kerrier council are throwing my family on the streets

Wee_Willy_Harris

twirlypinky wrote: »

Er excuse me, i was not saying she should go back to her ex, merely to her home town! I wouldn't let me ex push me out of my home town, she needs to get the police to sort him out. Of course i'd never suggest she moved back in with him, what do you take me for? Misquote or what, you've got me all narked now.

You suggested she return home.....

twirlypinky wrote: »

i still think that they should go home and deal with the problem in surrey rather than run away. maybe that's just me,

.... to the town where threats have been made to both her and her family. And your "narked"? Perhaps you could explain how YOUR advice might have helped in these cases......

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/manchester/8419167.stm

http://news.stv.tv/scotland/187235-double-murderer-who-stabbed-ex-partner-to-death-jailed-for-life/

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1283700/Mother-Rachael-Slack-son-murdered-frenzied-knife-attack-ex-lover.html

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/10318856

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/crime/man-who-murdered-expartners-mother-named-1918132.html

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/6912061/Painter-who-killed-daughter-and-ex-partner-had-history-of-violence.html

PasturesNew

althestan wrote: »

Kerrier ceased to exist over a year ago now.

All the borders etc are confusing aren't they.

Has it all become one now?

Any idea how the housing works, I know it's becoming one big list across the county (80 miles long); I think on the form you choose 3 villages/towns to be considered for.

Mum_of_3_3

PasturesNew wrote: »

All the borders etc are confusing aren't they.

Has it all become one now?

Any idea how the housing works, I know it's becoming one big list across the county (80 miles long); I think on the form you choose 3 villages/towns to be considered for.

Yeah it's called One Cornwall or something else just as rubbish now. Meant to save money and make things easier.

However, what I think it's done is made things cheaper by being able to sack loads of council workers

M_o_3

Wee_Willy_Harris

It's called "Cornwall Homechoice" and is Cornwalls Choice Based Lettings scheme for housing, allowing prospective tenants to identify and bid on individual properties they are interrested in, thus giving them the choice over where they live. Most LAs now have a CBL allocation system.

https://www.cornwallhomechoice.org.uk/Data/ASPPages/1/30.aspx

PasturesNew

I've never understood any of that whole council thing anyway. Their little structures, groups, different names... always confusing.

So ... does that mean I am no longer in a districty thing too? I guess so!

Tiddlywinks

Wee Willy - can't you just let this go? Why do you have to respond to every single comment?

I thought I'd start to count the number of posts you've made on this thread and got bored after reaching 50!

The original poster hasn't been back to this thread since 14th and only posted 4 times.

I look forward to your reply because I know you won't be able to help yourself.

Wee_Willy_Harris

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Wee Willy - can't you just let this go? Why do you have to respond to every single comment?

I thought I'd start to count the number of posts you've made on this thread and got bored after reaching 50!

The original poster hasn't been back to this thread since 14th and only posted 4 times.

I look forward to your reply because I know you won't be able to help yourself.

Oh, be fair. You have asked me a direct question. I'm almost duty bound to reply.

The short answer is that many of the posts on here have been, at best, misleading. Whilst I appreciate that the OP hasn't been back to the thread, other will have viewed it (over 9,500 viewings so far), which may mean that accurate information may be of use to them. This is particularly the case with DV, which often involves social isolation and depressed self esteem. At a time when a victim is trying to get away from a relationship in which they have been constantly told that no-one will believe/help them, accurate information to the contrary could make all the difference. In extreme situations, that difference could be life and death. I hope you understand.

terryw

Willy

I have a lot of time for you. Most (if not all of your posts) make a great deal of sense.

But, in this thread, replies do not help until such times as the OP gives further input.

Give it a rest mate.

Your chum.

new_home_owner_3

Wee_Willy_Harris wrote: »

Oh, be fair. You have asked me a direct question. I'm almost duty bound to reply.

The short answer is that many of the posts on here have been, at best, misleading. Whilst I appreciate that the OP hasn't been back to the thread, other will have viewed it (over 9,500 viewings so far), which may mean that accurate information may be of use to them. This is particularly the case with DV, which often involves social isolation and depressed self esteem. At a time when a victim is trying to get away from a relationship in which they have been constantly told that no-one will believe/help them, accurate information to the contrary could make all the difference. In extreme situations, that difference could be life and death. I hope you understand.

The only victims here are us, having to listen to you walffling !!!!!! and being a do gooder because someone has tried to do a fast one to get a property in a nice area, and has ended up stuck.

you dont know there circumstances so why defend them so much, if they need a house they need to find one where they can afford and if that means somewhere else then so it should be, im sure they can find another house outside london and away from her so called stalker ex( who you dont know and are making him out to be the next raol moat.)

You seem to me that you are anti men, sometimes women are to blame as well and there are 2 sides to every story, it sounds to me like she went on holiday with he exes two kids and decided not to tell him, then she also decided not to tell him she was not coming back, i know if my missus done that i wouldnt be very happy.

hes obviosly gone round to the house who they had probably offered to a relative and asked where his kids where, no wonder he probably went up the wall.

she took his 2 kids off to cornwall, maybe she wouldnt let him see the kids and that was why he was causing them hassle, you just dont know, so back off, you dont know the details and sometimes women can be worse than men.

Wee_Willy_Harris

new_home_owner wrote: »

The only victims here are us, having to listen to you walffling !!!!!! and being a do gooder because someone has tried to do a fast one to get a property in a nice area, and has ended up stuck.

You always have the choice to skip my posts, or even any threads I have contributed to. The "Ignore" button is there to help if you can't manage on your own.

new_home_owner wrote: »

you dont know there circumstances so why defend them so much, if they need a house they need to find one where they can afford and if that means somewhere else then so it should be, im sure they can find another house outside london and away from her so called stalker ex( who you dont know and are making him out to be the next raol moat.).

I've only taken into account the circumstances the OP has given us. Anything else would be speculation and I'll leave that to others.

new_home_owner wrote: »

You seem to me that you are anti men, sometimes women are to blame as well and there are 2 sides to every story,

Which is why the post of mine you quoted from reads.....

"At a time when a victim is trying to get away from a relationship in which they have been constantly told that no-one will believe/help them, accurate information to the contrary could make all the difference. In extreme situations, that difference could be life and death."

..... No gender definition that I can see. Makes me wonder what YOU read. Perhaps it isn't ME with the issues.

new_home_owner wrote: »

it sounds to me like she went on holiday with he exes two kids and decided not to tell him, then she also decided not to tell him she was not coming back, i know if my missus done that i wouldnt be very happy hes obviosly gone round to the house who they had probably offered to a relative and asked where his kids where, no wonder he probably went up the wall.

she took his 2 kids off to cornwall, maybe she wouldnt let him see the kids and that was why he was causing them hassle, you just dont know, so back off, you dont know the details and sometimes women can be worse than men.

Which takes us back to the speculation I spoke of. All we can do is take the OPs post at face value. Of course, many more people than the OP have viewed this thread, so maybe it has been a help to one of them. DV isn't something a lot of victims are too happy to shout about. But, anyone reading this thread MAY have a better idea of what is, and isn't, available. Would you wish them not to?