Weekly Flylady Thread 31st May 2010

carol22_2

Hi everyone,

I've got a few important things done from my list today, and a lot of revision done, so a fairly productive day really!

Toots if I forget to say, enjoy your retreat, I'm sure it will be wonderfully relaxing! My exams are going okay, 3 left now! Still slightly rushed and panicky with packing and cleaning and everything, but getting there!

Lady-L thanks for the message from Diva, and lots of hugs to you and to her. Super-healthy vibes for you, and for the MRI on Friday.

Jojo that sounds awful. I don't know what to say, just lots of hugs and I hope everything gets sorted out.

Hex I agree with greenbee - chitty chitty bang bang just once would be enough to pay off any karmic debt! I hope tomorrow goes well.

I can't remember anything else, but hugs, vibes and Happy Birthdays as appropriate!
xxx

sexymouse

Lady-Liberty wrote: »

Sexy Thanks for thinking of me this morning you should have mentioned your "venue" problem ..... just because I have a lot going on doesn't mean I can't be there for you xx

Thanks LadyL - all sorted now though. Hopefully going to visit venue (my Mum has insisted we should look around as things may have changed since my friend had her reception there) with Moon on Friday if they are able to let us, so that we can deliver the deposit and have a look around and ask questions about layout and hwo the afternoon tea will be served etc. Cowdray Park Golf Club is where we will be having it. Will be thinking of you on Friday too. Let me know if there's anything I can do.

Well I'm off to bed now as I've been feeling a bit strange and dizzy all day - the type of feeling you get when you're a bit tipsy but in a bad way - think it may be side effects of coming off my antianxiety medication - this is day 2 without them, and although I've followed the doctor's advice on how to come off them, it does say you can still have withdrawal symptoms for a few days after stopping them.

Hugs to all who need or want them.

sexymouse xx

Dustykitten

Soappie - I'm glad BB is ok, poor love - rump steak for her tomorrow

LadyLiberty thinking of you and keeping everything crossed for Friday

Toots have a wonderful time at your retreat

Diva healing vibes for you

Hex - keeping everything crossed that things work out for you

Bed for me. Sleep tight all

msgnomey

LOL at Flayladies Mags_cat, you must be working too hard (I see Potters Bar has started...at long last)

have spent ages on the phone to my lil sis (my nephew has finally been diagnosed with Aspergers and lil sis is getting used to the idea, school are not much help... but other sis also has a DS with Aspergers and as SENCO I've taught /dealt with quite a few children with Aspergers too so she was having a bit of a rant) so no further reports written but will crack on with a few more tomorrow, she needed me more than my reports did!

have s&s in the bathroom and kitchen LR looking good too

will wait with baited breath to see what to do tomorrow!!

MrsChaos

Valli wrote: »

shurrup toots...
*looks guilty*

(((hugs Jo-jo)))

I second both! Just lost a long post thanks to my dodgy internet connection and can't be bothered to remember it all.

Toots - that place looks lovely. You deserve a wonderful and peaceful time there.
Hex - hope it sorts itself out.
JoJo - sounds like an awful muddle. I hope you can find your way through.

Good-night all! x

kazmeister

Just a catch up as last one tonight

Jojo - massive hugs for a horrible situation

toots - thanks for the babywipes tip. Enjoy your retreat.

hex - are you ok? Glad Tiger returned

LadyLib - nice to see you posting, hugs for you. Thanks for the message about Diva. Good luck for Friday

soappie - glad BB's lump was only a wart

sexy - take it easy if coming off the meds.

Is there a list for tomorrow yet, will check in a min. I still have plenty of alternatives to do though

I'll say goodnight for now as I might just start the finances

:hello:

greenbee

I've just sorted my page on justgiving for this weekend's 26 mile walk if anyone has some spare cash for Naomi House...

At least it's one thing done from my list...

pigpen

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

was going quite well today - DW, WM, kitchen, driving lesson etc, then a letter came through the door.

DD1's father is trying to claim child benefit for her, as he has told her she can have his wife's old car and they will give her a lump sum of every penny of child benefit and tax credit they receive for her as a present when she goes to University, if she refuses to come back here.

I suspect this is in retaliation to the CSA deciding last week that they would take him to court for nonpayment of maintenance for the last heaven-knows-how-many years.

