Parents at war!

addictedtoshopping

Hi

Not sure if anyone can help but thought id give it a try. Me and my ex seperated over a year ago and we cannot agree on childcare. He only has our child once a week overnight (from 5pm to 9am the next day) and i want him to have her more but he always says he cant.

I want him to have him more but he says he cant because he works funny hours etc but i am struggling having her all the time and working its too much for me but i dont know what i can do?

Can anyone give me any advice on this?

Can i go through the courts or anything to get something in place?

Thanks

Odette

I dont think you can force someone to take a child if they dont want to, even if it is theres?

I might be wrong of course!

BitterAndTwisted

Who looks after your child when you're working? Perhaps ex can be persuaded to contribute more money so you can afford to pay for some additional hours of childcare

addictedtoshopping

He does pay me every month but it isnt about the money...i just want a bit of down time for myslef as i ca never do anything. Dont get me wrong i love having her but its hard work. She goes to nursery whilst i am at work.

Odette

So you go to work and the father takes her one night a week?

To be honest thats more than alot of parents get. How about your or his parents?

nickyhutch

Why would you want to send your child to spend time with someone who doesn't want her there?

Apricot

There is no way you can "force" him to look after his own child. Is the overnight visit the only visit he has with her all week?

Minxy_Bella

One night a week is a darn sight more than I got as a single parent - or even now I'm remarried! I had to pay for babysitters every time I walked out of the door.

Sorry, but I think you should count yourself lucky you get that!

addictedtoshopping

Yes he has her one night a week but only sees her fpor about 3 hours as he picks her up at 5pm and she goes to bed at 7pm, then take her to nursery first thing the next day so he is hardly seeing her? I just dont feel like it is enough...i just wondered if anyone else has had a similar situation or whether i am reacting etc i dont know anyone else with kids thats all so i dont have anyone to talk to about it

nickyhutch

addictedtoshopping wrote: »

Yes he has her one night a week but only sees her fpor about 3 hours as he picks her up at 5pm and she goes to bed at 7pm, then take her to nursery first thing the next day so he is hardly seeing her? I just dont feel like it is enough...i just wondered if anyone else has had a similar situation or whether i am reacting etc i dont know anyone else with kids thats all so i dont have anyone to talk to about it

You're right - it isn't enouhg, but as other posters have said, you can't force him to have her, and I can't see why you'd want to, to be honest.

Fang_3

I think it depends on how much he is working and how his working patterns are. For instance if he's working much longer hours than you at anti-social or irregular times then it's probably more convenient for you to have her the majority of the time. Though I am struggling to understand why you think that you're hard done by, you get more free time than the parents I know.