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psychopathbabble

lisawaters wrote: »

Hi all!

I had no idea messages were still flying around on here. I thought I got an email when that happened! So have been looking through everything and it's lovely to see the old crowd still in there.

I'm OK, although it's true that one doesn't 'recover' overnight from years of carp. I hadn't realised this but someone kindly PMd me and it all suddenly made sense. The weeks have flown by and it's been good to see people, most recently the lovely lady who donated the painting in the big plastic thing and the old garage space. I've been inviting friends who saw the place at its worst and then will get onto people who hadn't seen it at all and wondered why I didn't talk to them any more - because I was so ashamed of having got into such a carp situation. The boys have been here on odd weekends but their lives are elsewhere and they're doing stuff like getting full-time jobs and part-time jobs, and starting college They're fine and we've had some brill weekends just like the ones we were looking forward to three years ago. How one decision can change your whole life forever!

I don't really yet accept what has happened - it's all too big for my weedy little brain. I've had some bad days with the old depression and I have felt ungrateful and undeserving of what I've had. I've watched other shows and felt nothing, then it sinks in and I feel very emotional. I find it very difficult watching makeover programmes and definitely anything about people being ripped off.

I'm happy to see that the show may be aired soon. It seems most unlikely! I can't imagine what it will be like seeing it all. I have watched the show since it started and never seen an episode that wasn't funny and sad and happy and emotional and to be up there going through it all and seeing the team messing about in my own house will be too weird for words!

I'm sorry I haven't been able to appear on here much of late. It's all felt too much and there's only so many things I can say. I hope a bunch of us have become good friends and will keep in contact, although maybe not on here. I feel very close to the people who helped me through the past months. PM me for my e-mail address if you haven't got it and want to keep in touch.

I'm eating better (freezer and oven=good) washing things that are barely dirty, and getting used to passers-by making comments about the house and pressing their noses against my kitchen window to have a pipe at the inside. I'm going to be very happy here. It's all so well done and everything works and that's too much to accept in one go. I probably won't understand how huge all this has been until after the show goes out. I must have got used to steeling myself against each new bit of trouble. It's difficult to accept things have been good for so long.

x

Once again you hit the mark perfectly Mike.

I haven't emailed or pm'd you much as I was leaving you to come to terms with everything. However I would very much like to stay in touch with you and the others.... I want to see the little house with the lived-in look That's if you want to stay in touch with a psycho of course!! :A

Wol2

Hush Mike :kisses3::kisses3:

See psychos reply :A:A

Those that matter will give you the space you need - and still be here when you;re ready......the one thing I DO know is that there are truly some great guys and gals on MSE that are really good at that .....it's what makes this place the wonderful place it is ....friendship without obligation :T

Hugs Hun - baby steps still ..... and in your own time

xxxx

Keiss_21

I have said it before, but feel the need to say it again:

There are some marvellous people on MSE and this thread in particular. I feel priviledged every time I come on and read the wonderful posts here. I invariable get a lump in my throat or even well up with tears. Thankyou for all being so fantastic. :T:T:T

Mike, glad you are gradually getting used to the idea of your "new" home, it will all take time. Depression is not easy to recover from either. You think you will bounce back to "normal" once the circumstances that caused the depression in the first place are removed/changed...but it rarely works like that. It can sneak up behind you and catch you unawares when you least expect it. So take things easy and don't try to do too much at once...that can lead to sad and crook times again.

Right, off to bed...really must try to get to bed earlier...not very good at following my own advice am I!!!

psychopathbabble

Keiss_21 wrote: »

Mike, glad you are gradually getting used to the idea of your "new" home, it will all take time. Depression is not easy to recover from either. You think you will bounce back to "normal" once the circumstances that caused the depression in the first place are removed/changed...but it rarely works like that. It can sneak up behind you and catch you unawares when you least expect it. So take things easy and don't try to do too much at once...that can lead to sad and crook times again.

Definitely agree with that sentiment.... you feel better so try and do too much then it all comes crashing down again. When I was in Belfast, I was really really angry for a few days for no apparent reason and I think it was everything caving in again after a happier few months. I have never been so glad to be getting away from work and everything... feel better now except for going back to work today! :cool:

x

Happytogetdebtfree

Hi guys hi mike nice to see you :-) as far as I know sb is fine I had an email abit back hopefully she will apppear soon :-). It all makes perfect sense mike you now need to focus on healing the inside of oneself ) hi niccaw love that you are dog sitting lol just had a walk with mine and it hammered it down I was dedicated though and lasted 40 mins haha normally I do an hour lol now the dog looks like a drowned rat but he's happy she had a walk lol lol x

catflea

Just thought that I would check in and claim my crown as the worlds worst lurker :cool:

miggy

Hi Mike and the Mob - lovely to see you back! (That includes you lurkers who think we can't see people who hide behind sand-blasted silver skips and who water hanging baskets at midnight).
SB - miss you hun
Life in Miggy-land has been a bit variable so coming back on here is like having the sun shining again. Oh wait - yes, it's shining in real life but it's still soooo good to see familiar faces - albeit ones I've never met.

SingleSue

Ah finally found you all!

I kept searching and searching and couldn't find the thread (not helped by a couple of TMA's, an eldest son going into meltdown over GCSE's, a holiday and my elder cat dying) and so tonight, I decided to look through the members list, find Mike's username in the list and then click on what he had posted on recently.

Hey presto! I find you all.

Now to read through all the posts and catch up on any news...oh and I have subscribed so I don't lose it again!

lisawaters

SingleSue wrote: »

Ah finally found you all!

I kept searching and searching and couldn't find the thread (not helped by a couple of TMA's, an eldest son going into meltdown over GCSE's, a holiday and my elder cat dying) and so tonight, I decided to look through the members list, find Mike's username in the list and then click on what he had posted on recently.

Hey presto! I find you all.

Now to read through all the posts and catch up on any news...oh and I have subscribed so I don't lose it again!

Hi Sue

Welcome to the new thread. Well done for finding us. Sounds like you have plenty on your plate. We're waiting to hear when the show's on, and keeping an eye on each other... mainly twiddling our thumbs.

x

Happytogetdebtfree

We will have to begin twiddling toes also just to pass the time quicker. Hope everyon is well x seems the sun is out for a bank holiday haha xx