teenage daughter

ab7167

My mum used to throw us out into the garden to finish our arguments - they had a way of evaporating very quickly in winter and bad weather as we weren't allowed back in until we had resolved the argument and explained to mum what it was about and how we had left it! Will be doing the same with mine when they get a bit older (2.5yr DD and DS is only 3 months)

michellenealemum

well she hasn't started her period yet,
but i have been marking on the calender her bad days, there is a slight pattern
thank you for all your advice
except when you all say its going to go on for years yet lol :{
sent hubby a text telling him we got years to come
he says he's moving out lol

Sneezy

If there is a pattern then could it be worth starting evening primrose oil - I've been told today that it helps the hormones! (I'm taking a cod liver oil supp that has it in)

7891368

If its any good news, now aged 19 and 16 my brother get on wonderfully after fighting constantly from 12/9 to 16/13. :money:

Spendless

ahhh siblings. My 7yo informed me tonight that she was only having 1 child so it wouldn't have another to annoy it- this is the day after I found a real school nursery application form in her bag filled out with a child's name year of birth 2013 and my name address and phone number all in DD's handwriting and when I asked her what it was she told me she'd filled it out for me in advance for the baby sister she wants me to have!!

So tonight when she announced she would only have 1 I asked her why she then thought it would b a good idea for me to have 3 and got the answer 'cos you can cope better'. Really?? :eek::rotfl::rotfl:

Don't know what you've decided about Scouts but if you've said she owes you the money I'd stick to it- I once took money out of the kids money boxes to re-pay me for a meal we'd had at a pub where they had completely played me up- I warned them what would happen if they continued - and they decided to ignore my warning! They've never pulled that one again.

michellenealemum

well she went to scouts
punishment is no phone or ipod tommorrow
hopefully when she comes home we can talk about it

POPPYOSCAR

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Have you tried 'How dare you speak to me like that - up to your room now and stay there until you're ready to apologise' ?

Hardly a punishment - mine spend most of their time in their rooms by choice!!

eden37

I have two boys who generally get on well but the oldest (14) kicks off about bedtime(all his friends go to bed at midnight !!) having to come off the wii or x box,having to walk to school some mornings when I am at work.It can escalate so quickly and I end up shouting which makes things worse. I have no advice at all but I do sympathise!!!

slobs

Haha it's just the same in our house, boys 15 and 16.
They used to fight all the time but things have calmed down a lot now, although youngest recently went through a stage of constantly slamming his door every time we asked him to do something or he fell out with his brother.
After many warnings and threats from us, he came home from school to find his bedroom door missing, and had to live like that for a whole week - he was mortified, tried hanging a curtain up etc, but we made a point of staring in at him every time we went upstairs for anything - he's never banged it since it got rehung!
Another sanction I did was to create new account on his pc and password his old one. He could only log onto the new one, and it had all parental controls on, so no facebook, msn, google settings on harshest etc - oh and I set his wow account to shut down at a set time each night, as he's been whining a lot about bedtime - he hated that more than the door!
Oh and I find that threatening to put some of his embarassing toddler photos on my facebook and linking it to all his friends works too.

valos_mummy

My little bro is 4 years younger than me and around this age till about late teens it was a nightmare, my poor mother lol!! What doesn't help is that the age difference isn't close enough to be friendly siblings but not too far away to have a boundary of ages. When the eldest starts going through changes where they are trying to find themselves and their place in the adult world, being told to look after their younger sibling, or play with them, or let them have the computer/tv/last slice of cake etc is unreasonable. It feels like they are being cast to the bottom of the pecking order just as they are trying to assert themselves.

In my case it led to a lot of rows particularly where my brother would see me getting something (could play out longer, later bedtime) and basically just play his face until either he got the same as I did, or I had to concede and just stick to his times. All I could see was the unfairness of it all and it made me resent him. He on the other hand, only saw that I was getting something and he wasn't so that was unfair to him. A LOT of the rows were caused by "that's not fair!" One time he saw that mom had put more icecubes in my drink than he had; not on purpose, but he put his hand in my drink and took some out to put in his!! I went f****** ballistic at him and mom lost her rag with the pair of us. But come on, would YOU want a 13 year old boy sticking his mitts in your drink considering hygiene wasn't his top priority at the time?!

It didn't help that his way of dealing with it was to just wind me up all the time. Teenagers are quite sensitive and knowing this, he took great delight in staring me out over breakfast and eating very loudly with his mouth open because he knew the second I'd complain I'd get told to "stop moaning and ignore it". Then he'd sit there grinning at me because he got me told off.

The joys of teenagers lol, wait till they're BOTH teenagers! We get on okay now (some personal probs in his life mean that even at the age of 27 he acts like a 17 year old - still living with mom probably doesn't help though) but even when I've visited he swore blind I'd turned up the heating when mom told him off for it. I said how very dare you because I knew full well it wasn't me, and he went on a full on rampaging shouting match, followed by thump up the stairs, a door slam and a near week on sulk. At 27 haha! Still, he knows I'd bloody do anything for him and despite whatever rows come your way they will feel the same too.