Knit Your Square to Give Your Share - PART 4

sock-knitter

hope people dont mind me posting something than is non knitting related
feel like cr*p again, had a child in need meeting which was a total waste of time, as far as i was concerned. just as we were leaving social worker handed me an envelope to read later.
it contained a core assessment, basically details of our family and its problems, basically saying i exagerate the childrens condition, there behaviour is learned from me, i deny my kids pleasurable things, , make them go on family holidays, ( i dont make them, they ask me to book hols, and since wen has family hols been a bad thing) cant bel;ieve all the lies she has put, even about there education, saying i had no interest in the boys education, my boys have over 99% attendance, the highest in there schools, course i'm intesested. there was one day when i was too ill to drive that daniel had to take a bus, and she stated i wouldnt give him the bus money, so he had to use his own, well where does she think he got it from, if not for me.

on top of this daniel has been accepted onto a waiting list for housing, which he wants, so why do i feel guilty, like i've thrown him out or somet.

maybe it is all my fault, i do see a mental health nurse, so social worker constantly reminds me, i'm not a good mum cos of this
feel desperately unhappy
sorry for long post, just needed to tell someone
shaz xxxx

mioliere

Shaz - that is truly shocking, not just the contents of what sounds like a nasty assessment put together by someone who has no idea what they're talking about, but also the fact that you were expected to 'read it later'. What sort of social worker does that? Not one who really cares about the children he/she is supposed to be protecting. You weren't given the chance to read it and respond there and then, and I really am appalled that you are being treated this way. If they were genuinely concerned about the things they have put in the letter, they'd have taken the boys away from you.

As far as Daniel being accepted onto the waiting list for housing, don't feel guilty about this - he's sixteen now and if that's what he wants, there's nothing wrong with that.

I really wish I could come up with some practical and emotional advice for you but what is really important is to reassure yourself that you've done the best you can.

I'm sending you the biggest gentlest hugs.

KathyXX

mioliere

Sounds blissful!

KathyXX

chalky_75 wrote: »

Wooo Hoooo !¬ Mentioned in dispatches. Trust it to be the Tutorial where I got in a right muddle about Single and Double Crochet !! Actually it makes not a scrap of difference but I would hate to confuse any hookers out there!

Well the " boys " have all gone out for a curry and leave for their weekend away in the morning at such times I turn into a ----
A) Non answering door, pyjama clad recluse!
A cheese and pickle sandwich yaffler so that getting food does not disturb me.
C) The untidiest person alive with projects everywhere -- sewing machine out-- wool stash opened!
D) A really late nighter !
E) Phone off the hook!

Then when they all head home I rush around like a mad thing and tidy and with a roast waiting on the table my secret stays safe for another year.
CAN'T WAIT!
Sleep tight everyone x

sock-knitter

morning all, really tired this morn, hardly slept,
off to see my mental health this morning, then off to law centre to see what steps can be taken re social services
chalky enjoy your weekend, sounds heavenlybig hugs all
shaz xxx

mrs-moneypenny

Shaz, im angry and upset for you what a horrible thing for her to write i thought she was supposed to be supporting you and your boys not underminding and belittling you. i also thought it was a contradiction that you didnt organise 'fun' family things yet forced the boys to go on holiday.
I'm sorry to feel so uppset but im glad you feel safe enough in here that you can vent your feelings. sending you massive hugs.

knitted a flag and a cupcake last night. masons school are doing a christmas craft fayre for the pta and as im a governor id better donate some things to it so im going to knit a few cakes, mini stockings and little bas and ask what the pta think will sell the best and do a few more of those. also promised the neigbour hos doing the wishes for kids ill sort some stuff out for her BUT she doesnt know i knit so so far ive been clearing toys etc the kids have outgrown but hardly used on her. i am hoping to knit her a few bits but not sure if they will make that much on bric-a-brac stalls.

chalky sounds like a lovely night i do hope it went as planned

sock-knitter

i'm back from mental health nurse, she was disgusted when she read the report from social services, and has adviced me to ring a solicitor, regards making official complaint
solicitor rung, and appointment made.
now back to knitty or hooky stuff, think it might be a mix of both today. i started a pair of socks for myself ages ago, but they got abandoned in favour of somet else at the time, so they on my to do list, as well as some crochet granny squares, which will eventually be a blanket for a homeless charity
hugs all
and thanks for allowing me to rant when things are bad
your all truly good friends
shaaz xxx

mioliere

Shaz - I can't tell you how relieved I was to read that your mental health nurse could see what was going on, and that she's advised seeing a solicitor. Good luck with the appointment. I'm also so glad that you can post on here when things get so bad; please keep us up to date with things. I'm sure I speak for us all when I say that we are definitely here for you, whenever you need us.

KathyXX

mrs-moneypenny

i totally agree with kathy, i think shes shot herself in the foot putting it in writting (and for your sake im so glad she did as it gives you proof). im glad you are getting professional help via a solicitor with this and im ready glad that your nurse is supporting you in this matter.
It really is NOT ON to be so nasty and hurtful to people

Pippa.S

Hello everyone
Not been in much lately so much going on playing catch up

kathy - did the farmer rescue his horse?
chalky - ooo that sounds wonderful but my cheese sarnies would have tomato on them oo and a box of malteesers would'nt go amiss :rotfl:what a treat
MrsTwins - Shelley - parcels ready to be posted to you tomorrow
mrs-moneypenny - what an awful thing to have happened to your DS, hope he is feeling ok now.

Shaz - I have just read your post and I could'nt believe what I was reading what an awful woman and so hurtful....but at least in one way she has done you a favour you have written proof.Your Mental Health nurse gave you good advice re: the solictor I am so glad you have rung and made the appointment. Don't feel guilty about Daniel wanting to leave home, they all do eventually you know, and he obviously feels ready to strike out on his own

O while I think about it has anyone got a pattern for knitted purses I have crochet ones but fancied a change

Off to make OH a cuppa
Anne
x

Kinsey

I'm sorry I haven't been on here for while, things that can't be put on an open forum but should be back to 'normal' fairly soon. Reading backwards and came your post Shaz and can't keep quiet. What a dreadful woman to tell such lies and actually have the nerve to write them down, no wonder she said to read it later! Who was it got their christmas presents early, then got more presents at christmas? That's right, your boys. Who asks to go on a holiday? You have put your own life on hold many many times to try to help them. I do hope the solicitor can help you. Lots of love and big hugs. xxx

Also big hugs to everyone else, I've missed you all. xxx