Mum leaving Step-Dad

inch_high

Ah well, it's all done and dusted now.

She's going to move in with us, and we're going to convert the loft to make it her room, and she'll be living with us. It's not an ideal situation but at least we'll have a live-in babysitter!

She has said she doesn't want any money from him. She just wants to cut her ties completely.

Thanks to those who have offered their advice in a constructive way. For those bitter ones that couldn't help but have a go, you can get back to your sad little lives now, I'm sorry you'll have nothing to get up for now - you know who you are.

Person_one

margaretclare wrote: »

Love it.

Or, what my DH did when he moved out on his ex. Left a letter on the mantelpiece, which she got when she returned home after her floristry course at college - fuming and spitting feathers no doubt after waiting for him to pick her up and having had to catch the bus.

By the time she got back he was 100 miles down the road.

He sounds like a keeper.

julie03

inch high

i know it will be tight but your mum will be alot happier, which is the most important thing, i know my mum will be, 1 week to go, tho she still hasnt told him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

good luck to all of you

julie03

inch high

i know it will be tight but your mum will be alot happier, which is the most important thing, i know my mum will be, 1 week to go, tho she still hasnt told him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

good luck to all of you

inch_high

Thanks Julie, good luck to your mum too...

margaretclare

Person_one wrote: »

He sounds like a keeper.

Not sure what you mean by a 'keeper'. He's a sweetheart, I do know that, one that had been badly-treated, had tried everything and was desperate to get away. I wanted to tell her to her face - that's my way of doing things. He knew she would go into a total strop - she had a history of doing that, on much less provocation! Leaving a letter was the only way he could deal with it.

julie03

she told him last night and he went out got drunk and got done for drink driving, so something else he will blame my mum for!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

mikey72

margaretclare wrote: »

Not sure what you mean by a 'keeper'. He's a sweetheart, I do know that, one that had been badly-treated, had tried everything and was desperate to get away. I wanted to tell her to her face - that's my way of doing things. He knew she would go into a total strop - she had a history of doing that, on much less provocation! Leaving a letter was the only way he could deal with it.

Should have done it by text. She sounds like she would have deserved it.

jakem_2

julie03 wrote: »

hi inch high

my mum is going through the exact same thing at the moment, with a man who sounds just like your stepdad.

she has first gone to the council and because of her age (66) has managed to secure a sheltered accomadation flat this has taken her approx 6 months from start to finish but depending on where your mum lives this could be harder.

she is moving in next saturday and has had to borrow money from her mum to furnish the flat and help with rent while she sorts herself out.

her next step is to actually tell her hubbie she is moving out, which she is dreading as he is very unpredictable.

i do understand where people are coming from regarding money as i have told my mum she put nothing in the house and shouldnt expect much out, tho she is the one who does all the work regarding upkeep to the house. but saying that she got rid of a household of furniture and he purchased new stuff so nothing is her own anymore, so a small settlement would be beneficial even if to only pay her mum back for all the stuff she has to replace, she is starting again from stratch.

she has been to a couple of solicitors , one told her she was entitled to half and the other i thought was more realistic and told her she should get a small settlement, at the end of the day she went into a marriage expecting great things and gave up everything for that expectation, and was let down because he totally changed after they got married but its not gold digging.

i wish your mum good luck

Hi Julie, all the best to your mum in her move, she must be a very strong lady to have to start again at 66.:T

jakem_2

inch_high wrote: »

Ah well, it's all done and dusted now.

She's going to move in with us, and we're going to convert the loft to make it her room, and she'll be living with us. It's not an ideal situation but at least we'll have a live-in babysitter!

She has said she doesn't want any money from him. She just wants to cut her ties completely.

Thanks to those who have offered their advice in a constructive way. For those bitter ones that couldn't help but have a go, you can get back to your sad little lives now, I'm sorry you'll have nothing to get up for now - you know who you are.

Inch high, all the best to your mum also, and please dont show that its not the ideal situation and see her as a live in sitter, she must be feeling like krap herself knowing that you and your wife dont really want her.
Give her time to sort herself out and help her to find alternative accomodation in the future.:)