Is this unreasonable? Does a dashboard matter that much?

JaneRN

I worked in sales for a while and have to say that I think it is important that the car is something the driver really likes. I remember having a few hire cars while waiting for mine - a Fiat Stilo and an Renault 307 - hated them both. The company car I liked best was a Toyota Avensis - very nice to drive and loads of room, but I much prefare the Japanese cars. A number of colleagues had a Mazda (I think it was either the 6 or 8, the large saloon anyway) and were very happy. I would pay extra if it meant being comfortable and happy with my car. I see it as an office in many respects so think it is vital to feel at ease in it.

Frugalista

Yes, you are being totally unreasonable! My OH also used to do upwards of 50k miles a year and his health and comfort was of paramount importance. You sound an extremely selfish and self obsessed woman.

Frugalista

JaneRN wrote: »

The company car I liked best was a Toyota Avensis - very nice to drive and loads of room. I see it as an office in many respects so think it is vital to feel at ease in it.

We also chose an Avensis :cool:.

As you say, it is your office too.

Mips

Frugalista wrote: »

Yes, you are being totally unreasonable! My OH also used to do upwards of 50k miles a year and his health and comfort was of paramount importance. You sound an extremely selfish and self obsessed woman.

If you think this is selfish behaviour, wait and see how she reacts when she does actually have a child in tow and isn't just 'planning' one

gerby

back down you are being very selfish

Fang_3

Dippychick wrote: »

No issues - we have three kids and a household to run and all money is spent on those. Money for hobbys, such as dancing and golf comes out of the household budget.

I don't see my husband paying for hobbies, which may cost £100 a month as me having to sacrifice something, nor does he see my gym membership/dance membership as him having to make a sacrifice.

We don't have cars on finance, but if we did and he wasn't comfortable in a particular car, it makes sense to pay a little extra for one he is comfortable.


Everything in this household is negotiable - wages are paid separately as we have seperate bank accounts but I think there are more issues in a relationship if you feel that you have to 'sacrifice' one thing, over someone elses thing.

So you do have a personal budget. It's just by another name. Obviously you do have issues if your first thought was a mistress. Bless. I hope you can resolve your trust issues.:(

Mips

Fang wrote: »

So you do have a personal budget. It's just by another name. Obviously you do have issues if your first thought was a mistress. Bless. I hope you can resolve your trust issues.:(

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

What I meant was, why should it be personal?

We don't have personal budgets, we buy what we want and need and unless it's a major purchase, like a car... or a kitchen.. don't need to discuss it with each other.

Fang_3

Dippychick wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

What I meant was, why should it be personal?

We don't have personal budgets, we buy what we want and need and unless it's a major purchase, like a car... or a kitchen.. don't need to discuss it with each other.

That's what they do, they just have an agreed amount above everything else. Believe it or not, a lot of people still have a sense of self after they marry and don't need to obsessively know what their partner is doing. I'm sure with counselling you'll be able to trust him again.:)

Spendless

To the posters who think HRV is being selfish. I take it you have all read this post?

HRV wrote: »

I get what you've all said about safety and comfort and I agree- I agreed when he wanted the more expensive BMW when he showed me the seats (which were more supportive) etc. I can see the logic on safety etc. but it grieves me that I make alot of sacrifices (he's been declared bankrupt coz of debt his ex left) and the other 2 kids we needs to have room are for his daughters from previous marriage (who I love with all my heart and wouldn't be without) but this means we have very little luxury and therefore I feel £50 a month for knobs in a car is a bit excessive when we're talking what will be my only child and the potential of a holiday or not

We're talking about a family to whom that £50 would mean extras for the family. If it's just that he 'fancies' the more expensive car is she the one being selfish or not?

RadoJo

Have I missed it or am I right in thinking that the OP hasn't clarified what it is that her OH prefers about the more expensive car - if it's a matter of personal comfort, a desire to have a better view of the road etc then I would totally go with her OH's choice, but if it's just a matter of not liking the way it looks in a purely cosmetic sense, then that's a different matter.