Please help me im now desperate - and now sacked from my job

LilDevil

Just finished reading all the posts... you have been through the mill a bit lately.

Sounds like you need to kick your hubby into touch to me (sorry if I'm being harsh), my suggestions are:

1. Do you have a joint account - if yes, try opening an account in just your name and have all your wages paid into that in the future. At least your hubby won't be able to steal your hard earned money.

2. Contact all the people that you alone have debts with and try and work out some sort of payment plan and give them your new bank details - s0d hubby's debts

3. If possible, have all your mail redirected to your work address, or open a PO address, this way, your hubby can't chuck away all the letters you get.

4. If you are strong enough, look for somewhere else to live - someone posted a link of some womens aid place in Wales that should be able to help you find somewhere.

I do believe that you can sort this out, you are strong enough to make the break from your hubby, he's not supporting you as he should - even if he can't financially, he should at least make an effort emotionally.

I am sorry to hear about your FIL, I am, however, concerned that your hubby is going to use this to as an excuse to continue his bad behaviour and somehow blame you for what has happened.... just to get the message across EVERYTHING THAT HAS HAPPENED (DEBT, FIL'S ILLNESS ETC) IS NOT YOUR FAULT.

I hope you have the courage to leave him, you will be able to claim all sorts of benefits which will free up valuable cash to tackle the debts.

Your situation certainly puts mine into perspective, I am so lucky that my OH is very supportive and we are sorting out our finances together.

Good luck hun, as everyone else has said, you are not alone.

Angie
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littlerascalz

Hi Maria, I'm new on here, have just been reading through your posts and wanted to see if I could help - I have 2 navy blue next cardigans and 2 pairs of age 5 navy next school trousers with adjustable waistbands. I would be happy to post them to you (free obviously). I was going to try and sell them on eBay but this is a very worthy cause. Let me know if this is any help. ((hugs)) Anna

Hello

My o my, it just keeps coming doesn't it?

I would like to reiterate what previous post said, don't let your OH blackmail you into anything over this. If we have his personality right he will be using FIL illness to continue to do nothing and blackmail you into 'helping' him cope by continuing to support him, his alcohol and cigarettes.

Saying that I am sorry to hear about FIL, especially after that conversation you had with him.

Stay strong Maria, you are doing so well. :A

Hugs

Hello

inkie

Hi Maria

Sorry to hear about FIL, you seem to be going from one crisis to the next - hope things settle down for you soon.

Keep focused!

Inkie

maria932

just come back from seeing himin hospital, we are awaiting the test results as they are unsure what is wrong.

Does anyone have Julys copy of Cosmopolitan as there is some info in there i need, is is about how to save £1000 in a mth has all the details about this naugty letter writing and about advirtising on your car and you get paid for it. Can you let me know the details if you have it please.

Someone mentiond about help with school dinners how do i go about that one?

A_Nice_Englishman

maria932 wrote:

Someone mentiond about help with school dinners how do i go about that one?

Do you mean free school meals? Judging by your address I think you're in Rhondda Cynon Taff. See the Council's website and go to education and Learning, Schools & Colleges. They say:

Free school meals are offered to children of families who are in receipt of Income Support or Income based Job Seekers Allowance, support under part V1 of the Immigration and Asylum Act 1999, Child Tax Credits or Guarantee element of State Pension Credit.

Children who receive IS or IBJSA in their own right are also entitled to receive free school meals.

If you are in receipt of Working Tax Credit or with a total yearly income in excess of £14,155 you are not entitled to free school meals

jen30_2

Hi Maria,

Sorry to hear about your FIL - hope is better soon.

Have paylan phoned yet/ If so how did that go?
Did you ring the court?

Hope you are ok.

dancingfairy

Oh no! I hope things start to get better soon. Hang on in there.

Hugs

maria932

They should be ringing about 7ish.

Found out earlier there is several jobs going with Orange, as I used to work for them and miss working for the company have applied just now on the internet to work there as an Assistant Manager in one of the stores. I really enjoy the technology.

mt fil is out of hospital now but is still really bad, dr's are unsure how long he has left as he has been ill since he was in his twenties. He has deteriated in the last few months.

Mrs_Optimist

Hi Maria

sorry to hear about your FIL - on a brighter note how did you daughter like her first day at school?