Massive family problems

blabberwort

I agree with paddy's mum , get a solicitor involved because assuming everything you've said is true (and I have no doubt it is) and you havent witheld any info which could change the advice given then I think a solicitor is your best bet. Failing that I would talk to your social workers superior and ask them to justify the social workers advice on sending your son to his grandparents when they are upsetting him and causing emotional distress. This surely cant be right and I would be fighting tooth and nail to prevent this happening.

I hope you manage to get this sorted if for no one else than your little boys sake. If and when it's sorted correctly I would be moving asap and as far from the family as possible. Cut all ties and dont forward your address for any reason. It sounds very much to me that they are not the sort of family you want or need to be involved with. I would assume considering the circumstances that your wife will want to back you up in doing what is right even though it is her family causing the problems.

Edit - Sorry I was writing as you posted. If you really cant afford a solicitor I would be going down the route of talking to the social workers superior and then possibly talking to CAB. They may have more resources that they can suggest you try.

xmaslolly76

I dont think you will find the indepth advise you need on here you really need proper legal advise and fast. I will add though that there is a group on facebook run by a group who is helping people fight social services all over the country over utterly stupid decisions they have made its called the Child and Parent Alliance they state they can offer legal advise to those in need so it may be worth checking out and contacting them :-)

Debt_PostingID

xmaslolly76 wrote: »

I dont think you will find the indepth advise you need on here you really need proper legal advise and fast. I will add though that there is a group on facebook run by a group who is helping people fight social services all over the country over utterly stupid decisions they have made its called the Child and Parent Alliance they state they can offer legal advise to those in need so it may be worth checking out and contacting them :-)

Thanks, will check that out now.

Looking at what I have posted, something right out of Jeremy Kyle, LOL. Maybe we should give him a bell - thats what the wife says anyways.

Thing I dont understand is why one social worker is a walking bit$h, excuse the french, and the other social worker is a really nice person to work with.

lutzi1

Thing I dont understand is why one social worker is a walking bit$h, excuse the french, and the other social worker is a really nice person to work with.[/QUOTE]


Nice cop. nasty cop.

lutzi1

With regards to your son and how stopping them harassing you would impact on that, all I can say again is keep evidence - if you've got good firm evidence and independent witnesses of good character and you are squeaky clean. long term that can only help you keep them away from him, surely?

RAS

Hi

As part of this it is really important that your wife front the problem. You can do the running and the backroom searching but because this is her son and her dysfunctional family, she has to front it. otherwise it is this intefering busybody from outside the family who is upsetting all their lovely long-standing dysfunctional arrangments.

It may also be worth talking to someone like Families need Fathers, which I thinK have re-incarnated as a support rather then radical action group.

You can also get a short session with a lawyer for about £50 before Thursday. You need to both go, have everything on paper for him/her to read and your questions written out.

busiscoming2

Would you be elegible (sp) for Legal Aid?

Debt_PostingID

busiscoming2 wrote: »

Would you be elegible (sp) for Legal Aid?

Hi, yes we are and are getting a legal aid solicitor - we are using the same one we used when our son was initially taken away from us.

We had to go for the meeting this morning, at which we were told that Social services are still supporting the access arrangements, even though we are not. Grandparents admitted that they allowed our son to have contact with his real dad, against all advice, and Social have said that this was not acceptable. However, they feel a "written agreement" would help. We disagreed and at the moment, contact has been called off indefinitely. We also found out this morning that grandparents have opened up a facebook account for our son, bearing in mind he is only 5 years old (You have to be over 13 to use Facebook) so that he can contact his dad when not at his nans - I have emailed Facebook and requested the profile be deleted.

We had a call from our solicitor this afternoon saying she had received a letter from another solicitors, saying that grandparents are going for a residency order. When we phoned Social about this, our case worker also said she was aware of this and would support their application when its made to the court. How on earth she can say this I dont know. She did say, however, that our son is not deemed "at risk" and they are simply mediators at this stage, to try and stop our son being "piggy in the middle". We asked to speak to her manager, because I feel that our social worker is biased and not independent (she has always sided with grandparents, regardless of knowing what their behaviour has been like towards us). When asked to speak to her manager, she had convienently popped out, so we couldnt raise our concerns. Our concern is that this social worker is going to write a biased report to the courts, supporting a residency order request.

What do we do now?

claireac

Debt_PostingID wrote: »

What do we do now?

You get yourself a rottweiler of a solicitor who specialises in this kind of case!! If the LA solicitor isn't up to it, then you're going to have to pay for one.

Don't think that the gp's applying for residency will be a walk in the park, and hopefully the judge will have far more common sense than your social workers appear to!

You need to start building your case, and my the sounds of it one of the best places to start might just getting an injuction against the gp's...... That's what I'd be doing at least.

If the residency order continues then you might be dealing with cafcass, but I'm not sure as there are already sw's involved. Have a read of this, it might help, and start building your evidence http://www.cafcass.gov.uk/the_law_about_children/contact_and_residence.aspx

memelalou

My post is not any use i'm afriad, but i wanted to wish you, your wife and son all the best. I honestly do not know what the social services are playing at why the hell would they support a residency order when there is nothing wrong with the parents!? Get a good solictor who deals with family law and take up a written or face to face apointment asap with the head of the social services - don't go through to your usual social worker asked to be put through at reception.