That and the fact that she is a singularly unpleasant brat these days and a testament to what you get from full on attachment parenting, who cannot function without her boyfriend attached to her person at all times, cannot manage to attend college, will not be going to university because she hasn't bothered handing in coursework for her AS levels and speaks only in baby talk 'cos iii's weally ickle an mi dada's bubba'. :mad:

Oh, and I had to throw my lovely boyfriend out because she had told her tutor (to get out of trouble for skivving) that he was a violent alcoholic who she was terrified of. All untrue, but the tutor fell for the poor baby act and was starting to ask questions about how safe DD2 was and whether she needed to instigate child protection proceedings.

GRrrrrrrrrr!

And DD2 has just announced that DD1 had started punching her in the head and trying to suffocate her when she was here, so she doesn't want her back anyway.

AAAAAGGGGGHHHH!!!! Why did she not tell me this before?

noone ever said they get easier as they get bigger.

As I found out with DS1 there comes a time when you have to accept that the offspring is having a toxic effect on your life and the lives of the other people in your home, namely DD2.

As someone who has had to allow her oldest child to walk away and face the consequences of his own actions and deal with his own issues and inadequacies I know first hand how hard it is. There is only so much of yourself you can sacrifice and only so much you can give before you start becoming a victim of their destruction.

Let her go. Let her dad deal with some of her behaviour.. he may not be doing her any favours but one or both of them will wise up pretty quickly and they have to live with this, not you. You have given her the best start, the best opportunities and she has thrown them back in your face. letting her go is probably the hardest thing you have had to do because you know it won't be pretty but she has to learn for herself and from her own mistakes. Some people are just like that.. usually the more intelligent (supposedly) the worse they are..

You will miss her, and then you won't, and you'll feel bad because you think you should.. you have your own sanity and DD2's safety to consider.

it gets easier.. promise you!!

As for her dad.. karma is a rough cosmic justice meted out at inopportune moments.. he will get his sooner or later.. smile and wait for it to hit.

kazmeister

just bringing list forward while I take 5 from the finances

Bank Holiday Monday ~ Bits of not very much!
Level One
Wash the manky windows you have ignored every week it has been on the extras!
Level Two
Get your spreadsheets/budgetting/insurances etc up to date. - now doing
Level Three
Tidy one cupboard..
Extras
Ring/visit a friend or relly you haven't seen/spoken to in a while!
Binbag dance
Tuesday ~ Living room, hall and stairs!
Level One
Level Two
Level Three
Wash front door.. both sides!
Extras
Clean the car.. inside and out.. get the minions to help (or do it for you!) I am sooo hoping Dh is washing it tonight- No he wasnt as far too busy
Empty and tidy out a grotty cupboard!
HHI - my clothes this morning, DS' Dobok this evening, halfway there maybe
Wednesday ~ Bedroom & Landing
Level One
Open the window and air the room
Strip off smelly bedding and sling it in the wash
Level Two
Vacuum the mattress and air the duvet
remake bed with the clean bedding
Put the floordrobe in the wardrobe
Find 10 things to get rid of!.. no men/women/children/pets
Level Three
[STRIKE]Vacuum the landing[/STRIKE] and bedroom.. [STRIKE]starting at the bottom of the stairs!!!! [/STRIKE]
Remove anything that should be elsewhere.. your bedroom is NOT a shed!! I could argue that mine is
Remove some dust bunnies and wipe over the light shades
Extras
Wash any curtains that need doing
binbag dance
Clean the windows
[STRIKE]15 minutes sort out of the landing gibble.. see if you can find something to rehome![/STRIKE] sorted today

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Thanks, Piggers...

She can forget about sloping round here when she wants some money now...I shall be permanently broke from now on where she is concerned.

But I did forward on proof from her college to her stepmother that the ungrateful moo did not bother with her AS levels (boyfriend doesn't have lessons on Fridays - the deadline for the coursework) and gave her the password for the college attendance records, which show the wretched girl's attendance to be abysmal.

So - their first foray into parenting her will be finding out that 'dada's bubba' has taken the bus fare and their presents 'for doing all your exams' (well now you know different, don't you?) smiling off into the distance "for college", then turns around at the end of the road and goes straight to her boyfriend's house instead.


I hope they enjoy it. Because I certainly didn't.