but you could try it.

As for bills still have more coming out and not enough coming in:(.
Just waiting for dough to finish so i can make some buns then straight away putting flour in the machine for some bread for tonight.
Bought some really cheap basics sausages, my OH thinks they nasty but for 29p in the fridge i wasn't going to say no. So going to have them in casserole tonight i think. If he doesn't like it, no matter.
I'll just say there form asda or tesco, that way he won't know.

crickett1234

Feel a bit better now... though only a bit because one of my work colleagues is winding me up something fierce and I want to hit him, but apparently there are rules against that sort of thing! Shame. It would have relieved some stress.

Hubby had a grand idea. He is going to drive me to the pool tomorrow morning, I am going to do my hour or so's exercise and while I am doing that, he is going to go to the butchers and do a big old stock up. We have the room in the freezer, so we might as well. Then he is going to meet me for brunch near the pool and then we will drive home. I have also decided the housework can wait till next week, and I am going to have a crafty day tomorrow. I have lots of things I want to make for Christmas and for me as well!

EstherH

I'm sure you will feel a lot better for it Crickett. Enjoy your day!

Thats_Me_3

Thats the job crickett, for goodness sake give yourself a day off to recharge. And re twit at work, yes, unfortunately you are NOT allowed to hit them, shoot them, push them out of a high window.... But it doesn't stop you imagining it!

crickett1234

Woo hoo! Today is beginning to look up! Not only has the annoying git got the afternoon off, but just heard from Mum that Dad is making steady improvements each day. He is still having problems with numbers though, and that is annoying him. But he has wolfed his lunch down today, and asked for his tea to be brought into him as well (he needs to have Mum cook it all from scratch because he is allergic to most of the universe!), so that's good, but the hopsital is being annoying about when Dad can take his pills. Through years and years of trial and error, we know that he needs to take some pills before he eats, and some directly after he eats. Well, the battle axe of a nurse on his ward, won't let him take his pills when we know they will work best for him because it doesn't chime with their medicine regime. I think part of it is that Dad can't tell them clearly which ones he needs when, but he told Mum that he could remember the drawer they were in at home and he is going to try and remember which ones he takes out and when and write it down. He is going to use it as an exercise for his memory. I wish I could give him a hug from 200 miles away.

kidcat

Sammy - dont want to add to your problems but once the court grants a liability order costs are attached of about £100, if memory serves me correctly. Councils do have the power to rescind a summons and in extreme circumstances will do so, surely having a baby counts as extreme? Its worth pushing to see if they will remove the summons.