Leaving Work due to Stress

sabrahams

krisskross wrote: »

I assume there is still contact as the OP has recently miscarried.

yes, i got back from jamaica at the end of May. However, why should i hide that i'm with him. we've not committed a crime and plus, did i not mention he has no income so whoever mentioned him supporting me i am sorry but that is out of the question. he lives in a poverty country and his only income is from working from 6am from morning to 6pm at night and only making $500 JMD which works out to be a fiver. So yes i am married but classed as single in this country. the government made sure of that. but we are in the process of fighting our Human Rights to have a family. as i said, another file for the old pile.

"Old but wise": did u read the part about me needing a break? hence why i will not look for a job and then leave. i need to breathe.

sabrahams

karenx wrote: »

You are in a relationship therefore not a single parent so you cant claim IS

its not my fault hes no longer here. so there cannot be a dispute to providing me with money... i am a single parent when im paying for him to go nursery, and im putting food on the table and I'M cooking the dinner and paying the bills... sorry, that would make me a single parent in the goverments eyes.

MrsE_2

sabrahams wrote: »

its not my fault hes no longer here. so there cannot be a dispute to providing me with money... i am a single parent when im paying for him to go nursery, and im putting food on the table and I'M cooking the dinner and paying the bills... sorry, that would make me a single parent in the goverments eyes.

Why pose the questions if you know all the answers...

Lady_gaga

if you need money and are able to work, then work. I take it you had time off after your unfortunate misscariage? stop looking for loopholes and earn an honest living or move to Jamaica to be with your husband...

Oldernotwiser

sabrahams wrote: »

"Old but wise": did u read the part about me needing a break? hence why i will not look for a job and then leave. i need to breathe.

We all need a break; if you can afford it, take one. If you can't afford it you'll have to do what everyone else does and work for a living. (Wasn't going to Jamaica in May a break?)

moomoomama27

If I were you I would seek advise about where you stand WRT your partner, I would imagine you won't be able to qualify for IS if you are gping through a legal process with your partner over his residency in the UK as it would surely be on record somewhere??

I need a break too due to stress, but unfortunatley I have nothing to fall back on so I just have to get on with it, as I'm afraid do many other people in life dealing with stress. If you need time to recover from your miscarriage then I'm sure you could get a sick-note should your GP feel this was needed, or maybe some time signed off work with stress. Surely this is better than leaving employment??

welshmoneylover

sabrahams wrote: »

we are in the process of fighting our Human Rights to have a family.

If you are so desperate to have your human rights confirmed to have a family may I suggest you move to Jamaica to be with your partner? This would seem to be the most logical step to take right now rather than fight the Home Office. I'd imagine immigration rules are much more relaxed over there.

Problem solved

roy_harper

Hi,
I'm really sorry for your loss.
I don't see anyone mentioning Income Support for being too ill to work.
Now I don't know the rules, so don't take my input as wholly reliable, just my experience.
I had a breakdown a couple of years ago, (don't even ask) and since then my GP and a Consultant have said I am not fit to work, or I'll get ill again.
So the DWP have put me on Income Support for being sick.
I think in the circumstances you decscribe that you could discuss how you feel with your GP, and see if the clouds are so dark at the moment that you do need to stop work on medical grounds.
Hope that helps.

Loopy_Girl

sabrahams wrote: »

its not my fault hes no longer here. so there cannot be a dispute to providing me with money... i am a single parent when im paying for him to go nursery, and im putting food on the table and I'M cooking the dinner and paying the bills... sorry, that would make me a single parent in the goverments eyes.

It's not as clear cut as that I'm afraid. Thousands of women like you day in and day out do what you do when their men are away serving in the Armed Forces - but it doesn't make them single parents.

Being a single parent isn't just to do with a partner being physically in the same house as you.

Whether he provides you with money or not, you are married and you are quite clearly engaging in a relationship.

Best advice would be to phone your local DWP and ask their view on it and if they are in agreement with you then get a letter from them stating that.

You could of course do what savagej recommends but should the DWP do some investigating then you will have to prove to them that you are a lone parent in the true sense of the word and not a married woman whose husband is abroad. Presumably you would be sending some of your 'lone parent' benefit money to him if you have been supporting him and that in itself would raise a question.

Phone the DWP, get a definitive answer and then you are in the clear.

Deepmistrust

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

It's not as clear cut as that I'm afraid. Thousands of women like you day in and day out do what you do when their men are away serving in the Armed Forces - but it doesn't make them single parents.

Being a single parent isn't just to do with a partner being physically in the same house as you.

Whether he provides you with money or not, you are married and you are quite clearly engaging in a relationship.

Best advice would be to phone your local DWP and ask their view on it and if they are in agreement with you then get a letter from them stating that.

You could of course do what savagej recommends but should the DWP do some investigating then you will have to prove to them that you are a lone parent in the true sense of the word and not a married woman whose husband is abroad. Presumably you would be sending some of your 'lone parent' benefit money to him if you have been supporting him and that in itself would raise a question.

Phone the DWP, get a definitive answer and then you are in the clear.

If this argument was taken to it's logical conclusion, and it was deemed that they are indeed a couple.

Seeing as his is working full time for about £5.00 per week, she could then claim CTC and WTC, and no doubt this be far higher than IS, given the extreme low income they would have as a couple, despite at least one parent in full time work.

Sadly for her though, HMRC will NOT consider them a couple for WTC purposes.

What you need to do if you’ve made a joint claim

If you or your partner go abroad for less than 52 weeks you’re still treated as if you’re in the UK for the first eight to 12 weeks – depending on the reason you’re going. Your joint tax credits claim will usually carry on for that period of time. But once the 8 or 12 weeks are up, whoever stays behind in the UK will need to make a new single tax credits claim.
If you or your partner expects to go abroad for more than a year, the person who stays behind in the UK will need to make a new single tax credits claim.
If you have children, the partner making the single claim may also be able to get help with childcare costs.