Midwife question

emsywoo123

Molly41 wrote: »

. However as a retired midwife now due to ill health

Molly is there anything I can do to fix you and bring you back out of retirement, even if only as my personal midwife :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Molly41

I wish....I'm still coming to terms with the loss of midwifery.Im very sad that I will not catch another baby. It was my vocation. However i also know that the conditions under which I worked very much contributed to my health problems. I regularly worked a 24 hour stretch - clinic and visits during the day and out all night at homebirths. That takes its toll on your health.

Thanks for your lovely comment. I hope all goes well for you xx

emsywoo123

I find it so sad that it was a job you clearly loved, and yet ironically it seems it was that very job that has stopped you from doing it.
You sound like a wonderful person/midwife, and I hope (there must be some surely) that there are some like you still practising.
Or I am doomed LOL

xmaslolly76

Emsywoo there are defiantely lovely midwifes out there who are still working and do a wonderful job unfortuantely there are one or two who tend to just see us as numbers that they have to get rid of as quickly as possible. I'm sure when your time comes you will get a wonderful midwife to help you through the birth if not then speak up and ask for another one it is your right and not everyone is going to get along sometimes personalities clash im sure there is many a midwife who wished they could swap mothers sometimes too :-) x

Molly41

Yes i totally agree the majority are lovely and very competent. Also if you get the option of having a student with you for the birth take up that option if you feel comfortable. They will stick with you and the constant support of another empathetic woman in labour is the best way of having a normal labour and delivery. One on one care is the way to go but unfortunately there are not enough midwives around to guarantee that. However having a student can help. Many thanks for your kind comments - the irony of my situation is not lost on me. There is a very high rate of midwives leaving the profession due to ill health and stress. The NHS is VERY BAD at caring for their own staff.

emsywoo123

Oh yes, I do not mid a student tagging along The way I see it, we all have to learn at our chosen proffesion, and hands on has got to be the best way for them. And I remember from DD, all inhibitions lost LOL so what's one more into the mix of people seeing me bits and bobs :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I'm probably just a bit low as I think I had exceptional care with DD and the whole midwifery team, I guess it's just luck of the draw!

inkie

I too left the profession as after having my own children it was impossible to be able to arrange childcare based on the fact that you may be called out/may not be. I returned to a senior nurse manager's position with more predictable hours, but I loved Midwifery. Now i'm a minister of religion and so instead of catching the babies, do the christenings lol!!

xmaslolly76

I second the student midwife my second was delivered by one (she wasnt meant to but by the time the midwife got there it was all over) she was fabulous and never left my side and i sent her a big bunch of flowers after. It is a crying shame that the full midwives just dont have the time to do what the students can and be there constantly :-)

samandona

pixieface wrote: »

Comments like that really annoy me!!! try working as a midwife doing 12 hour shifts and dangerous levels of staffing, busy antenatal clinics that run over all the time, dealing with not only women who think pregnancy is an illness but with drug/alcohol dependant women..... oh and not forgetting the high risk cases and then you can comment!! MIDWIVES ARE HUMANS TOO AND DESERVE TO BE STRETCHED OUT ON AN EFFING BEACH AT TIMES!!!!! :mad::mad::mad:

So as the recipient of poor midwifery care in a high-risk first pregnancy I am now allowed to comment because I havn't been a midwife myself?

Please explain.

clairec79

She is not saying that there shouldn't be cover in place, but don't slag off the midwife for having her holidays

I'm sorry for those who have received bad care I am sorry, but the majority of us come into this profession because we care

Not having a contact number outside Mon-Fri 9-5 is plain wrong, there should be a 24hour contact number - either the unit themselves who can get in contact with a midwife on call (because someone always is) or mobile numbers of the team - some have one on call number and divert it to whoever is on call