MSE Parents Club Part 13

SusanC_2

Krystaltips wrote: »

I thought it was up to 2 weeks unpaid leave... But maybe it depends on the employer because Hubby was told he could take 1 block of 5 days and that was it...

I was half right I've just had a look and here it says there isn't an overall limit but you aren't entitled to take say a whole week off to look after your sick child - just a day or two to take them to the doctor and arrange for someone else to look after them.

I think you may be talking about parental leave which is different. For that you can have up to four weeks per year (up to 13 in total per child) and they can require it to be taken in single week blocks but they don't have to so that depends on the employer.

Krystaltips

BrunoM wrote: »

I think this is the carer summary - or mainly the following page here - it seems like basically you are entitled to as much time off as you need, but they are not obliged to pay you for any of it.

The second page leads to Parental leave which is actually 13 weeks for each carer of a child under 5 (or disabled child up to the age of 18) so much more than 1 week!!

SusanC_2

Sarah_Joanne wrote: »

I also worry sometimes about not replying to everyone but I don't often have much to add to what others have said, I do thank though and I appreciate she sharing that goes on on this thread and look forward to hear how everyone is getting on.

I sometimes feel like I ought to reply to everything but I remind myself that it would be a full time job if I tried to do that.

Fitzio

Glamazon wrote: »

The other reason is that I was absolutely fuming that Fitzio blamed me for the row with Becles and thought if I carried on posting then I probably would have sparked an even bigger row by speaking my mind and saying something out of line.

In what way did I “blame” you? I stated a fact. You related what I said to Becles, and due to that I clarified that what I said wasn’t a direct comment on that. There was no blame. I didn’t have a problem with what you said. You thought it was related, and I clarified that it wasn’t to reassure you and Becles.

I have been really upset by the comments made on here and the fact that I seem to have been painted out to be a bad person. All I said was that I wasn’t a judgemental person and just because I was worried about salt in my baby’s food, it didn’t mean I would judge those who weren’t. It was just a disclaimer as I know how conversations can develop on here, and I seriously am an easy going, live and let live type of person.

I don’t feel I can post on here any longer due to the bad feeling and I have discovered that I don’t really have “real” friends here. It’s not the fault of anyone and I have no bad feelings towards anyone, but I guess it’s just the way it is on an internet forum. My RL friends know what I am like and would never have taken anything I said the wrong way. I don’t think that people on here really know me (probably partly due to my lack of posts/the way I post etc). I felt devastated that only 1 person stuck up for me, and it almost ruined my weekend – I actually can’t believe how upset I was, and I don’t want that to happen again. I guess I cared more about everyone here than I thought.

Thank you all for your advice over the past 2 years and I wish you all (without exception) good luck in life.

3 – Sorry your holiday was awful. I hope you get a satisfactory outcome.
MOTM – Contragulations to you and Lucy.

SusanC_2

Sarah_Joanne wrote: »

We got a nice surprise in the post yesterday, we are apparently so poorly off that we are entitled to free prescriptions! No idea that was coming but got exemption cards for me and DH in the post yesterday. Mine lasts longer than my maternity exemption so good news all round.

We're the same - after Alice was born we became entitled to exemption but before she was born we weren't. It doesn't even make sense because at our level of income they give you more than the child costs so it's not even like we're worse off financially and children get their prescriptions free anyway.

SugarSpun

SusanC wrote: »

Isn't she the one who made a big thing about the MMR causing it and then it turned out her son had something else instead and not autism?

That's her. She doesn't have the best reputation, what with her arguing that her son "caught" autism from the MMR when all the evidence was against it. And then her response was, Well just because my son doesn't have it doesn't mean the MMR isn't a dangerous poison so you were all wrong anyway.

I think she's totally at liberty to make her own decisions about her child but ignoring evidence rather than considering it carefully is irresponsible.

10:15 wake up here (improvement on yesterday's 2:30pm!), just BFing and planning the day. My infant school "boyfriend" just friended me on Facebook. He has a pregnant wife. Isn't it weird the way you can think of someone as being forever five years old and it turns out they're ageing right along with you?

Edit: Fitz, wait, what? I'm still not sure what happened when I was away, but you're not judgemental at all and I can't believe people would think that of you.

Evansangel

Morning everyone

I usually worry everyone thinks im ignorant when i dont respond to news, but by the time i've caught up and clicked reply i've usually forgotton

We got Lilys playmat today from ebay, the pics make out its massive, but its tiny! So i need to get some more for a decent floor coverage. Its this one.

Hmm, i have 6 eggs that are due to go out of date today, so im going to make a load of cupcakes
Im sure DH will eat them all

searching_me

fitz i wasnt going to say anything as you know all to well my mouth can get me in trouble but i dont find you judgemental .. i like you say what you think ... i hope you didnt feel i was judging you but i understand how you feel .. if you go you will be missed but i wish you a very good life darlin xxxxx

Krystaltips

SugarSpun wrote: »

My infant school "boyfriend" just friended me on Facebook. He has a pregnant wife. Isn't it weird the way you can think of someone as being forever five years old and it turns out they're ageing right along with you?

My infant school "boyfriend" was married with 3 boys when he friended me! How dare he age like that... That would mean the baby hamster he had off us is also no longer with us....

Evansangel wrote: »

Hmm, i have 6 eggs that are due to go out of date today, so im going to make a load of cupcakes
Im sure DH will eat them all

I have never taken any notice of the dates on eggs... I'm pretty sure they don't come out of the chickens ar5se with a date stamp on...

Also, a single duvet with a pile of toys is about all the playmat you need... Once she really starts shuffling around it will be a waste of time trying to keep her on a mat anyway...

Glamazon

BrunoM wrote: »

I think this is the carer summary - or mainly the following page here - it seems like basically you are entitled to as much time off as you need, but they are not obliged to pay you for any of it.

I get 3 days paid carers leave. I am only entitled to the 13 weeks parental leave when I have been here 12 months.

Fitzio - you did blame me for it which really p1ssed me because I was trying to calm the waters when you got all defensive. You posted about your salt concerns so a discussion followed about salt, you then got on your high horse about it like people were attacking you for not giving H salt which wasn't the case. Perhaps people didn't stick up for you a.) because they didn't want to get involved and b.) because your posts were a bit threatening as was pointed out by Becles.

You're right things don't come across well on the internet, there's a few times you've said things and I've really had to bite my tongue. Like when I rather excitedly said Jack had said Dada and your reply was 'H has been saying Dada and Mama for ages now' I was like 'Oh cheers for that, burst my bubble why don't you?' And when I said I was sterilising enougH bottles for 2 days and you said 'Well you do know they won't be sterile?' like I'm stupid or a bad mum because I don't do it every day. I know they aren't properly sterile but its the way you word things that make it sound worse.

I'm sorry it ruined your weekend but it also upset me that I got dragged into it.

When I posted last night about people not being missed I wasn't just referring to me, I was referring to lots of people