It's STILL tough and not getting better - so how are we coping?

mardatha

My OH sometimes goes on at me to get one - but I have nothing wrong with my legs, its just exhaustion, so I would feel like a fraud. But some days I do look at them in supermarkets with longing
If they maybe had some seats dotted around the shop then that would be better for me and people like me.

Hardup_Hester

Ceridwen, sorry you are missing the approving looks you received when you were younger, I can lend you one of my 'outfits' if you'd like.
I have to admit I do enjoy the admiring looks I receive when I'm 'dressed' as It wasn't someting that happened when I was younger as I was always 'strange', too short & not interested enough in current fashions and as Twiggy was at the height of her fame when I was a teen I stood no chance, lol.
Hester

ceridwen

mardatha wrote: »

My OH sometimes goes on at me to get one - but I have nothing wrong with my legs, its just exhaustion, so I would feel like a fraud. But some days I do look at them in supermarkets with longing
If they maybe had some seats dotted around the shop then that would be better for me and people like me.

Mardatha

I do understand where you are coming from about "feel like a fraud" - but exhaustion is just as valid a reason as a set of broken legs/arthritis/anything else "obvious" physically you can think of.

it would give you more freedom - and you wouldnt have to nag the Ratty Virgo to go out. Just shake your fist at him and take yourself out whenever you want

Hopefully there will be a day when you can tell yourself "The ME has gone at last and I dont need it anymore" and you can then pass it on to someone else to give it a good home.

ceridwen

Hardup_Hester wrote: »

Ceridwen, sorry you are missing the approving looks you received when you were younger, I can lend you one of my 'outfits' if you'd like.
I have to admit I do enjoy the admiring looks I receive when I'm 'dressed' as It wasn't someting that happened when I was younger as I was always 'strange', too short & not interested enough in current fashions and as Twiggy was at the height of her fame when I was a teen I stood no chance, lol.
Hester

:rotfl::rotfl:I can just picture myself dolled up in tight !!!-high red leather skirt and plunging laced-across top and thigh-high shiny black boots with spiky heels. yep - I think I would get noticed if I wore something like that.....

...hmmm....loadsa make-up perhaps and a bouffant-y wig on top of my ensemble and I'd be good to go.

That would give them something new to gossip about at work if I turned up dressed like that:rotfl::rotfl:

mardatha

theres nowhere to go here without a car.. and I have a free bus pass but its too far to the bus stop I just need to train the RV better or to get better meself !

ceridwen

mardatha wrote: »

theres nowhere to go here without a car.. and I have a free bus pass but its too far to the bus stop I just need to train the RV better or to get better meself !

Hmmm...perhaps you should take control of the carkeys and tell the RV that he doesnt get them back when he wants unless he uses them when you want (ie for an outing) as well.....:think:

HESTER - I think your "good offices" might be wanted in another direction. Never mind lending me a "party outfit". Maybe Mardatha might like a bit of advice in dealing firmly with her O.H......:rotfl::rotfl:

Spendless

Lindy_-_Loo wrote: »

Come October when DS2 goes to pre school I will be on my own for the first time, left work after having boys so in the past five years I've always had one or both boys here and OH on his days off work. As I had the boys early (32 and 34 weeks) I never had any maternity leave where I could 'do nothing', so im quite looking forward to 2.5hrs alone in the morning. I'm gonna do 2 mornings voluntering at school. I will get to clean without watching the boys and christmas shop without anyone - although I will miss the pram for the bags to go on!

Im sure at some point I will feel lonely and bored, get cabin fever now if we stay in all day.

Our tomato plants for the 2nd year running have still just got big green tomatos, doesnt help that it isnt particularly sunny!

hoping to go the car boot i the morning before OH goes to work. It at tranmere rovers football club, 10 minute walk away, on all year round and the boys desperatly want lego boards, im always get out bid on ebay - a set of 4 went for £14 yesterday! Some people have more money than sense!

ooh enjoy lindy-loo. :beer: It took me 7.5 years to get both mine off to f-time school, by which time I was ready for some time for me and to be able to go out for more than 2 hours without taking a child with me. For various reasons, hubby's job and illness and a recession I didn't return to work till June this year, by which time youngest was in her last 1/2 term of yr 2. I reckon I had been 'bored' at home for only the last 6 months-ish. I went to college and volunteered in the interim years and it was lovely to always be at home for the hols.

Went to our village gala yesterday. Unfortunately it had changed from the fete it has been in prev years to include a fun-fair and the prices to go with it. :mad: £2.50 for a short donkey ride. :eek: but I'd agreed before asking the price. :doh:

Skint_Lynne

I met a lovely man and his wife recently. The man was in a wheelchair due to being in an accident. He had a top flight job before the accident and is very witty and sharp. They have the problem of people thinking that he is mentally impaired because of the chair which I found to be astonishing. They often get people asking the wife how he is and he is sitting there in his chair - I couldn't believe it when he told me this!!

I did believe it when he said that all these people get sent away with flea in their ears!:p

Wheelchairs, scooters and all other mobility aids are a great thing in letting disabled people have some freedom and independence, but I do think that most of them (probably all of them actually), would rather be back to being able bodied. I do hope that I never have to depend on anything or anyone to live day to day, but if I do, I will just need to accept it and get on with life.

ubamother

As a 'young' (early forties - that's young!) soon-to-be user of a mobility scooter my skin crawls at the idea - I so applaud those who have been sensible and accepted scooters as a positive tool, enabling them to have a more active involved life - I haven't yet been able to manage that level of emotional maturity! I'm only going down this line to try and stay involved in the plethora of physical activities that have always been central in our family life. I've got as far as agreeing to hire one for the day (in a town where I know no-one!) and see how it goes. Until I was the one who developed the disability I never ever realised how incredibly courageous people with disabilities are, in just trying to live a normal life. The process of acceptance is remarkable similar to that of bereavement and coping with loss which is interesting (academic third party thinking helps a lot!). I keep telling myself it's just my own vanity - some of it is, but most of it is fear - of not looking 'able', clearly not being physically competent and just being less than I was. All my usual rationalising abilities have flown out of the nearest window! Sorry - don't normally whinge as it's so boring but this thread edging onto scooters set me off!

parsonswife8

mardatha wrote: »

:D:D My god hen, whatever you're drinking I want some !!!

This was taken in November last year Mardatha, when a whole lot of green parrots were sat in the tree outside trying to catch some weak sunlight.