DLA apeal

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

DX2 wrote: »

BCS does the school have a special base/unit attached too it?

My son was bullied in primary school right up until he left, his self esteem was rock bottom. I fought like hell to get him into another Academy outwith the catchment area, he is like a different child now he attends some mainstream classes and some in the special unit attached to the school, during break/lunchtime he stay in the special unit with other autistic children just like himself. He has made some great friends and like your other lad mine would like to join the Army, sadly that will never happen for him.

:think: not sure what he will do when he does finally leave education, he certainly isn't in any hurry to leave at the moment as he really enjoys his time at school now and they have told me he can stay there until he is 19 if he wants

No, it's just a normal comprehensive the same as the other secondary school in town.

There isn't any provision for autistic kids in our County & consequently my eldest son goes to school in Oxfordshire.

They have a special needs department where he spends all his breaktimes etc but he attends classes the same as everyone else.

Thye used to let him leave each lesson a little early when he 1st started at the school as being in the hallways & on the stairs with that many people is difficult for him & he actully got pushed down a flight of stairs at one point.

DX2

Do your boys play the Autism card? :rotfl: Mine is like yeah but mum, you know I have Autism...and? Just because you have Autism doesn't mean you can't at least bleedin try something. Ahhh teenagers

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

DX2 wrote: »

Do your boys play the Autism card? :rotfl: Mine is like yeah but mum, you know I have Autism...and? Just because you have Autism doesn't mean you can't at least bleedin try something. Ahhh teenagers

They don't tbh.

My eldest swears when he leaves his residential school he is going to completely forget about having asperger's.

My youngest doesn't really understand what is wrong with him.

They are both really funny about food & clothes ie. will only wear certain materials or it feels weird.

My eldest is going to collage when he leaves school to do his A levels in Maths & Science & is really confident & indepependant.

My youngest on the otherhand probably won't want to go to collage & probably won't get the right grades to go A levels anyway.

I'd be happy for him to do any job even if it was just working in Mcdonalds if he was happy.

Tbh i'd be happy just for him to leave the house occasionally as apart from going to school he doesn't go anywhere or have any friends.

DX2

I very much doubt mine will get into college he has learning difficulties also, I just want him to be happy in life and have a job...any job!

cit_k

BLT wrote: »

I take your point, however to my mind being depressed and not wanting to get out of bed or get washed due to low motivation is hardly a reason for being subsidised by the tax payer.

Notwithstanding this my original point was made as someone complained about people being forced to jump through hoops to get the DLA they deserved. These hoops are there to ensure that individuals do deserve the DLA they are claiming and must remain in place.

You dont think depression is a serious illness that can warrant being out of work????

Indie_Kid

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

My youngest on the otherhand probably won't want to go to collage & probably won't get the right grades to go A levels anyway.

There are other qualifications he can do, such as a BTEC or NVQ. These are usually aimed at a certain career and are coursework instead of exams.

Oldernotwiser

DX2 wrote: »

I very much doubt mine will get into college he has learning difficulties also, I just want him to be happy in life and have a job...any job!

There are many kids with learning difficulties in colleges, in fact it's particularly important that they don't leave education/training at the earliest point. (Although they'll all be there until 18 soon, of course.)

when_will_it_end

its true look in to btec studies my daughter is going on to collage doing a btec my aunt who has severe epilepsy is also doing things at collage she loves it itsa community collage tho rather than one of the larger ones

sunnyone

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

Your a pathetic excuse for a human being. In comparison to what? You:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Of course I want to get better after being depressed for 12 years i'd like to have the chance of a normal life. You will never be "better" but more able to cope with life and thats the best we can get.

My son will claim his own DLA when applicable as do I as he is high functioning despite the fact he goes to a residential school. So he will get it paid into hos own bank account and its up to him what he does with it as soon as hes 16 then?

He doesn't just have asperger's he has klippel feil syndrome (a congenital spine defect in that 2 of the vertabrae in his neck are fused together) causing limited movement & alot of pain. My husband has a condition where your lowest rib is missing but you have an extra bone in your neck which has called him problems for years but he still worked until he was 51.

He actually wants to join the army when he leaves school as he doesn't consider himself disabled despite the fact you think I want him to.

I would start treatment today if there was any treatment which there isn't & as it's going to cost me about £30k to have further surgery I can't afford to have it. You want surgery, you dont need it and with your fragile state of mind further surgery is a mistake, it has a high chance of going wrong (from your posts about what you have been left with) and that will prevent you become well, possibly for ever.

My younger son however will probably be on DLA for the rest of his life as he has more severe autism, dyspraxia vocal & motor tics bless him.

He is a lovely lad with such a big heart but get's bullied relentlessly at school as the bullies can already tell that he is different. You dont have to put up with that, niether does he. There are ways and means to make him safe and you need to protect your son, I made sure my kids were/are safe because being diffrent they are the prime targets of the bullies.

I'd give all the money I receive back if I could pay for my son to have a normal life. We all would but it wont happen so we have to give them all the oppertunties possible and make sure that they have a good life, you arnt doing that, you arnt putting them first but niether did I at my lowest but my biggest reason to get well was my kids.

I don't give a toss what you think of me, you don't know me & have no right to judge me. I only know what you have posted and thats what I have replied to, I bet your bf is back and controlling you and you put up and shut up because anyones better than no one.

Of course your RTA wasn't fun but neither was living with the fear of my cancer coming back for 9 years & the 3 years of hell i've been through since I had my surgery.

I live in fear 24 hours a day because one wrong move and Im a quadrapegic, I have two bones in my neck that could collapse at anytime but if all day, everyday is taken up with worrying about it I wouldnt have a life and I wish that I could have just lobbed off a redundant gland to remove the fear like you did but I cant.

Indie_Kid

sunnyone wrote: »

My husband has a condition where your lowest rib is missing but you have an extra bone in your neck which has called him problems for years but he still worked until he was 51.

But does the missing rib restrict movement and cause constant pain?