Weekly Flylady Thread 31st May 2010

mummyslittleboy

Thanks to everyone that replied about my overflow got someone coming to look at it as you cant get out of the back door when it is going as it is just to the side above the door and you would get burnt thankfully it has finally stopped but dont want it to go again when one of the little ones are walking into the garden so going to see what can be done.

pigpen wrote: »

noone ever said they get easier as they get bigger.

As I found out with DS1 there comes a time when you have to accept that the offspring is having a toxic effect on your life and the lives of the other people in your home, namely DD2.

As someone who has had to allow her oldest child to walk away and face the consequences of his own actions and deal with his own issues and inadequacies I know first hand how hard it is. There is only so much of yourself you can sacrifice and only so much you can give before you start becoming a victim of their destruction.

Let her go. Let her dad deal with some of her behaviour.. he may not be doing her any favours but one or both of them will wise up pretty quickly and they have to live with this, not you. You have given her the best start, the best opportunities and she has thrown them back in your face. letting her go is probably the hardest thing you have had to do because you know it won't be pretty but she has to learn for herself and from her own mistakes. Some people are just like that.. usually the more intelligent (supposedly) the worse they are..

You will miss her, and then you won't, and you'll feel bad because you think you should.. you have your own sanity and DD2's safety to consider.

it gets easier.. promise you!!

As for her dad.. karma is a rough cosmic justice meted out at inopportune moments.. he will get his sooner or later.. smile and wait for it to hit.

I couldn't agree more jojo my thoughts are with you I know it is hard at the moment but you do need to think of yourself as well.

You spend years doing your best for them and for some of them it's just not enough no matter what, It is hard to let go but I will say it is also sometimes worth it for your own health and well being and i have to agree with pigpen it does get easier hun.

pigpen

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Thanks, Piggers...

She can forget about sloping round here when she wants some money now...I shall be permanently broke from now on where she is concerned.

But I did forward on proof from her college to her stepmother that the ungrateful moo did not bother with her AS levels (boyfriend doesn't have lessons on Fridays - the deadline for the coursework) and gave her the password for the college attendance records, which show the wretched girl's attendance to be abysmal.

So - their first foray into parenting her will be finding out that 'dada's bubba' has taken the bus fare and their presents 'for doing all your exams' (well now you know different, don't you?) smiling off into the distance "for college", then turns around at the end of the road and goes straight to her boyfriend's house instead.


I hope they enjoy it. Because I certainly didn't.

Just be there to offer a supportive word or helpful bit of advice WHEN SHE ASKS.. don't volunteer anything else... as hard as that is..

that said DS1 has had my advice rammed in every orifive regarding Jacob.. they are just silly with him in many respects!

kalojac

Morning All,

Thank you very much as usual for the motivational thread Toots, Soapie and Pigpen.:T

Sorry not posted again for a while, think I am going to just have to post when I can. I am in Scotland and we've only got 1 month left of the school term, so the last 2 weeks and the next 4 will/have just been chaos. I am never in, so you'd think the house would be clean, but its the complete opposite. I think its because its a case of running in to the house dumping stuff we've just used, picking up stuff for the next task etc and back out again, and my house is in dire need of a could Level 1, 2 & 3 for about a fortnight to get back up to a habitable state:rotfl:. Hope everyone is well will try and catch up with this weeks posts today, luv Kalojac x

Bank Holiday Monday ~ Bits of not very much!
Level One
[STRIKE]S&S kitchen
[/STRIKE]Wash the manky windows you have ignored every week it has been on the extras!
Level Two
[STRIKE]Bake a cake or prepare a meal you've never done before[/STRIKE]
Catch up on the laundry/ironing/filing.. or whatever else you have been neglecting!
[STRIKE]Get your spreadsheets/budgetting/insurances etc up to date.[/STRIKE]
Level Three
Empty and wash out the bins
Tidy one cupboard.. any cupboard bt opening one which is already tidy and saying you did that one is not good enough

Extras

1. Clean out smelly pets
2. Ring/visit a friend or relly you haven't seen/spoken to in a while!
3. Binbag dance
4. SOAADFA .. I know you like this one!.. Go enjoy your day!

Tuesday ~ Living room, hall and stairs!
Level One
Declutter floors and vacuum them
Dust and deweb
Level Two
Vacuum under furniture you can safely move
Clean and tidy the porch!
Clean Living Room Toybox
Level Three
Sort coats and bags and shoes.. esp. school bags!
Wash front door.. both sides!
[STRIKE]Make any important appointments you have been putting off.. smear? Dentist? hairdresser.. whatever![/STRIKE]

Extras

1. Clean the car.. inside and out.. get the minions to help (or do it for you!)
2. Empty and tidy out a grotty cupboard!
3. HHI
4. Wash any smelly soft furnishings!

