Is this unreasonable? Does a dashboard matter that much?

HRV

Thanks for all your comments and ideas I didnt expect so many.

We are absolutely on the same wavelength with regard to a baby- we defo both want one hence why this is so key- the step kids are only 6 and nearly 4 and very tiny so really need boosters at least.

The s max (titanium) is what he thinks he might like but it will add to costs, likewise a touran, we havent looked at the skoda options so will look into that

With regard to me being selfish I find it a little difficult to understand but you are entitled to your opinions however there are numerous sacrifices I have made for the 'family'- ie. cheap holidays, few new clothes, no new car for me and generally treating the kids as they are mine- and he is likewise- he has few personal spends. If I was spending lots on haircuts, clothes, car etc and I begrudged the extra cash I would get the comments but I spend very little on these things.

We do pay his ex some extra however when this settlement was agreed my OH was badly informed by a solicitor- he feels guilty changing it now- however we have agreed once we have new baby we will renogotiate it ( his yougest daughter with ex will also be in fulltime school so childcare cost for ex will be lower)- which I think is fair. Sadly we are both cautious of rocking the boat as we are concerned about her being difficult and I know he would be (as I would be too) completely crushed if she stopped us seeing the girls

I'm a teacher so cant cut hours without going part time which we can't afford if a baby is likely. His job is salaried and hours are what is needed- he is in the process of negotiating some sort of payrise as he hasn't had one for 5 years.

We'll keep up the search but the key is he really just wants a 'norm' estate care rather than MPV which I think is going to be the main issue

ukjoel

50k a year equates to about 4 hours a day in the car Monday - Friday.

Please let him have what he wants otherwise he will resent you every single one of those 240 minutes he is stuck in the CMAX every day of the week.

The cmax feels and drives differently to most cars as its higher up and I wont drive my wifes one because the roll on roundabouts and other driving characteristics just really wind me up as they are so different to the other cars I drive.

Would also say that about 5 years ago I took the moneysaving move of picking a ford fusion diesel as my fleet car. I made a fortune because the petrol rate per mile was the same for the 1.4 diesel as it was for the bigger mondeos and galaxys I could have had. With the milage I was doing I was adding £200 a month to my earnings.

Only problem was the car was abysmal, my wife and friends refused to drive in it with me. My customers and colleagues laughed at me and still get the mickey taken at company xmas party.

He wont tell you what shoes you can or cant have, let him sort his own car out.

mackemdave

OP I think you are being very selfish....Your hubby has a job AND a company car....You should be ashamed that you are whinging about him wanting a car that he is happy with....Doing 50K miles a yr means on average he is doing 200 miles a day so probably 4 hrs a day driving and you want him to have a car he is unhappy with.....would you enjoy going out to work for 4 hrs a day doing something you hate??????.....SHAMEFUL attitude

Spendless

Do you have a website that tells you how cars compare on tax? Someone has given it me before unfortunatley I don't recall it.

HRV

OK I guess the answer is yes it does matter so I will say no more about it and he can choose what he wishes. I'm glad I asked though as it is good to hear what others think. Ta

whatatwit

HRV wrote: »

OK I guess the answer is yes it does matter so I will say no more about it and he can choose what he wishes. I'm glad I asked though as it is good to hear what others think. Ta

HRV, I would like to thank you for you replies to the many posts on here, several of which have been critical.

You have remained polite throughout.....I hope your DH likes whichever car he picks,

WASHER

You mentioned in your first post that you saved £150 per month by swapping from a Toyota to a BMW.

You also mention that the car he wants is going to cost you £50 per month extra, I'm not sure where you are getting these figures from, I looked on this website and found very little difference each month swapping from a Toyota Verso to a BMW. A Ford C Max is about the same each month as a Toyota Verso/BMW according to this website.

Are you sure you have your figures right?

https://www.zenithprovecta.co.uk/site1/public/carTaxCalculator.aspx