dress codes

skintchick

If it's a birthday they obviously want to make it a bit special so have given a perfectly reasonable dress code. glamorous just means make an effort and flats can be glam too. OP, you do sound a miseryguts! I'm sure they will be glad if you don;t go, with that attitude.

Any

skintchick wrote: »

If it's a birthday they obviously want to make it a bit special so have given a perfectly reasonable dress code. glamorous just means make an effort and flats can be glam too. OP, you do sound a miseryguts! I'm sure they will be glad if you don;t go, with that attitude.

Well put :T

euronorris

Is there any reason why you can't just show up wearing what you're comfortable in? I know they've stipulated the dress code on the invite, but I doubt they would turn you away at the door if you weren't wearing the 'right' clothes.

onlyroz

I think the person hosting the party has the right to stipulate any dress code. If you don't agree with it then don't go.

At my own wedding I was perfectly happy for the best man to be wearing shorts. My mum, on the other hand, was not so pleased - but then again it wasn't her wedding...

adouglasmhor

red_devil wrote: »

sorry shirt and black tie for men.

Sounds like they are getting confused with "black tie", dullards. Black ties are for funerals, black tie is for other occasions.
I think they mean Planters (no you do not dress as a peanut). Either way Smart casual would have been fine.

jimbms

I would be very tempted to wear shorts and flipflops

jenhug

glamorous to me means wearing something other than tracksuit bottoms!

liney

jimbms wrote: »

I would be very tempted to wear shorts and flipflops

Everyone is entitled to their own tastes and has activities they enjoy. If the person giving the party would like everyone to dress up, then that's up to them, and you should respect their views or not go! You don't have to go, but at their house and their party, you do have to respect their decisions.

I'd go as far as to say that a dress code could be considered a condition of the invitation. They probably wouldn't turn you away, just view you as abit of a xxob, for spoiling the effect they tried to create.

trixietoes

It sounds like the OP was looking for everyone to berate their 'friend' and I say friend in the loosest sense as they are clearly not friends. It hasn't happened so they are getting a bit uptight!

Like people have said... of you don't want to play by their rules then don't go!!!

SugarSpun

I'm in the "if you don't like it, don't go" group too - I'd love to be able to wear a dress and a pair of pretty shoes for a summer party because I so rarely get the chance.

I'm also in the group that would be mortified to think that someone I'd invited to share my birthday party was slagging off my choices on the internet because they thought I was showing off for wanting my birthday party to be a bit special.

Dressing up for me is something you do on special occasions and to show respect for other people's special occasions. A birthday would most definitely qualify. I wouldn't turn up in ballgown and diamonds to a paintballing party - but I also wouldn't think of underdressing just because I thought my hosts were a bit Hyacinth Bucket. I'd just send a birthday card with a message inside along the lines of, Sorry I can't be there, I hope it's a wonderful party.