Wedding cancelled- what do I do about dress?

whitewing

OP, how much is left to pay on the dress? If you are getting married (to the same chap!) in the future, then the dress could feel special again. You could pick it up, store it away somewhere, and then, when you do get planning again have another look at it again with a close friend, your mum, and maybe a professional who could do any alterations. I'd be very excited. If you still don't want it then maybe sell at that point. My taste - and body unfortunately - hasn't changed much over the years so if the dress is a more classic style it will still be beautiful on you.

I spent a fair bit on my wedding dress (more than a mortgage payment), and it was worth it to me. Although it was just one day the photos are around forever and are part of the history of my family. I still have my dress at the moment and haven't looked at the actual dress since but love having it. I'd much rather buy a wedding dress than a new roof, lol!

Sometimes I think on our MSE journeys we get a little caught up in trying to be ultimately sensible.

Redfraggle_3

Firstly I didnt sign a contact. I have already paid half. The email which was sent to me on the day before was rude. I did want the dress until then but I thought I could pay for it when I collected it. (I had already done the overtime to pay it next month. My circumstances changed and I am hanging onto our home by our fingertips.

I wish I hadnt bothered to post.

Penelope_Penguin

Redfraggle wrote: »

Firstly I didnt sign a contact. I have already paid half.

Sorry to hear your story

In UK law, you don;t need to have signed a contract, for a contract to be made. You made a payment to the shop in return for a dress - that forms a contract between you.

top_drawer_2

Hey,

Its only money at the end of the day.... Sometimes posters seem to forget that there is a person behind the message.

You have already paid 1/2 of the wedding dress off so I think that counts as a contract although its not a piece of paper as such. You have only got to pay the last installment and its Yours!

Speak to the shop and explain the circumstances, maybe a face to face meeting. They are probably worried that you are going to renage on the agreement, plus emails are the worst way to communicate anything which should be sensitively conveyed. Maybe explain the circumstances and ask to pay it off the following month when you have sorted out the roof. They may even suggest selling it from the shop themselves

When you have finished paying for the dress you can decide then what to do with it 1) the shop may offer to sell it for you
2)You can sell it on yourself
or 3) or its still the same beutiful dress it always was, its only been marred by your perception of the situation. Everyone would like the "perfect" day but its inevitable "something" will let the day down, but in 10/20/30 years you probably won't look back and think about it the same. I think your letting the current situation get you down. Think about what made you choose that particular dress and how it looked on, chances are, given the choice you will choose a very similar dress to this one anyway as its the "one" which made you feel amazing!

Jen

Oldernotwiser

Redfraggle wrote: »

I wish I hadnt bothered to post.

There's no point in posting for advice and then complaining when you don't like what people tell you!

Indout96

I wish I hadnt bothered to post.

Maybe if you changed the title of the thread to : "How do I screw a shop for balance I owe on my wedding dress" you might have got the answer you were looking for. Only a thought.

Redfraggle_3

Thanks to those who offered advice. Slating me when I am struggling to deal with my life is unnecessary

shellsuit

Do you not have insurance which will help pay for the roof?

Did you not have wedding insurance which may have covered you for something like this happening?

If the answer is No to those questions, then I'm afraid you have no other choice but to pay for the dress and either keep it for when you do get married, or sell it on yourself.

If you can't afford it outright, offer to pay in installments.

To be fair, it's not the shops fault you had to cancel, and it's not their fault that you didn't let them know at the time you cancelled everything else.

peachyprice

Kate78 wrote: »

This is a little late for the OP, but I'm seeing the benefits of wedding insurance here.

They don't cover you for changing your mind

shellsuit

peachyprice wrote: »

They don't cover you for changing your mind

They cancelled it for financial reasons, so if the reason was because one of them had been made redundant for eg, then they would be covered.