Wednesday ~ Bedroom & Landing (desperately needs doing!!)
Level One
Open the window and air the room
Strip off smelly bedding and sling it in the wash
Level Two
Vacuum the mattress and air the duvet
remake bed with the clean bedding
[STRIKE]Put the floordrobe in the wardrobe[/STRIKE]
Find 10 things to get rid of!.. no men/women/children/pets
Level Three
Vacuum the landing and bedroom.. starting at the bottom of the stairs!!!!
[STRIKE]Remove anything that should be elsewhere.. your bedroom is NOT a shed!![/STRIKE] OH is working from home the next couple of months, so he's done a good job clearing out all the rubbish from our room, it really surprised me how good a job he's done, love the "office area".
Remove some dust bunnies and wipe over the light shades
Extras

1. Wash any curtains that need doing
2. binbag dance
3. Clean the windows
4. 15 minutes sort out of the landing gibble.. see if you can find something to rehome! I might find one of my kids in some of my many piles of gibble :mad:

kassey

Morning everyone
Wednesday ~ Bedroom & Landing
Level One
Open the window and air the room
Strip off smelly bedding and sling it in the wash
Level Two
Vacuum the mattress and air the duvet
remake bed with the clean bedding
Put the floordrobe in the wardrobe
Find 10 things to get rid of!.. no men/women/children/pets
Level Three
Vacuum the landing and bedroom.. starting at the bottom of the stairs!!!!
Remove anything that should be elsewhere.. your bedroom is NOT a shed!!
Remove some dust bunnies and wipe over the light shades
Extras

1. Wash any curtains that need doing
2. binbag dance
3. Clean the windows
4. 15 minutes sort out of the landing gibble.. see if you can find something to rehome!

cyclingyorkie

morning all!

up early as didn't do any washing yesterday on account of the rain...only to find out at 10.30pm that DS had another shift today and had no clean uniform:rotfl:.

L-L - good to see you posting - you are in my thoughts as always - as are the other poorlies.

Did tons of ironing yesterday - gave my steam generator a good workout and can happily report that it is up to the job:T:T. I will reach the bottom of the pile!

Hugs to Jo-jo - not a good situation but Piggers and others are correct - there is only so much you can do and sometimes you have to draw the line and stand back. Let her dad deal with it - see how he likes it!

gunsandbanjos

Morning ladies,

Hugs Jo, Hex, Lady L (nice to see you posting, and thank you for the update on Diva), and not forgetting the lovely Toots:A

Glad it is just a wart Soappie, give BB lots of cuddles from us.

Will try and be more productive today, was feeling rubbish yesterday and had a 2 hour nap as i couldnt keep my eyes open:eek:

Hope everyone else is ok.

catznine

Bank Holiday Monday ~ Bits of not very much!
Level One
[STRIKE]S&S kitchen
[/STRIKE]Wash the manky windows you have ignored every week it has been on the extras!
Level Two
[STRIKE]Bake a cake or prepare a meal you've never done before
Catch up on the laundry/ironing/filing.. or whatever else you have been neglecting!
[/STRIKE]Get your spreadsheets/budgetting/insurances etc up to date.
Level Three
[STRIKE]Empty and wash out the bins
Tidy one cupboard.. any cupboard bt opening one which is already tidy and saying you did that one is not good enough
[/STRIKE]
Extras

1. Clean out smelly pets
2. [STRIKE]
   
3. Ring/visit a friend or relly you haven't seen/spoken to in a while!
4. [/STRIKE]Binbag dance
5. [STRIKE]
   
6. SOAADFA .. I know you like this one!.. Go enjoy your day!
7. [/STRIKE]
8. Tuesday ~ Living room, hall and stairs!
   Level One
   [STRIKE]Declutter floors and vacuum them
   Dust and deweb
   [/STRIKE]
9. Level Two
   [STRIKE]Vacuum under furniture you can safely move
   Clean and tidy the porch!
   Clean fire and surround
   [/STRIKE]
10. Level Three
    Sort coats and bags and shoes.. esp. school bags!
    Wash front door.. both sides!
    Make any important appointments you have been putting off.. smear? Dentist? hairdresser.. whatever!
    
    Extras
11. Clean the car.. inside and out.. get the minions to help (or do it for you!)
12. Empty and tidy out a grotty cupboard!
13. [STRIKE] HHI [/STRIKE]
14. Wash any smelly soft furnishings!

Wednesday ~ Bedroom & Landing
Level One
[STRIKE]Open the window and air the room
Strip off smelly bedding and sling it in the wash
[/STRIKE]
Level Two
Vacuum the mattress and air the duvet
remake bed with the clean bedding
Put the floordrobe in the wardrobe
Find 10 things to get rid of!.. no men/women/children/pets
Level Three
Vacuum the landing and bedroom.. starting at the bottom of the stairs!!!!
Remove anything that should be elsewhere.. your bedroom is NOT a shed!!
Remove some dust bunnies and wipe over the light shades
Extras

1. Wash any curtains that need doing
2. binbag dance
3. Clean the windows
4. 15 minutes sort out of the landing gibble.. see if you can find something to rehome!

Managed to make some bread rolls and bake some cookies yesterday as well as spending some time gardening before the rain. Not sure how much I will get done today as it is toddler group and I help with the teas and coffees. Still something is def better than nothing! This thread is making me get up and make a start! Thanks guys!:T

MrsChaos

Morning all

It's going to be a busy one here. I'm taking DS1 to college this morning (some kind of assessment for the course he is starting in September) and then I will probably pop into town with DS2 for a haircut and to have his shoes checked.
Hoping to fly this afternoon, as we should be back by lunchtime. The weather forecast looks promising from today, so playhouse and planting could be on the cards.

LadyLib - nice to hear from you and best wishes for Friday.
Have a good day, everyone. x

MummyOfTwo

morning ladies - had a rubbish start this week but i intend to get caught up today as im off work. need to work out something to do with the kids this afternoon... bloody half term!!!

kazmeister

Morning ladies

Beautiful and sunny here today so really want to spend it in the garden but still have rooms in the house looking like a bear pit.

Might just go and change the bedding before DH gets into it after night shift.

At the moment he is peeling and boiling potatoes so that I can fry them for a tatarey treat for breakfast

Did most of the finances last night, just the cash receipts to do then thats another thing off the list.

Thats it for now