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Help overcome paranoia
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euronorris wrote: »I rather like you too!
:rotfl: I've seen you give some great advice and suggestions before. So yes, let's agree to disagree on this one.
awww thats so cute:silenced:They Were Up In Arms wrote: »I think tabskitten is a crying, walking, sleeping, talking, living troll :cool:0 -
WEll, at least you seem to have accepted that this behaviour of yours is not normal or helpful. It makes your girlfriend unhappy (oh yes it does) and you are not happy either, are you.
Why do you act this way? To be honest, I think the previous girlfriend issue is a red-herring. Lots of people go through that without reacting in this extreme way. Could it be that you drove her off by acting in this way?
It could be a sign of chemical-inbalance mental illness. It could be a learned pattern of behaviour. It could be a different type of mental illness. IT could be a sign of smoking far too much dope and getting the paras. It could just be that you are a controlling !!!!. We on this forum don't know why.
As your behaviour is right at the limits of tipping into criminal activity - and is 100% guaranteed to lose you any woman you have a relationship with - you need to sort it out ASAP. As it's a behavioural/mental illness problem (whatever the cause) I'd head off to the doctors and ask for help.Cash not ash from January 2nd 2011: £2565.:j
OU student: A103 , A215 , A316 all done. Currently A230 all leading to an English Literature degree.
Any advice given is as an individual, not as a representative of my firm.0 -
Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »
I hope you can get the help and stop such destructive behaviour, as it is creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. You fear losing someone, so you behave in a way guaranteed to either drive them away or at worst, fall foul of most definitions of domestic abuse.
You need to stop now.
Good luck.
examples from my last relationship
Phone constantly checked - he denied it but he did. So I used to leave it OUT FOR him to save him rifling through my bag to get it...if he didn't recognise contacts he would askl who they were - and a female name was no defence.
I would NEVER EVER answer the house phone if he was in - just saved hassle.
(His working day was 6am - 2pm) He would come home, eat and got to bed. So, in summer I often picked the kids up from school and went to the park for an hour to give him peace and quiet - and he queried where I was and who with - erm park with kids...
My mum texted me once when he was in bed (8pm because he had to be up for work early) - clearly not asleep because he came down, asked who i was texting, showed him phone which he looked at so I deleted text. Apparently he was so het up he didn't read the text properly and STILL accused me of having texts 'from him' (there was no 'him'.)
And the day I rang him, at work to find something out -he was here within 15 minutes, having 'clocked off' and losing pay - because I was checking that he was at work because I had someone here...no I didn't!
he accused me of 'sleeping with' (among others) my brother in law, my neighbour who is about 15 years younger than me and married to a beautiful woman.
In the end I read him the riot act - either he sorted his head out or I would be leaving him, because I could NOT live under constant suspicion.
We divorced in 2005.
So you either modify your behaviour or drive her away. because OP no two ways about it you are guilty of mental cruelty.
And, incidentally, more than one person, on finding out what I had been put through, asked me if he was mentally ill.Don't put it DOWN; put it AWAY"I would like more sisters, that the taking out of one, might not leave such stillness" Emily DickinsonJanice 1964-2016
Thank you Honey Bear0 -
OP from a different perspective, have you checked that 1. You are not drinking too much alcohol/coffee and 2. You are getting enough sleep? These things can make a big difference to how rationally you see the world.
You must be exhausted with this constant vigilance.Please do not confuse me with other gratefulsforhelp. x0 -
s'a booger this paranoia...
someone's following me round the forums!Don't put it DOWN; put it AWAY"I would like more sisters, that the taking out of one, might not leave such stillness" Emily DickinsonJanice 1964-2016
Thank you Honey Bear0 -
You're following me :rotfl:You must be procrastinating over your marking too :eek:Please do not confuse me with other gratefulsforhelp. x0
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