Please help me im now desperate - and now sacked from my job

Burlesque_Babe

'There's a thread from the past' I thought when I saw it top of the pile on the board........

I think, remembering your situation that you will be able to move on, get even stronger than you were in the past and have a new life with Cadence.

Definitely a new start.

Good luck, although I don't think you'll need it.

rog2

I was just thinking of this thread the other day, and wondering how Maria was getting on.
I'm pleased to see that things are, slowly but surely, coming together, and that the British Legion is able to help a bit.
It's still going to be a longstruggle, but keep us updated.

sophiesmum_2

Hi Maria
I'm so glad that you finally made the break from your bad relationship:D As someone who has been there and done it I can only stress that life will only get better from now on:T . I have told you before you are a strong, independent woman who loves her child :A and you can make this work. I am so proud of you for making the move:T :T :T :T .
I wish you all the strength , hope,health, and happiness that you will need for the future. I have often wondered how Cadence and yourself were doing.
Please pm me if there is anything I can do to help, or if you need anything for Cadence. i hope she is still loving school and is doing well:D
Well done you!!!!:j :j :j :j
sophiesmum

maria932

Thankyou for all your support and will keep you updated.
Right now im really stressed and down as he keeps sticking the knife in deeper by telling me when he is staying and sleeping with his girlfriend.
I know I have made the right decision to leave him, im just finding life very hard at the moment. I will get there because of Cadence.
Good side of things i have lost over a stone in weight since leaving him and my clothes fit alot better. lol

Burlesque_Babe

maria932 wrote: »

Right now im really stressed and down as he keeps sticking the knife in deeper by telling me when he is staying and sleeping with his girlfriend.
I know I have made the right decision to leave him, im just finding life very hard at the moment.

Hard as it is, try not to get stressed over this, turn it around and let it re-affirm how horrible a man he is to do/say this to you. It will make you stronger.

affordmylife

Wow - you go girl. You are so strong.

You and and your daughter can have a fabulous life together. Ok so you may not have much money but you have each other and peace. No money can replace that.

I wish you well. I hope you find somewhere nice to rent. Get it how you want it and be happy.

Your daughter will be at full time school soon and maybe you can get another job then.

You could look isto a childminder if necessary and i believe tax credits will help with the cost of childcare.

I see a very bright future for you.

Pick more carefully next time sweetheart. I did it twice before I realised the boring nice ones will look after you and treat you right and you will fall in love with that.

The jack the lad barstewards will always be barstewards.

Move on and enjoy your daughter.

Narva

Hi i have read your thread, i have some girls clothes i can send you, is she a big or small 4 year old?. I am going to have a clear out at the weekend, so will send you some bits and pieces. Send me your address and i will send it on to you.

Please be strong, you will get through this.

xx

Christmasshopper

Hi Maria,
It's good to hear from you again. Well done for having the courage to get out. You will do fine and I'm sure you will be much happier.
... And when your husband tells you about his girlfriend don't feel down & stressed, just think she's taking the pressure off you and she's welcome to it.

Mollymop5

Hi Maria, I too have just sat and read through this whole thread.Phew! what can I say. I also left my husband.He is a lovely man and a good dad but was prone to depression bouts and was really nasty and abusive when drinking.Sometimes things would be good for months and months then he would explode.I never knew when this would happen so made the decision to leave with my 2 children.We live just streets away now and see him every day.We have become good friends and the kids are much happier as we don't have to worry about "what mood daddy is in today".He knows what he's like and knows not to come near our home if he's had a drink.We have been seperated 2 years now and it's great.I love being on my own.We also had a lot of debt which I actually took with me when I left.Some might say this was foolish, but I am dealling with them my way.Money is tight but I'm good at budgeting.No more rows about money!!!!!!!!!
I hope you and your daughter get settled and you sort out your debts.I am receiving income support.I did my own income and expenditure form and sent it to all my creditors offering minimal payments of £2.50 per month.All of them accepted! I set up standing orders for them all and know that I only have whats left in the bank to live on after they have took their payments.This means no one is forgotten and no one pesters me with letters or calls anymore.I'd recommend this to anyone. Good luck:)

supersavershal

Hi Maria.Ive just read all through your thread.You have had an awful time and you are so strong and brave.I bet you and Cadence will be much happier on your own, the world is your oyster.I hope he is paying you some maintanance for Cadence.If he feels the need to tell you about his girlfriend its obvious he still has feelings for you and wants to make you jealous or why bother.I would take it as flattery, he is an idiot you are better off without him.I hope you arnt paying any of his debts off!I want to send you and cadence all the luck in the world, she is so lucky to have a great mum like you.