Mum leaving Step-Dad

jakem_2

I'm amazed how some people automatically asume the mother is a gold digger, just because she wants something out of a marriage that didnt go how she expected it.
We dont know the ins and outs, but I did have a glance at the link 'Fang' posted, and personally I feel your mother was silly giving up her council house to move in with her B/F soon to be husband, but hindsight is a lovely thing, if we had it, then half of us wouldnt be in the mess we are in now.

She can of course move back to the ex council house, as even though she isnt paying the mortgage she is entitled to half.

At the end of day with her being a council tenant enabled you all to get a decent discount of the sale price anyway, plus her name would have to be on it for any family member to purchase it.

I think you might have to have mum stay there till she sorts things out.

Running_Horse

inch_high wrote: »

Although she is technically joint owner, myself and GF pay the mortgage, there are two kids and a dog so having my mum move back to the house permanently isn't really an option.

Is a dog really more important than your mum? Can the kids share for a while? Although not ideal, perhaps your mum could come back until she gets back on her feet. After all, you have done very well out of her giving up her housing security. And she does partly own the house still.

DUTR

jakem wrote: »

I'm amazed how some people automatically asume the mother is a gold digger, just because she wants something out of a marriage that didnt go how she expected it.
We dont know the ins and outs, but I did have a glance at the link 'Fang' posted, and personally I feel your mother was silly giving up her council house to move in with her B/F soon to be husband, but hindsight is a lovely thing, if we had it, then half of us wouldnt be in the mess we are in now.

She can of course move back to the ex council house, as even though she isnt paying the mortgage she is entitled to half.

At the end of day with her being a council tenant enabled you all to get a decent discount of the sale price anyway, plus her name would have to be on it for any family member to purchase it.

I think you might have to have mum stay there till she sorts things out.

Erm, that is very far from true :shocked:

blabberwort

Im confused :think: In this thread you said your mum moved in with her now husband 2 years ago, but the thread another poster linked to you say in your first post your mum moved in with him 2 years ago at the time of your making your post which was 2008. So is it 2 years ago she moved in with your step dad or 4 years ago?

There could be a difference in advice dependant upon how long it actually has been since she has been living with her husband. I feel like your not telling people the whole story and with that in mind I dont see how you can possibly expect advice that is accurate or even applicable if you dont actually know how long ago she moved in with him.

Fang_3

DUTR wrote: »

Erm, that is very far from true :shocked:

You sure about that? They only own the house BECAUSE of the mother's Right To Buy. AND they got a huge discount on the property by abusing the rules. It would appear that they aren't a very moral family.

leanneq

jakem wrote: »

I'm amazed how some people automatically asume the mother is a gold digger, just because she wants something out of a marriage that didnt go how she expected it.
We dont know the ins and outs, but I did have a glance at the link 'Fang' posted, and personally I feel your mother was silly giving up her council house to move in with her B/F soon to be husband, but hindsight is a lovely thing, if we had it, then half of us wouldnt be in the mess we are in now.

She can of course move back to the ex council house, as even though she isnt paying the mortgage she is entitled to half.

At the end of day with her being a council tenant enabled you all to get a decent discount of the sale price anyway, plus her name would have to be on it for any family member to purchase it.

I think you might have to have mum stay there till she sorts things out.

I own my house on my own and have equity in it. If I was married for 2 years and he decided he was going to try and get some of my equity I would fight as hard as i could.
I have worked my !!!! off to buy this place at a very young age and maintain it. Hence why when i see a post like this, I just see gold digger as I cannot see what rights she has to HIS equity within the property.
If the situation was that bad, she would pack her bags and leave. Instead, she is more interested in finding out what she is entitled to first.

DUTR

Fang wrote: »

You sure about that? They only own the house BECAUSE of the mother's Right To Buy. AND they got a huge discount on the property by abusing the rules. It would appear that they aren't a very moral family.

Yes I am sure, understandably, you may have got confused with the thread, the OPs Mum moved in with a bloke who had his own place and was mortgage free, the OP has the Mums house at a discount.
My 1st GF after leaving school (bless) after we split like 8 yrs later she went on to marry some much older guy who was mortgage free after 18 or so years of marraige and it was 'time to divorce' the hubby got his large % of the mortgage, they have a dependant child. So it goes to show it does not always fall all in favour of the female wants, in effect she had to start again

inch_high

blabberwort wrote: »

Im confused :think: In this thread you said your mum moved in with her now husband 2 years ago, but the thread another poster linked to you say in your first post your mum moved in with him 2 years ago at the time of your making your post which was 2008. So is it 2 years ago she moved in with your step dad or 4 years ago?

Sorry, I should have been less vague. She moved in with him in 2006 and married in 2008.

Fang_3

DUTR wrote: »

Yes I am sure, understandably, you may have got confused with the thread, the OPs Mum moved in with a bloke who had his own place and was mortgage free, the OP has the Mums house at a discount.
My 1st GF after leaving school (bless) after we split like 8 yrs later she went on to marry some much older guy who was mortgage free after 18 or so years of marraige and it was 'time to divorce' the hubby got his large % of the mortgage, they have a dependant child. So it goes to show it does not always fall all in favour of the female wants, in effect she had to start again

That makes absolutely no sense. On so many levels.

Firstly it's a very short marriage and there are no dependent children, so the likelihood is that they would both end up where they started. Possibly with a division of assets acquired jointly throughout the marriage. However, she owns half a home and has every right to move in there, and indeed any judge would expect her to move in there instead of having him pay for her to do it.

PasturesNew

julie03 wrote: »

her next step is to actually tell her hubbie she is moving out

I'd have found somebody in a town miles away who would send him a postcard after I'd moved out. She could write it out and send it to the person, then they would post it once she phoned and said "OK, moved out - send it".